A little bit of history: redpill aware 1+ year. Life is good, fully confident in myself - career, lifting, mental health, household, sex, all good.

I've made a habit of setting the laws and my boundaries in a way that's been super effective. When I see something I don't like (say, my woman disrespecting family in front of me), I don't react in the moment, because I found that I'm too jolted out of my frame by anger and resentment. I let is pass, give the amused "huh?" look that you would give to a 3 year old girl, I make an excuse to go do something else, I carry on with my awesome guy frame, then revisit 2 or 3 days later in a controlled way, out of my frame, and I just say something like "I expect that my girl doesn't do X", or "I expect my girl to do Y". The woman gets the hint immediately and knows what I'm talking about.

Sometimes she bows her head and says "yes", on the rare occasions she starts an emotional response I just tell her: "I said my girl doesn't do that, I didn't say you shouldn't". That usually ends the discussion. Looking confident and amused is super effective here. As in, I don't actually give a fuck if you stay in line, because if you don't you're automatically not my girl. Make your choice.

A lot of these boundaries are somewhat common sense - I'm reclaiming years of lost boundary territory when I was a beta doormat.

She does many actions around the house to please me - cooks, cleans, laundry etc, and tries to make me aware of what she's done in the clumsy way only a woman manages to do: e.g. "can you help me put the hoover back in the closet", she can do that, she just wanted me to be aware she did the whole house, and I take the hoover back and give her a well done good girl treatment.

Lately my wife has taken a habit of sometimes bluntly asking me what I want from her. Not in a bad tone, but in a puppy eyes what can I do for you in our marriage grand statement. Initially these looked like comfort tests, they are almost always happening in the lead up to ovulation. I've treated them as such and gave a dose of comfort. I've given the amused response "drain my balls dry" or something like that. She persists. Sometimes immediately, sometimes after a few weeks.

And now I'm thinking perhaps I'm not clear enough, perhaps my captain commands are not clear to the crew. Part of me wants to respond with: I want you to do X, Y, Z.

Thing is there are indeed still some things I want her to work on. I told her about these before, and I'm not sure whether giving her a list of these things when she asks this again is the right thing to do. I want her to lift, I want her to wake up earlier and sleep earlier to match my schedule, etc... Should I just state these things? In my mind this could lead to two things. Firstly, it gives her a laundry list where she will think she will be ok after finishing it off, and life is not like that, she will need to continue earning my respect, and if she finds that I'm still demanding afterwards she'll feel decieved. Secondly, I think this could be a slippery slope - if I ask her something and it turns out she doesn't perform well, that could make her to feel it's ok to disregard other requests.

Any thoughts?