Three months redpill aware. Came here due to dead bedroom problem. I've lost 17 pounds, I am way more fit, read WISNIFG, NMMNG, MMSLP, The Rational Male, Book ok Pook, The Game. I've got rid of covert contracts, learned A&A, and all of that did a great deal of benefit for me and my marriage, thank you.
Sex frequency increased, but not on ideal terms for me. I get 2~3 times a week now, versus 2~3 times a month before.
My wife lied to me on some important stuff to me and keeps on lying. I have no proof that she is cheating at all, and yet it bounces my head. I can't know for sure, but I would like to know what you guys would do. Right now I am seriously considering ejecting this marriage. Here is what happened:
Five months ago wife was noticed that she was going to a 10 days job meeting on another country. That's something that happens once every year.
I told her that I was going too, taking our daughter with us and staying in the same hotel as her, in the period of her meeting. She didn't like the idea, no way. She has put a lot of different reasons why I shouldn't go. She said I should go after the meeting was over only, and not while it was happening.
I then said I was going 4 days before the end of the meeting, and staying one week after that. She disliked the idea. What if the kid got sick? I won't have time for you. I will be locked inside the hotel. Nobody is bringing the family, only after the meeting is over. I argued that I would pay for medical insurance; I would see her after 6pm, when her daily meeting is over; that after 6pm she is free. I said I couldn't believe that nobody was bringing family during the meeting, but I took that argument. She got angry at a certain point and said for me to go then, but it would suck big time. Jesus, I wanted to do something nice and cool and she clearly didn't like the idea. I decided that I would stay at home with the kid.
Three days ago was her travel day. I took her to the airport and her male colleague was telling everybody that his family was going to meet him there, 3 days before the end of the meeting and staying a week more after that. Pretty much my plan, which she declined.
She started making excuses again, telling that it was expensive, we didn't have the time. I have refuted all her excuses, then she said: Why didn't you decide to go? I told you could go! My wish at that point was to smash her head. I went home. I felt bad about that.
During these days she is texting me, saying she loves me, that the meeting looks like a prison, that she can't do anything.
Well, Facebook doesn't lie. Her colleagues (and her, of course) had a day off, went to another city. The opening party was huge. Dance music, laser effects, smoke machine, stage with Dj performances, open bar. I saw videos on Facebook about all of that.
Today she videocalls me. I ask about the meeting. She said it was boring. I asked about the opening. She said it was a minor thing, just a simple thing.
So, my friends, she lied using false excuses for me not to go, and is lying about the entertainment that happens between meetings. I am pissed.
Either she is faking the size of the party so that I don't get pissed, or she is hiding the fact that it is easy as hell to cheat on such a meeting. And also, she lied for me not to go there. I am seriously considering to eject. Please give me your impressions.