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Dread game: How to flirt at the workplace without crossing the line

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March 15, 2017
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Question is pretty self explanatory. I started a new project at work and my new office is full of attractive girls in their early-20's. I figure it's ripe ground to get some harmless field reps in for practicing flirting. I'm also only on this team for ~6 more weeks before my next assignment, so the risk factor is fairly low.

Disclaimer: I'm not looking to close, play 'catch-and-release,' or cheat on my wife... just practice casual flirting with enough plausible deniability so as to not get myself intro trouble.

As background, I basically did not flirt until recently, and it's been a big part of my TRP improvement journey as I've been working the dread levels in my marriage. When I was younger I was afraid of flirting with girls for fear of offending them or being seen as a creep due to my BP programming. I've made big progress practicing game playing 'catch-and-release' at bars, but the thought of even casual flirting at work makes me uncomfortable.

Where should one draw the line in the work place when it comes to flirting?

My biggest concern is to not do anything that would jeopardize my job or standing at the company. Coming back home to tell the wife I got fired/sent to HR for sexual harassment would be a big ding to my SMV to say the least.


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Title Dread game: How to flirt at the workplace without crossing the line
Author LymanRP
Upvotes 7
Comments 13
Date 15 March 2017 12:33 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/206415
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[–]creating_my_life6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Where should one draw the line in the work place when it comes to flirting?

At the work place. Entirely, 100%, without question.

Practice somewhere else. It's a big world out there.

[–]sh0ckley0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This. The HBs at work - I go out of my way to avoid.

[–]WesternhagenWinner3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Aside from being dangerous, this is lazy. You already know these women. It is not a "cold approach" on a random woman. There is much less discomfort and anxiety talking to them than there is in a cold approach (after all, you can fool yourself that the whole conversation was "work related", right?). If you have been reading BPP's book, you know that Dread Level 7 requires practicing exactly that - cold approaches. Now quit being a faggot and go do 50 cold approaches outside your workplace and get 20 numbers.

[–]LymanRP[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Makes sense. To clarify, I am not looking to do this in lieu of cold approaches, but in addition to them... but I see your point.

Interestingly enough I actually find cold approaches easier. Have done a fair amount at bars lately, but Roosh's Day Bang is next up on my reading list so looking to branch out there as well.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

clarify

don't DEER, no one cares that you're not 'as bad as they think'

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Be friendly and social to everyone, without showing sexual interest. Once you're good looking, dress well and have a job of importance women will flirt with you occasionally.

[–]LymanRP[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is good advice. I'm already doing the above, so will just keep being friendly to everyone and not go beyond that.

[–]Big_Daddy_PDX2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

A great way to practice getting fired. Brilliant idea.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dangerous territory here so take my experience with with DON'T EAT PAINT warning. I find that if you're being attractive and aloof, a lot of the ladies will flirt with you and expect a little in return. 1/3 rule applies in this case. I work in a very non-PC heavy manufacturing environment though. Gals that can't handle sexual banter don't have many friends.

[–]The_LitzRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You don't want to be that dude.

Build longer term networks in your industry.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Gay guy at my workplace, Christopher. Found out I was ex navy, called it hot, comments on my shoes etc. he's very flirty.

I want you to picture how you would deal with him, being in my situation. Talk to girls that same way. Remember, you're only one comment to HR away from a shit storm. It's better if it's seen as impossible for you to have acted a certain way, then to have a wealth of examples to say 'yeah, I can see him doing that'

[–]LymanRP[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Valid points. I could see how an innocuous compliment such as "that's a very stylish outfit" (not even really flirty IMO) could be misconstrued.

Seems like a pretty high risk low reward endeavor, so will keep my flirt practicing elsewhere.

[–]nantucketghost0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

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