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[FR] Noob edition. The stressed out shit test save.

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April 8, 2017
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Since I'm still learning I thought it'd be better to post here rather than the main reddit.

Background: Started lifting and learned about red pill in the fucking weirdest way possible (story for another time) in December. Before this my sex life fucking sucked. Every night I'd jerk off and play video games, my wife hadn't sucked my dick in 10 years would give up sex 3 times a year. I was just miserable. I had went two fucking years without getting laid while my wife enjoyed a wonderful lifestyle. I felt like I was living with a roommate and a mother, but resented my wife like none other.

So it's been a pretty busy week, I'd been on vacation for a while and was back in the office for the first time and had a very dense day. Originally the plan was to work from home a bit, take care of some light errands and have a chill day.

However, I was needed to deal with the many fires at work though so I decided to go in. During the afternoon the wife texts me, says our kid is spending the night at a friends and if I want to go grocery shopping with her. I explain that I'm just way too busy and I'm going to finish the day up. A bit after 5 I text her and say I'll be leaving soon. I end up not leaving for 20 more minutes, around 5:45. So I text her a usual to let her know I'm coming home so she can get dinner ready/whatever/just FYI. I'm excited, kid's out of town we'd been staying with relatives and I'd been horny af the whole week. So I'm ready to have a great night.

I get an angry text reply: "WTF I'm so hungry you were supposed to leave 20 minutes ago".I call her, explain I got hung up with an issue at work. She hangs up on me.

I get home and pick her up, she's already up my ass about how she's so hungry and she's been waiting for me (which she never communicated to me in the first place that she planned on going out to dinner tonight).

I let her go, saying nothing. She is going on and on with the usual for a good 10 minutes. You put work ahead of the family, you have time to fix everyone else's problems but no time for your family, you didn't make a phone call for me to schedule an oil change on my car, and on and on.

A year ago I would lay right back in to her and argue that she never told me about dinner, that when I started pursuing my very successful career 10 years ago and she decided to stay at home her tune was very different blablablaa.

I just STFU, she looked at me and asked if I had anything to say for myself, at this point we're 5 minutes from a nice restaurant.

I said "I'm not interested in arguing with you, the kid's gone tonight so we can go out for a nice date and have a fun dinner, come home and have some fun or you can yell at me. But I'm not taking you to dinner so you can berate me, I'll wait for you to pick up some groceries and do something else tonight -- your choice."

Silence

I say, "I'm not even mad, I know you're just hungry and I've been thinking about nailing you all day -- so what do you say?"

I park the car, she says, "You're right, I'm just hungry let's go to dinner."

At the restaurant they have a great craft cocktail menu and they'll make something for you if you tell them what you like. I ordered for her since I know what she likes, generally made fun conversation and had a nice dinner.

We get home, I grab her as soon as we walk in the door and carry her upstairs, she asks for a massage (hahahahah no thanks). I say sure, undress her and ask her what's been bothering her, she says her shoulders. "Your ass you say?" and start oiling her up, "No, my shoulders!" "Your tits?" I flip her over, oil her up some more and start gently rubbing her tits. She says, "Come on!" "Sorry maam, arms and shoulders cost a lot extra, and I don't know if you can afford it." She says I'm right but might know a way to pay for it and proceeds to go down on me. I talked dirty and told her how fucking hot she is and how the other mom's must be so jealous and how hard she was making me.

Just six months ago I would still be dealing with this shit, I would have bargaiedn to do even more of her responsibility around the house. I would have sulked when I thought my chance for sex was gone and dealt with this for the next few months. Now I actually understand how to deal with the situation.

It's so simple it's really amazing. Biggest things -- STFU, have fun in bed, flirt with your wife the way you do with any other chick you'd like to fuck. Don't resent your wife for treating you like the beta fag you were.


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Title [FR] Noob edition. The stressed out shit test save.
Author getwokeorgobroke
Upvotes 27
Comments 15
Date 08 April 2017 11:48 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/206305
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[–]TexasThomas11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

"I said "I'm not interested in arguing with you, the kid's gone tonight so we can go out for a nice date and have a fun dinner, come home and have some fun or you can yell at me. But I'm not taking you to dinner so you can berate me, I'll wait for you to pick up some groceries and do something else tonight -- your choice."

congrats....That's a work of art right there. Not only did you stand up to her nicely and smack down her crap, but you did it in a way that allowed the real possibility of salvaging the night, having a good time and getting laid. kudos....I'll be using that tactic for sure. This is a good lesson to remember: even in bad situations, no matter what she says or does: don't ever sulk, don't ever pout and never relinquish your edge over her. Smack down any attempt she makes to lead, wear the pants, get sassy, or in any way engage in poor behavior. A real man takes control of every situation. If you boldly lead, they will follow.

[–]gettingmymojobackRed Beret11 points12 points  (4 children) | Copy

Good job on the outcome, however:

You could have avoided the argument in the first place by not texting a specific timeline to begin with. No deadline to be home by equals no way to be late. This is a beginner move. "I'll be home when I'm all done" or "as soon as I'm all finished", never a fixed time. By saying "soon" and then working another 45 min you set up a timeline to meet. Under promise and over deliver.

Secondly, watch the covert contracts. "The kids are at grandmas so I'm going to get laid after dinner tonight".

[–]getwokeorgobroke[S] 4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

You could have avoided the argument in the first place by not texting a specific timeline to begin with

Yeah, true. I should know myself better than to think I won't get distracted by something in the time it takes me to get from my office to the door. I'd actually admit I fucked up there, but won't take a verbal berating due to something so minor.

Secondly, watch the covert contracts. "The kids are at grandmas so I'm going to get laid after dinner tonight".

This is interesting because I hear about covert contracts, but I don't really care that I get laid when the kid is out of town as long as it's not only when the kids out of town. Is the idea to switch it up on those just to keep her on her toes?

[–]weakandsensitive2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'd actually admit I fucked up there, but won't take a verbal berating due to something so minor.

Exactly. Zero apologies for prioritizing work at work. If I send a message saying I'm heading home - that means I'm starting to head home. That doesn't mean I'm leaving.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I fucked up there, but won't take a verbal berating due to something so minor.

It's little things like this that I wish more noob FR had. It's a damned oasis in the desert of thirst. Good mentality!

[–]innominating0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Of course, you don't have to take a verbal berating ever. Once you have enough OI and abundance, you'll say "be sweet, or out of the car" and then you won't have to bother with all the words you used this time.

[–]sexyshoulderdevil75% Liquid Sarcasm8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Solid work, new guy.

I'm in a good mood so here's your obligatory Matrix reference:

Neo: What are you trying to tell me? That I can dodge bullets?

Morpheus: No, Neo. I’m trying to tell you that when you’re ready, you won’t have to.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret4 points5 points  (5 children) | Copy

I get home and pick her up, she's already up my ass

Stop here. You let the argument go on and on and on. Yeah you handled it fine things worked out, you took charge but there were moments that it wasn't in control. The moment she acted up, which her testing your alpha frame, you should have looked at her and said

I know you're just hungry and I've been thinking about nailing you all day -- so what do you say?"

see the difference?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

I'm with you here. I saw:

asked if I had anything to say for myself, at this point we're 5 minutes from a nice restaurant

and wondered how the hell he let her berate him that long. I'd throw that gem out before even getting in the car. Negative reply and I'm out the door to dinner with myself.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

agreed. I've left mine at the end of the drive way. Sunday I take the family out to breakfast. Several times I just stop. Tell her to get out. Then it's just me and the kids

It's now where she asks if she can come. she doesn't ask often and therefore doesn't come along. She knows the rules and just chooses to avoid them by not participating

[–]milkywayer0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

deleted What is this?

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't ask her any longer.

[–]SexistFlyingPig2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You let her express herself. You let her know that you heard every word. And then you lead her towards where she wanted to be.

Great job man!

[–]The_LitzRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You got lucky my friend.

You managed to turn it around right at the very end, it shouldn't have gotten that far.

About time management, do you always account for your time to your wife like that? Start owning your time. Its yours. That is where your shit test started.

Otherwise you handled it good.

[–]thunderbeyond0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Well done. Turned it right around - stood up for yourself and ended up getting exactly what you wanted.



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