Brief background: My wife and I have been married for 10 years. About three years ago she got fed up with the drunk captain and pretty much checked out of the marriage emotionally. We tried counselling etc which was just a waste of time and money.
I’ve been a little more than two months Married Red Pill and have been implementing my MAP very methodically. I’ve made good progress with leading, holding frame, responding to shit tests, getting in shape, and owning my own shit in general. The advice in response to my OYS posts has been very valuable.
The effect of my MAP in the short term has been to destabilize my shitty marriage, which may have been too far gone for all of this to have a positive effect. My wife has started sleeping in the guest bedroom, and we have very little interaction other than discussing logistics. There is zero physical affection shown between us other than the occasional platonic hug.
Late last week my wife called and made an appointment with a divorce lawyer (I saw this on our cell phone bill online). Today after she dropped off our youngest at pre-school, she called and told me she was on her way to an “interview”. She made it sound like a job interview, but I’m sure she is interviewing the divorce lawyer.
Do I call her out on this, (I hate being misled) and ask her how the appointment with the lawyer went? Or do I adhere to Outcome Indifference and let the chips fall where they may, and if she files, she files. Should I go and get my own lawyer so I'm ready if/when she files?