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Do you ever want to fuck other pussy? If yes, how do you deal with it?

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Title Do you ever want to fuck other pussy? If yes, how do you deal with it?
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Date 22 February 2017 01:46 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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[–]creating_my_life15 points16 points  (5 children) | Copy

How do you guys deal with the lack of adrenaline and oxytocin that come through new partners?

We fucked enough pussy before we got married to realize that pussy is just pussy. It's all the same.

[–]FailingBillionaire0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

And do you ever want to fuck other pussy?

[–]creating_my_life10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Of course. I see hot women all around. I bet they have really beautiful pussies.

But I don't dwell on it or let it distract me from my mission. I already have a pussy at home. It fucks just like all those other pussies.

[–]abdadaRed Beret14 points15 points  (2 children) | Copy

Pussy is just pussy. It really is all the same.

My current LTR has been with me for 7 years (4+ of which as a plate and she knew it) and I doubt she would throw a shit fit if I told her I wanted to bang some hot waitress or gal I met through biz connections, but I honestly have had enough in my life to know that pussy is just pussy.

There's really no sense of conquest. I want an orgasm, girlfriend always makes sure I get it, and she does it beautifully so I'm not bored or horny or seeking it out elsewhere.

If she fails, I get it elsewhere, but so far she's been on point there, so she gets rewarded with my commitment and affection.

The last thing I want is a drama freak like one of my ex-plates, or a complainer, or a nagger, or a stalker. Had enough of those in my life.

Sex is sex. If I want it rough, it's there. If I want it gentle, it's fine.

New pussy isn't all that exciting. Even if it's hot 22 year old new pussy, it's still just pussy.

Maybe you need to excite your wife into exciting you again.

[–]FailingBillionaire2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Thanks. Great insight.

[–]abdadaRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

There is something to be said about bachelordom and the reality of spinning plates being a lot less mental work than most LTRs. But I'm an LTR guy, even when I spun plates I still had an LTR who was fine with it.

If I had to go back in time, I think I'd cut my N-count down by 66% and be better off, lol.

[–]bigtuna457 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's not fucking worth it. Brings way more problems than it's worth and at the end of the day you're still avoiding whatever issues you have with your wife.

[–]welshmin3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Re-direct that sexual energy or try new things with the wifey. The more you focus on this issue, the more it will be an issue.

[–]LymanRP2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Your situation reminds me of mine to some extent... you got married before you had the opportunity to experience the abundance mentality with women. You entered your LTR and married well before your SMV was near its apex. So, now you're having regrets and seeing greener pastures.

Judging by the fact that you recently started lifting and reading MMSLP, I'd imagine that you still have a fair amount of improvement to be doing. You're on the right track. However, it is going to take some time for you to see results. What is your BF%? If it's >20%, you have a lot of work to do. Your target should be <15%. Do you have regular sex with the wife now? When you describe her "lack of manners," that lends me to believe that you aren't being a strong captain at home. My wife used to be quite rude and snippy around me when I was asleep at the captain's wheel. All of that behavior subsided when I resumed being a strong leader and held frame.

"Listen. I am going to fuck other women. But I don't want to divorce you. I'll use a condom" Or indirectly pushing for a threesome or the swinger life style.

Definitely don't just tell her that. Also, unless you are Chad, "Swinger Lifestyle" turns into a structured mechanism for you to get cucked. If your wife does have the good figure you describe, how are you going to feel when she fucks someone who is bigger/stronger/hotter than you? MFM threesomes also run this risk... there was a thread on this recently.

Your best course of action before doing anything drastic is to focus your energy on your self improvement. Read the sidebar, properly digest TRP, then practice it in your day-to-day. This will take many months.

Focus on this, and your current situation will likely resolve.

Edit: Be sure to read the When to next your wife thread.

[–]FailingBillionaire0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Your best course of action before doing anything drastic is to focus your energy on your self improvement. Read the sidebar, properly digest TRP, then practice it in your day-to-day. This will take many months.

Thanks. Really appreciate your comment. I am aiming for happiness for the long run, so I don't mind if it even takes some years to accomplish. At least I will invest a couple of more months into the sidebar, working out and understanding the sidebar, before making a stupid move.

[–]LymanRP2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

To add on, your relationship with your wife, the level of sex, and how much she respects you are a good barometer for how well you will do on the open market should you decide to eject from marriage or seek other women. If you are an overweight Beta schlub who lacks frame and confidence, you will not do so well in the open sexual market. Conversely if you are in shape, have a strong frame and IDGAF mentality, then you will do well.

Now, it is always easier to start with a new woman in the right frame than it will be to improve a marriage/LTR where you've lost frame over the course of a long period of time. Thus, the temptation to cheat will be real. In fact, other women will be quicker to become attracted and pick up on your new levels of attractiveness before your wife does.

Only you can decide if you would rather stick it out, or start from scratch with new women. But don't fool yourself into thinking that you can just eject and go spin hot 23 year old plates on the side if you haven't put the work in to achieve a high SMV. Do that first, evaluate your marriage after.

[–]FailingBillionaire0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

But don't fool yourself into thinking that you can just eject and go spin hot 23 year old plates on the side if you haven't put the work in to achieve a high SMV. Do that first, evaluate your marriage after.

great advice. will follow!

[–]ParadoxThatDrivesUs7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do what you want, but your pretty, fit woman with a nice figure is going to have a hell of a lot easier time getting laid than you ever will, so you might think it through before you open things up.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

I was like you. Had only fucked my wife. I was so torn up inside that I went out and cheated. The fallout was hell and a huge pain in the ass. As bad as it was, I wish there was another way that I could have internalized that pussy is pussy, but I don't think that I could have done it without cheating.

Focus on your mission. Your mission should not include getting your dick wet. Career, hobbies, family, travel, etc. if you truly are giving your all to your mission it should help you Get over missing out on other girls

[–]LymanRP1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The fallout was hell and a huge pain in the ass.

Wise words there. We shouldn't delude ourselves into thinking that cheating is easy or there will be no consequences. Especially if the wife finds out, this can cause irreversible damage to the marriage.

[–]trp_ocd15 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy

Sex God Method. Change your current pussy into all the pussy.

Be the swole good looking stud to make her do slutty things. Use dread to keep her in mind if it.

[–]FailingBillionaire-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

Do you ever crave other woman (pussy) except your own? If yes, how do you deal with it?

[–]trp_ocd11 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Ok. Let's break this down like a fraction.

You're conflating two issues. Do I find women attractive? Yes. Would I like to fuck them? Would be nice.

Do I take it all out on my wife? Yes. Why and how? I am an attractive charismatic swole dude she wants to fuck. She does everything I want and need her to because she knows every other person on the face of this earth is here because of a successful male orgasm. Everybody wants laid.

Pussy is pussy. I suggest the HOT CRAZY MATRIX on YouTube to find your proper level of tolerance.

In the meantime buy nicer clothes and lift.

[–]FailingBillionaire-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Would I like to fuck them? Would be nice.

Sounds like a compromise. Maybe this is one of the few impenetrable social walls that state, you can't have it all. Fucking every chick you want, and still have a working relationship with your wife.

Or maybe you become truly happy with the sex life with your wife, if she truly does everything for you, which I am currently far away from having accomplished.

Or maybe it's also possible to fuck other women and your wife being ok with it. If anyone has an answer to that, it's mrp.

In the meantime buy nicer clothes and lift.

Will do. I plan longterm.

[–]trp_ocd10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If you want to get to a level where you're wife is ok with you fucking other women, she first needs to be ok with you fucking her.

Lift, be good looking, or the best version of you. If she cant stand the thought of losing you, you ain't done shit.

[–]2gunsgetsome3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

I was in a very similar position as you and can offer a different perspective than the dudes who slayed all the pussy before they settled down. My exwife was my first and only (and afik I was hers). I had massive FOMO, and although I was getting sex, I wasn't getting any sexuality, which is what I wanted. We got divorced.

Four months ago, my n=1. Since then, I've had sex with 5 new women, all of them multiple times. Like others have said, "pussy is pussy" and the isolated feeling of my penis inside a vagina is the same, no matter who brings her vagina that night.

However, almost everything else about the experience with each woman is very different; the seduction, the foreplay, the way she likes to move, the way her body looks, the way her body feels to your hands, the "tricks" she knows, the sounds she makes, which of your "moves" she likes, etc. I find it exhilarating to discover these nuances.

PS: so far, the first time with a new woman has never been the best time with her.

PPS: I'm solidly in the novelty phase of my newfound freedom so take my opinion with that in mind.

[–]FailingBillionaire-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

However, almost everything else about the experience with each woman is very different; the seduction, the foreplay, the way she likes to move, the way her body looks, the way her body feels to your hands, the "tricks" she knows, the sounds she makes, which of your "moves" she likes, etc. I find it exhilarating to discover these nuances.

I'll take your opinion with a grain of salt, but you worded exactly my point I was trying to make. It's weird to just simple it down to "pussy is pussy."

[–]postscript11142 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

2gunsgetsome made some great points. It's not the pussy that is different, it is everything that surrounds it. The chase as well.

Believe me, it is a great feeling when you find another to take interest in you, especially after having oneitis for so long. I was in a similar situation as you. I was quick to jump on the new freedom that I had and plated 2 rather quickly. I didn't do the proper vetting though. Drama quickly popped up and I dropped them both. It was then that I realized it was nothing special. Certainly not worth the drama.

Do what you think will make you happy in the long run. Make sure you vet the chicks though. You are out to have fun, not get stuck dealing with drama. BTW, cheating will bring drama. Some people have a higher tolerance for it though.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's weird to just simple it down to "pussy is pussy."

That's your problem. You've put it on a pedestal.

YOu simply want to fuck other women. Then go do that and stop with the whining.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go. Fuck another woman. Just don't come back here asking for advice on how to fix it later.

What I don't want to do is sit here and help you rationalize one way or the other. If you have paid attention here long enough you would know the answer to this very question.

In the end do what you want. yet it is clear you aren't sure. Which tells me you have a long way to go because if you decide now to bang another girl what you won't find what you are looking for.

You haven't yet figured our your mission. Just that you want to have more sex.

Those of us that have gone to the affair route it wasn't based on impulse, some biological drive. There was thought and the realization that only we are responsible for our needs to be met. At some point that other party stopped being concerned, and sure - RP has an answer as to why that it is.

I am going to fuck other women. But I don't want to divorce you. I'll use a condom" Or indirectly pushing for a threesome or the swinger life style.

ha. Yeah let us know how that goes. Sure there maybe some latent tendency you are picking up on from her, but frankly you aren't even ready to handle this if you can pull it off.

[–]anythingincRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

because my current wife was the only one I ever had (met her at 19)

Sounds like you want to make up for missing out, you going AWALT bro?

We aren't going to moralize, or waffle around with you about your FEEELZZ and your NEEEEDZZ. Do what you want...but it sounds like you need pussy for validation, and that is some weak ass bullshit.

A) You are NOT the self-fulfilled guy who just gets other women and fucks other women, always have and always will, and that's just who you are and the girl your with accepts it because she lives in your frame.

THAT guy might get live that unicorn lifestyle because it IS his frame.

B) You sound like the guy living in scarcity and insecurity and isn't getting enough validation via his own life and wife and so he has to go out looking for fulfillment between other women's legs.

Started a 45 minute lifting program 17 days ago, working on career, making progress and reading currently Married Man Sex Primer.

Just swallowed the pill, great.

Listen. I am going to fuck other women. But I don't want to divorce you. I'll use a condom. Or indirectly pushing for a threesome or the swinger life style.

I hope you try that in your current state, hope it works out too, report back.

[–]FailingBillionaire0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ok, I understand.

I'll wait till I am at least 12 months into redpill, before taking any serious decisions.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your post history indicates you surround yourself with and create drama. Get that shit out of your life. Read the sidebar and start developing the correct mentality.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

pussy is pussy is pussy is pussy

the only difference is the brain operating that pussy.

work on the brain.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I usually fuck it.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just about every married man out there is attracted to other women. There's a difference between that, and wanting to fuck other pussy.

I just remember that all women are like that. Which means all pussy is like that. Pussy is pussy. It all feels the same. It all provides the same basic type of friction All that changes is the body type and brain/emotional bent of the life support system housing that pussy.

The risks and drawbacks of cheating far outweigh the benefits. You cheat, you run the risk of

--wife finding out and blowing it up

--wife finding out, staying with you and lording it over you for the rest of your marriage

--wife finding out, forgiving you, staying with you, and your marriage and sex life never quite being the same again

Let's say wife never finds out. Then you have

--risks of bringing home STDs

--risks of knocking her up

--one or both of you catching feels

--always living in fear of getting caught, someone who could blow your cover seeing you, always having to cover your tracks, always having to lie, always having to keep all your lies straight

--the wasted money and time

--having to deal with your affair partner's unique yet AWALT-y drama, foibles, idiosyncracies, etc.

--the knowledge that the affair will eventually end one way or another - either in you leaving your spouses for each other, or one or both of you "breaking up" like you did with a girlfriend

--the pain and loss when it ends in a breakup

--the risk of a "it's her or me" ultimatum from your affair partner

--the fear of your affair partner ratting you out if you break it off

--if you leave your wife for her, the sense of nagging mistrust and knowledge of her - and your- lack of character that youll always have - "can I really trust her? She was willing to sleep with a married man. She was willing to cheat on her husband. What makes me think she won't do this to me?"

If you're willing to live with all that, have at it.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (6 children) | Copy

Was she a virgin?

[–]FailingBillionaire0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

I was her 2nd.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy

Objectively answer me this.

Does her having sex with more men bother you?

Do you wonder if he was bigger, better, or her best?

Does it piss you off that you have noone to compare to while she does & now that you've embraced your sexuality you realize you could have had plenty of chicks?

[–]FailingBillionaire-1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy

Honestly haven't never thought about this, because I don't give things like that any thoughts and I don't see any relevance.

Her life with her ex is more than a decade old and doesn't have any relevance to me, never had.

Only reason I was introducing the idea of other pussy is because of curiosity. I just don't know what I am missing. Maybe it's like drinking soda. Everything is refreshing, but there is a difference between Coke, Sprite and Fanta.

And if there is a difference, I have the curiosity to taste them. But like I said else where, I will not go ahead with it, because I'll focus first on the path ahead of me, without taking decisions like this.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Honestly haven't never thought about this

I doubt that, but you do you. I think of other pussy, but I'm a satisfied man so I don't pursue.

[–]FailingBillionaire-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

I doubt that

If I was a low self-esteem cunt, I wouldn't believe it either.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ha!

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Judgement is a femenine quality

Do what you want, be purposeful, and don't let your emotions dictate decisions

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Make a decision about what you want. Decide how to do it. Do it. Live with any consequences. Dah.

Next.

[–]RuleZeroDADRed Beret-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do, or don't.

From an RP perspective, having the option and all that flows from that is the real victory.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

My first marriage was like that. She was a good girl and we were both virgins when we got married. Ended up in the same place as you when I was about 28. Ended up cheating on her with a bipolar cockgobbler that I developed oneitis for due in no small part to my "pussy curiosity". Let me reiterate what all of these guys are saying by stating it a different way. If you go fuck 20 girls in the next year you will realize that vagina is vagina and none of it is worth having ANY drama attached to it.

If your wife isn't cutting it for you, you need to subtly explore if she is open to sleeping with a girl. If she is, go to Vegas, pay a professional and have the experience together. It's no strings attached and no drama after so long as your wife doesn't become paranoid that you are going to want more after experiencing it.

The other option is to just move on, but make sure your finances are in order before you do that.

I would tell you to just cheat but the problem is very few people can do it and not change. Women can detect micro-changes in your tone and body language and when you cheat you will project that and she will know something is up. It takes practice to not give it away in that department.



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