Since I'm still learning I thought it'd be better to post here rather than the main reddit.
Background: Started lifting and learned about red pill in the fucking weirdest way possible (story for another time) in December. Before this my sex life fucking sucked. Every night I'd jerk off and play video games, my wife hadn't sucked my dick in 10 years would give up sex 3 times a year. I was just miserable. I had went two fucking years without getting laid while my wife enjoyed a wonderful lifestyle. I felt like I was living with a roommate and a mother, but resented my wife like none other.
So it's been a pretty busy week, I'd been on vacation for a while and was back in the office for the first time and had a very dense day. Originally the plan was to work from home a bit, take care of some light errands and have a chill day.
However, I was needed to deal with the many fires at work though so I decided to go in. During the afternoon the wife texts me, says our kid is spending the night at a friends and if I want to go grocery shopping with her. I explain that I'm just way too busy and I'm going to finish the day up. A bit after 5 I text her and say I'll be leaving soon. I end up not leaving for 20 more minutes, around 5:45. So I text her a usual to let her know I'm coming home so she can get dinner ready/whatever/just FYI. I'm excited, kid's out of town we'd been staying with relatives and I'd been horny af the whole week. So I'm ready to have a great night.
I get an angry text reply: "WTF I'm so hungry you were supposed to leave 20 minutes ago".I call her, explain I got hung up with an issue at work. She hangs up on me.
I get home and pick her up, she's already up my ass about how she's so hungry and she's been waiting for me (which she never communicated to me in the first place that she planned on going out to dinner tonight).
I let her go, saying nothing. She is going on and on with the usual for a good 10 minutes. You put work ahead of the family, you have time to fix everyone else's problems but no time for your family, you didn't make a phone call for me to schedule an oil change on my car, and on and on.
A year ago I would lay right back in to her and argue that she never told me about dinner, that when I started pursuing my very successful career 10 years ago and she decided to stay at home her tune was very different blablablaa.
I just STFU, she looked at me and asked if I had anything to say for myself, at this point we're 5 minutes from a nice restaurant.
I said "I'm not interested in arguing with you, the kid's gone tonight so we can go out for a nice date and have a fun dinner, come home and have some fun or you can yell at me. But I'm not taking you to dinner so you can berate me, I'll wait for you to pick up some groceries and do something else tonight -- your choice."
I say, "I'm not even mad, I know you're just hungry and I've been thinking about nailing you all day -- so what do you say?"
I park the car, she says, "You're right, I'm just hungry let's go to dinner."
At the restaurant they have a great craft cocktail menu and they'll make something for you if you tell them what you like. I ordered for her since I know what she likes, generally made fun conversation and had a nice dinner.
We get home, I grab her as soon as we walk in the door and carry her upstairs, she asks for a massage (hahahahah no thanks). I say sure, undress her and ask her what's been bothering her, she says her shoulders. "Your ass you say?" and start oiling her up, "No, my shoulders!" "Your tits?" I flip her over, oil her up some more and start gently rubbing her tits. She says, "Come on!" "Sorry maam, arms and shoulders cost a lot extra, and I don't know if you can afford it." She says I'm right but might know a way to pay for it and proceeds to go down on me. I talked dirty and told her how fucking hot she is and how the other mom's must be so jealous and how hard she was making me.
Just six months ago I would still be dealing with this shit, I would have bargaiedn to do even more of her responsibility around the house. I would have sulked when I thought my chance for sex was gone and dealt with this for the next few months. Now I actually understand how to deal with the situation.
It's so simple it's really amazing. Biggest things -- STFU, have fun in bed, flirt with your wife the way you do with any other chick you'd like to fuck. Don't resent your wife for treating you like the beta fag you were.