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You find nude photos of your wife. What do you do?

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Title You find nude photos of your wife. What do you do?
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Upvotes 8
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Date 06 January 2017 01:54 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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Link https://theredarchive.com/post/206683
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[–]InChargeManRed Beret14 points15 points  (4 children) | Copy

You could check the phone records around that time to see if she was calling a strange number.

[–]Gawernator2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

More likely texting these days

[–]InChargeManRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Yeah, but phone records don't track texting. Of course there are a million ways to spy, but then it starts to become a chore/obsession.

[–]Gawernator0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

In OP's scenario where infidelity is highly likely, it's worth his time to figure out the truth

[–]InChargeManRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed.

[–]DonaldBaelish7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

she switched from Android to iPhone

Thats when you know that you should prepare the divorce papers.

All jokes aside , Trust but Verify.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy

Before I read the comment, let me say fuck you for the question because I immediately thought: "Jerk off to them?"

Deleted them

Damn it, what a dick.

She took them when I was out of town with 2 of our kids. Maybe her intention was to send them to me

I really think this is innocent. She was bored and her entertainment was not around. Clearly Chad wasn't around.

You should have refused to delete them and told her how awesome she looks. You are immediately thinking "cheating." She is probably thinking "slut shaming." BAD move IMHO.

[–]weakandsensitive2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

She is probably thinking "slut shaming."

bingo. most likely why she didn't send them in the first place.

if nude photos are "out of character", as in OP would judge the wife for taking them, i'd doubt she'd be open to broaching any type of racy subject with OP, much less indulge.

a more important question is whether OP would be capable of receive nudes now without getting judgemental.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (5 children) | Copy

"It was completely out of character."

All I need to hear. She's looking to cheat on you or already has.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

Explain

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

He means trust your spider sense Peter Parker. You did not post in here because you believed her lies.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

You said it's out of character for her to take nudes. The fact she didn't even send you them is a huge red flag. You can believe she decided to delete them if you want, but keep your eyes open from now on. You know her better than anyone, so trust your instincts when you feel something isn't right.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Perfectly stated. That's the goal, eyes are wide open at the moment

[–]plein_old4 points5 points  (5 children) | Copy

So is she holding the camera up with her hand?

Or is she posing for a photographer and smiling meaningfully into the camera?

If she took them herself, and told you about her intention to do that, then I don't see how this is some kind of huge problem. You might have other problem in your relationship, but these aren't them.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Is she holding the camera

This is a really great (and hilarious) question.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

She's holding the camera

[–]sh0ckley1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's your answer. This is the question I would have.

[–]TheRedThrowAwayPill1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You kidding? They're both bad.

Her nudes are now digitized and she can immediately send them anywhere in 3 seconds.

That's really really bad. This is not even a question.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dear Oh dear, you may as well have posted this in relationships or twocromosomes based on the terrible advice you are getting. You already know the truth, it is eating you up and that is why you posted. Those pictures were snapchatted to Chad. It is time to start hiding money and planning your exit strategy. PM me if you want some proper advice.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/5mi9h1/guy_finds_out_wife_took_nude_photos_while_he_was/

Your story was cross posted to TRP. Go read the comments there. My favorite:

Very simple......

If you're blue pill, they were for him and she just didn't like the way they looked, so she deleted them. Typical female lies.

If you're red pill, you realize the truth.....hubby was away at work, so it was time to "play" with Chad and send him some hot naked pictures, and then delete them so hubby has no clue.

Deep down, he knows the truth, but he just doesn't want to believe it.

He'll question her, she'll pull the typical manipulative female bullshit of "What? You don't trust me?!? You're just being insecure," and turn it back around on him. He won't want his life shattered, therefore he'll put himself immediately back into REM sleep, and say "Yea, she is my wife. I need to trust her."

The end.

Do yourself a favor and read those comments for some very harsh, unvarnished truth. Deep down you know something is wrong. Trust your gut.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

Either she took them herself and sent to someone else or someone took them for her then fucked her with the courage you never had. EVERY GIRL is a raging slut for the right man

We know what really happened here. Women don't delete nudes because "they didn't like them". They send them to guys they want to turn on. I get these photos and so do my asshole buddies. We show each other all the time. I can see the married ones getting caught just like this and spinning a fable. Then laughing about how he bought it.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3qi7qp/you_wont_know_when_she_cheats/

Its also not out of her character. Its out of character with the imaginary good girl you think you married.

I realize this sounds harsh but this is the exact wake up call you need right now.

I've been in your shoes and can help. PM me if you want

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I was going to comment in one of the guys above who said this same thing, that experience is a powerful projector, but didn't think I needed to be a dick. Now you prove my point. It is a great, thought provoking link though.

Not yours, just your turn, etc.

[–]Gawernator1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's pretty depressing that this comment was downvoted. This is textbook trickle truth OP

[–]man_in_the_worldRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Enjoy them!

[–]NrthnMonkey1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The fact she told you at the time that she had tried to take nudes but didn't like them seems to suggest she is telling the truth. It is an easy mistake to have pics sync to the cloud without knowing.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (11 children) | Copy

Tell her you found them and they were hot as fuck and you wish you didn't delete them. Give detailed positive-only feedback.

[–]nopeToThe43rd1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

They discovered them together.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

I didn't read it that way but fine. ;)

[–]nopeToThe43rd0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sure, I'm not here to be a semantic pedant.

[–]iloveairplane0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I think that would seem beta / creepy if in fact she has never gave him photos before and didn't this time around. Maybe playing it down instead of playing it up would be best?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Depends on: why you think a wife who doesn't send sexys took them for him... but didn't send them. The goal is: she sends them next time.

Definitely don't beg or be needy.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

she was with me when I discovered them. She knows I think they're hot.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

If you want more, get your need to find a reason to punish her out of your head.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

You usually put the bluepill in professor but I agree this is just slut shaming. She was trying to be naughty and the Saint shut her down.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Be direct. Just tell her you want more. Extra points if she blushes.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I can't find where the guy said he is looking for a reason to punish her. Are we calling any suspicion of infidelity slut shaming now?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I can't find where where I called anything slut shaming.

[–]470_2_700_nm2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Does it bother you that much? If you are anything but confident, go ahead and verify. However this kind of thing can become consuming.

Leave for the weekend and rent a gps logger if you are freaked out.

My experience is, if she is fucking your hard and enthusiastically, you should be good. Although I read that this ain't always the case.

Just don't be consumed by it your wife isn't that special. She's just a hoe like the rest of them.

[–]BobbyPeru0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

Trust but verify I is a good method. But, do beware that it can become consuming and the danger is you can become obsessed. Once you become obsessed, it starts to break down your frame. So, if you want to trust but verify, do it, but don't stay on it too long. I liked the suggestion someone made about checking phone records at around that time as a method of trusting but verifying.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy

[–]470_2_700_nm0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lol

[–]TheRedThrowAwayPill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Wifi internet won't show up on phone statement.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

check phone statements and credit card statements too.

I use sideline that has no phone record and a separate number so not finding anything means little

[–]iloveairplane0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

edit - wait, you say she TOLD you that she was taking sexy pictures of herself a long while back and this was just confirmation of her taking said photos? You mean you were not surprised to find these photos because you knew about her taking them in the first place - it wasn't just DEERed when you found out about said photos?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Can you ask again, your question doesn't make a lot of sense

[–]hobohunter240 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Has she ever sent you nudes before? If not...well, we all know what's up.

[–]All_Ads_Deceive-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Did she tell you about the nudes in February or after you saw them?

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

In February

[–]All_Ads_Deceive1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your wife wouldn't naturally be embarrassed by her husband seeing her nude. That makes no sense. You're mistaking fear for embarrassment. She got worried when you saw them because she was almost busted. When you believed her, she said "phew close call". Phone records will not disprove what happened. There are way better ways to send nudes

It's also not a coincidence this occurred while she was home alone. I've hooked up with girls who are the perfect loyal girlfriends. As soon as her mans out of town she acts likes she's single again. They'll fuck me all weekend and then run into me with her bf like nothing happened

[–]bsutansaltRed Beret-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Trust, but verify.

I'd give her the benefit of the doubt that she was doing like you discussed (trying to take sexy pics), but also look at those phone logs from around that time just to be certain. And that doesn't account for possible snapchat, facebook messenger, and who knows what else she might use to send them to someone else these days. Do your due dilligence and thoroughly check her phone.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/5mi9h1/guy_finds_out_wife_took_nude_photos_while_he_was/

Check out this thread op. The guys on the red pill disagree with me and several, others. The op over there is definitely worth considering. Time to trust but verify.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I remember her mentioning that she tried taking provocative nudes but didn't like them and deleted them from her phone.

Doesn't sound like gaslighting or hiding anything to me. Occam's + Hanlon's razors

Unless there's something else putting things into a "fool me twice" situation, it's not worth losing sleep.

[–]AmputateYourHead-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

If she's up to no good, Until you've got solid evidence, don't let on that you have any suspicions. Telling liars which parts of the story sound like bullshit just makes them better liars.



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