Probably like most men i wondered onto this site because 1. i wasn't getting enough sex and 2. i was tired of the constant arguing and bullshit that was occurring. When i first got on the sites i gravitated to the post about sex and dread and how to increase your % of getting laid!!! The more i read the more i found myself less worried about getting laid, and more worried about how i was living my life, to the point i found myself not worried about my ltr and obsessed over how i was handling my life. I think the eyes wide open moment is when i realized that the goal was not to get laid but to gain back my man hood and handle my shit and get myself in order(which by the way i am a long fucking way from doing but everyday is a new challenge) to lead the ship as i have read... Getting laid is just a nice side effect of reclaiming all of that ...........i.e. she now wants to fuck me because i am the man she wants, not the fat-ass beta pussy she was married to. Just wondering if this is how it went for most of you guys or is getting fucked the main point and i am totally of the fucking rails ?!?!