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To threesome or not to threesome?

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April 12, 2017
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My wife and I are planning on meeting an attractive girl for lunch this weekend and having a threesome at our place after. I've convinced my wife of this to the point of her questioning whether or not she's bisexual. As alpha as it sounds to be able to dominate two women at once, deep down inside of me I know that this is nothing more than lust overcoming me. I could either have the threesome and potentially jeopardize the health of my marriage (we may hate it and fight, she may like it to the point of lusting after other women) or I could cancel the plans and continue building a wholesome life with my wife.

I don't have any feelings of guilt, I'm just not sure about giving in on feelings of lust and fantasy. I don't watch porn because I find it degenerative and not glorious - should I feel the same way about this?

All thoughts appreciated.


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Title To threesome or not to threesome?
Author 7rbdixi3i2jskak
Upvotes 7
Comments 21
Date 12 April 2017 08:56 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/206289
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/650yhv/to_threesome_or_not_to_threesome/
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[–]A_RexRED KNIGHT5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

r/RedPillNonmonogamy

Go there. It's low traffic, but those Guys know their shit and approach from an RP perspective. Open relationships and shit like this will be tricky, as they'll tell you. You're going to have to maintain frame and OI like never before, and communicate more than is commonly suggested here.

Ask yourself this - are you willing to let your marriage go if this happens and you OR wife can't handle the fallout? Are you willing to do the MFM she's likely to ask for in return? Or let her fuck Chad the personal trainer as a "thank you"? Answer these, and then ask the guys in the other sub.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret4 points5 points  (8 children) | Copy

There are very few cars in the world that have three wheels, and it is with a good reason.

I've convinced my wife of this to the point of her questioning whether or not she's bisexual

I've convinced coerced my wife of this to the point of her questioning whether or not she's bisexual

If you have read up on it extensively you will have seen that if both of you are not equally eager for this then there is always a chance of it turning out bad.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

So, you're saying he should try to get into a 4-way?

[–]atlhartRed Beret2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

I think your point by is strong, but your analogy is terrible. There's plenty of three wheeled vehicles, including autos. It's just not the majority.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I stand corrected, it turns out there are more three wheeled cars than I thought.

[–]downvotesanimals1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not to mention nearly all cars are 4 wheeled.

[–]drty_prRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude. You have no kids and you're 22. What's the worst case scenario? You bang 2 chicks and find out your wife is a dyke? Better to know now than catching her with your sister after you already pumped 2 kids into her.

But what really matters is what u/The_Litz said. Do what the fuck you want. Not what you think you should want because of a flawed perspective of sexuality due to years of porn. If you don't want it, bail. Fuck social expectations. The only persons happiness who should matter here is the same person who's happiness is always paramount. YOU

[–]Sapphire_Jizz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you DO decide to go through with it...

You have to have a diamond frame. Do not show any doubt, hesitation, or guilt. If your wife gets a mere whiff that you're having second thoughts, her hamster will take it and build a nuclear bomb.

You must be focused, calm, fun, and totally in the moment if you do go through with it. Have a nice, flirty lunch. Get the women talking and bonding over common interests. Treat your wife like your wife (you know what that entails), treat the other girl like a plate (i.e., not at the status of your wife).

When it comes down to the act, I'd say pretend you're 8 years old and horsing around with two cute classmates of yours during recess. Totally fun, 'innocent' (i.e. zero hang-ups or judgment), in the moment, care-free, etc. etc. You must lead both of them.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

just be ready when she wants to fuck another dude in a threesome or else you'll come off has a hypocritic bitch.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't do it because of WILYFAG. It will come back to haunt you. I did it a few times. It's all good until one day your wife is in a shitty mood, she says "well I let you fuck another girl (WILYFAG)" as her leverage for EVERYTHING. She wants a new watch.. "WILYFAG", weekend away with the girls "WILYFAG" her mother to move in for a few months "WILYFAG", lunch with a male coworker "WIYFAG". You get the idea, DO NOT DO IT. It is not worth it, you are giving her an excuse to act like a cunt for life and guess what the answer will ALWAYS be "WILYFAG".

[–]Big_Daddy_PDX0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just buyers remorse. You're surprised it's actually going to happen and now you're nervous. Just go through with it and see how you end up.
It works best when the girls are relaxed and friendly. Order a round of mimosas to take the edge off. Talk privately w/ your girl about an overall plan where you'll have more focus on your playmate on the front and then shift more to her afterward (aftercare). Don't force the situation of the girls doing things. That will usually unfold naturally. For me, some of my best threesomes turned into ducking one girl's brains out while the other one watches/participates and hen swap back and forth. Great times.

[–]plein_old0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you're looking for extra validation (or lust / fantasy fulfillment) then you're probably acting based on unconscious motivations that will not necessarily bring joy or fulfillment into your life.

If your marriage is strong & committed but slightly stale, then you might look for things to spice it up, things to experiment with.

It's like cooking. You have to have a sense for what is needed.

Overall it sounds like you're looking for us to give you permission to do something you're not sure about.

[–]BobbyPeru0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I've convinced my wife of this to the point of her questioning whether or not she's bisexual

Or perhaps you got her comfortable enough to admit it. It would be helpful if you gave more details the process of convincing her and how she responded along way.

she may like it to the point of lusting after other women

Way more downside potential upside if this is the case. I'd ask some strategic questions over the next few days, and her response should be telling if you do it right.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Go and fuck it up, because you will. Then you have a great story for whomever youre with in the future.

Youre 22, itll be ok

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just from your uncertainty alone I would tell you back out of this. Your frame has to be rock fucking solid to make this go down without any blowback. You think managing one bitch is hard? Managing two of them and maneuvering them into bed together with no emotional issues after is a fucking herculean task. From personal experience I can tell you it is possible, but not easy at all.



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