I was in the bed last night reading NMMNG while the wife was watching TV before bed. I am doing the “Men of March” challenge - thanks to The Family Alpha - so trying to read a bit every night.
So my wife (who always reads over my shoulder) sees that I happen to be on the chapter about sex. So she says “What are you reading?”. I have nothing to hide so I hand her the book. She says “Why are YOU reading this?”. I think I said something about trying to better myself. Then she asked who recommended the book to me – friend, a therapist? I replied “the manosphere”.
She skims some of the chapter and questions why I think I am a nice guy. She informs me that I am more of a bad boy with nice guy qualities. She asks me what qualities or issues I have in common with “nice guys” – I don't really want to have the conversation, so I tell her an abandonment story that involved my father when I was 5 or 6. She is a little surprised since we have been married for almost 17yrs and has never heard the story. I am pretty stoic – so never shared it with her. She asked me what I learned from the book, I pause and say that women don’t really like nice guys.
I re-tell her the story of the summer we met. She was my first and while I’d consider myself good looking, I was a “nice guy” growing up. I had a single mom, raised by women and was catholic (basically I was screwed). The summer I met my wife (in college), I decided that my “nice guy” shit was not working and I decided to be super direct with girls that summer and asked for what I wanted (more of a bad boy/jerk). That summer I had no filter and literally did not give a shit -I had the most success with women than I had ever had (and began dating her). So after that convo she confirmed that girls don’t really like nice guys.
The next morning she initiates another conversation about the book – she wants to revise her “women don’t like nice guys statement”. Basically she tries to hamster hypergamy. Her take is that women are “stupid” when they are young. That is why they go after the “hawt” guy (Chad) when they are young BUT when they get older, they realize that they need someone who is more stable, can be a good father and provider - so they begin to consider the nice guys. I am thinking ummm…..yeah..exactly..hypergamy.
I ask her, “don’t you see how that can make guys angry? Women run around sleeping with the “bad guys” and then once they are done fucking, they are now ready to give the nice guys a chance”. The rest of the convo does not matter. She hamsters on about how guys do the same thing. I basically remove myself from the convo at that point since I am not interested and I am getting ready for work.
As I get ready to leave she actually paused the tv (she is doing my daughter’s hair) and looks up at me and initiates a long, soft 10sec kiss. She will not be fucking the nice version of me tonight.
TLDR: Wife notices me reading NMMNG. She confirms hypergamy. Then she tries to hamster away her confirmation.