You can look at my post history for the context.
Basically, scarcity mentality led me to attempt to stay with my unfaithful wife because it was "easier" instead of owning my shit and dealing with the fallout. So, last week I moved out and will likely serve her papers within a month.
I might end up going bankrupt from the divorce, but that's better than giving more of my life/time to a woman that demonstrated exactly how little she thought of me for nearly an entire year.
I have a very marketable skill, so even if I go bankrupt and lose my security clearance and I'm not able to retire from the military, I have plenty of experience to get out and get a good job. I have other skills I can use to make extra cash on the side when I have time (auto repair, computer repair, cell phone repair) in order to keep from going bankrupt.
I have options. The world is full of opportunities that can never be found if you choose to remain at a dead end.
My biggest fear in all of this was having that toxic relationship with my ex-wife that everyone always talks about and I wanted to avoid that, but I realize now I'm only half of that equation and it was going to happen anyways whether I divorce her now or later. I thought that staying with her to get rid of the debt might allow us to reach some sort of amicable middle ground, but in doing so I essentially became a slave to her frame because she knew I didn't want to be there, yet there I was.
I'm done being afraid of her or anything else. I'm a smart dude with unlimited potential. It would have been nice to reach that potential with the woman I married 15 years ago, but that didn't happen. So, I'll get there without her and maybe I'll find someone worth sharing that with later on.
I will still peruse this sub on a regular basis because like TRP, the lessons here apply everywhere in life, not just in dealing with women.
Wish me luck, gentlemen.