I am seeing how to apply NMMNG and WISNIFG and it's been great. I'm unsure of the situation I'm in now though. My wife has noticed a change. Last night I suprised her with going dancing and she was shit testing like craxy... I tried to STFU and it worked pretty good, I could see her defences melt as I got her on the dance floor and led her through being shy and got her to open up and have a great time. But today I'm needing advice with STFU... She wanted money because she has called out of work and didn't make enough for stuff she wants, I told her I know how it feels to fall short on cash but I wouldn't be able to lend her any money. Then she asked why I'm not answering her calls when I'm at work or why I can't give her money. She keeps demanding an explanation for my actions, and I try STFU instead of giving an explanation and she just gets more passed and demanding more. She demands to know why I won't give her money, why I am not texting her like crazy or calling her all the time... I am texting for logistics only, and talking to her and joking at home and at work... but she's began shit testing like mad. I offered for her to go to my buddy's house with me and she said she's gonna stay at home and I said OK no problem. I've been vague about my weekend plans and she doesn't like not knowing exactly what I'm going to do and when.
It's apparent I've conditioned her it's expected that I explain all of my actions, she knows everything I do, and she is allowed to judge if what I'm doing is worthy. This is my fault and I see that now.
My question is when she is literally demanding I explain to her why I am doing something, or I tell her what I'm doing... and she continues on and on and on about it... I don't know how to respond... I tried STFU, she was like so your not going to answer my question or what, and I said no... and she said, we'll why not! And I said I don't want to...
She says your never to busy at work to talk, what are you doing that all of a sudden you can't talk, and I say I'm working... she says, doing what? I say working... then she demands to know what, I stop answering, then the are you just not answering me now questions begin...
I went as far as to say I don't owe you an answer to why I am busy... she was not happy. I got hung up on...
She said I'm texting her wierd, talking to her wierd, is there something I need to tell her, then proceeds to call me 9 times in a row.
I think the hamster is strong now... but an understanding of wtf this creature is doing and why and what are good responses would be appreciated
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