Quick background. I found RP four years ago after retiring from the military. Married 20 years with four kids. I sought RP after returning home and seeing the shit mess my wife had created during multiple deployments where age controlled the finances. I started leading again and our house got back in order. Things have been great
Sex had never been an issue. Prior to November, sex was regularly 4-7 days a week. My wife has a very high libido and before November I had never gotten a hard no from her. She was always adventurous and down for whatever.
Then election night. My wife knew I was voting for trump. Any time she tried to debate it with me, I STFU. Then he won and my wife has gone fucking insane. The day after she told me she no longer respected me and didn't know how she could trust my judgment. I've STFU most of the time.
The sex quickly stopped. A dramatic change from our previous twenty years. Since November we have had sex1-2 a week following this basic set up: she tells me she only wants to fuck cause she's horney, we fuck, and she goes to sleep or off to whatever. She's made clear every time that she's still very upset and this is to hold her over.
We don't talk at all during the day. Conversations in our house are limited to discussing child care or logistics. I told her we were going out without kids Saturday, and she told me (again) that she can't be social with me knowing I voted for trump. On Saturday she really lost it with me. She screamed that I voted for a rapist bigot. who has no respect for women. She said her entire view on me has been irreparably changed I STFU. We haven't spoken much since then.
I don't know how to best handle this. It's been two months and her anger has not lessened. I've gone on with my life without her and she does not give a fuck. One example: the neighbor who always flirts with me stopped by to grab something. After she left my wife looked at me and said: you should fuck her. She voted for trump. You can be assholes together. I said: good idea. That would be a fun. She's got a great ass. As I walked away she said: I'm serious. You do not understand how much I despise you and how little respect I have for you now. I do not care who you fuck. I am trapped because of the kids, but someday I won't. I said: there's the door. You're not trapped. Just walk out of it. " She laughed and said: soon.
I spoke to a divorce attorney this morning. I want to make sure I'm covered. But from an RP standpoint what the fuck do I do?