TL;DR: wife found out about RP and seems like she uses it as an Infinite Indignation Generator to give her an unending source of victimhood feelz.
Long marriage with teenage kids. Found out about RP a good time ago, started to implement it. Read the sidebar, the books, lifting, got in shape. DB resurrected.
Complication: wife found out about RP and I think she read a large part of the literature and the related subs.
E.g. she uses RP terminology in her shit and comfort testing: "alpha", "dread", "my SMV is too low!" etc.
This by itself is not a problem. I can deal with shit tests now, comfort tests also. They don't phase me any more.
But what I notice is that she's getting so heavy into victim mentality in a way that's too much even for a woman. E.g. reacting to a romantic surprise trip with crying and over the charts indignation. "How could you do this to me! you're a monster!" kind of stuff. Everything I do (or don't do) is assumed to be part of a power play (can be as simple as replacing a household item).
I'm getting the feeling that her completely exaggerated and unwarranted woe-is-me-my-husband-is-a-psychopath mentality has little to do with my actual actions or things I say, but rather the horror stories she reads on /r/exredpill or who the fuck knows where.
I believe being an "RP-victim" became a big part of her identity now. She reads about it all the time and mentally projects those stories on our relationship.
I never discuss RP with her. I don't DEER about it (or about anything else). She also doesn't mention it outside shit / comfort testing.
Does anyone have experience with this?
(BTW the amazing stuff is that this shit still works even when she knows about it.)