One month in to RP and MRP. Reading voraciously. Mind blown. Grateful. I've been blue pill to the max (except that I've always lifted and taken care of myself). 45 yr. Married 17 years, 2 kids. Last year wife wanted a separation. We've been living separately since the summer. Since then, I'd been working on owning my shit through therapy and running my house with my kids half of every week. Now I'm working on really OWNING MY SHIT via RP/MRP/Sidebar. Blessed. Wife makes more money than me so she can handle her half of the finances. While we're separated, wife is still very present and is over at my place every morning to take one of the kids to school and over in the evenings for the kids' bedtimes. Weekends, we trade off while each goes to the gym and does errands or hangs out. So while we're separated, there's little actual separation. Of course, there's zero affection or anything physical. Now I've been setting boundaries - telling wife she can't come over on most nights when I've got the kids. Wanting more "separation" to this separation. I'm working on plates, dread. Wife occasionally shows signs that my frame has been working. I'm doing this for me. Now she wants the four of us to go together to a resort for winter break. I'm torn. Part of me wants to say "No can do". I'm not up for the four of us going together as if we're one happy family "pretending" with the kids...me sleeping on sofa bed. On the flip side, I'm thinking "I'm strong. Not the same blue pill dweeb I was" - still a long way to go but still... Thinking I can go on this trip next month and work on Alpha'ing the wife and kids and not giving a fuck and use this trip as an intense boot camp to strengthen myself while catching some rays and margaritas. What do you think? Agree to go on family trip and work on RedPilling the shit out of the week? Or stick to boundaries and decline the trip since we're supposed to be separated and I don't want to pretend otherwise?