So, I get home from work at about 6pm tonight. When I open the door the kids (4 and 7) are still in their school clothes and watching TV (they are not supposed to watch TV on school days). As I walk thought the house my wife (SAHM) is no where to be seen. I see that the door to our room is closed.
I go into the room and she is laying on the bed watching TV. I ask her what is going on (her closed in the room and the kids watching tv on a school day is not the norm). Basically the kids were giving her a hard time and she said "fuck it" (not literally) and turned on the TV for them and retreated to the room. We chatted (her mood was fine given what was going on). We decided that she would clean up the kitchen from dinner and I will take care of the kids. My daughter (7 with ADHD) had homework, and my son (4) just needed to clean up and get ready for bed.
I send my son to clean up his room and my daughter and I start on her writing assignment. As I am trying to get my daughter started on her assignment my wife keeps coming in the the room and voicing her opinion on the writing assignment. I kindly tell my wife that we decided that she is doing the kitchen and I have the kids covered - so let us be. Also with my daughter's ADHD it's hard for her to have two adults giving her direction. My wife walks away (but she can hear us in the kitchen) and again, she butts in with advice/instructions for the writing assignment. This time I more directly told her to let me handle it. She escalates and keeps butting in - basically ignoring my request. I tell her "i told you I got it, so that means I have it. Take care of the kitchen like we decided".
This concludes with her losing her shit. She says she is not cleaning the kitchen and I can handle everything - while walking away angrily and saying sarcastically "Kids, your dad is in charge". Which is dumb as fuck since I have the kids all the time (actually the majority of the time on the weekend).
So, long story short - without interference from my wife, the writing homework goes much better than usual, kids are efficiently bathed read to and put to bed. She is still fuming as we speak. In the past I have told her to stop second guessing me in front of the kids - they feed on that shit and pit us against each other. This time I put my foot down and it felt great.
At one point she asked me "Who do you think you are talking to?". And later she mocked me by calling me "king". I have a long way to go to reclaim my kingdom. Any feedback on how the situation was handled?
TLDR; Got home. Kids were overwhelming the wife. She asked me to take over, which I did. She interferes with me taking charge , I tell her to stop - she loses her shit.