I'm 39, been married for 5 years, really good captain / first mate relationship, together 8 years. Sex often 3-4 times a week all of that is good. I am the breadwinner in the house 6 figures, 3 promotions in 3 years with another on the horizon next year, been with the company for 4 years. Have two great kids boy and a girl 1 and 4.
So here's the problem my wife is ten years younger than me so her dad is pretty young just turned 50, well he just got diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer and it's everywhere and it doesn't look good. We moved 10 hours away for my job to where I'm from originally on the east coast. We have been discussing moving back next year already once I hit my 5 years and get a guaranteed pension as I have family there as well and honestly prefer the pace down south. Well I can see she wants to go back, hasn't begged me or pleaded but she's banged up over it. We don't know how long he has, they say with chemo he may have 2 years but you never really know and the guy is a trainwreck, 2.5 pack a day smoker with nothing but a diet of Mt. Dew and McDonalds we're talking uber lifestyle change I don't really know that he can make.
So basically guys I know the request to move sooner is coming, I'm flying her down there and keeping a kid and sending a kid for a couple weeks, we just took a trip when we found out a month ago. I can't see how I can just quit such a good job that I enjoy for a company that loves me but at the same time how can I let her sit 10 hours away and have her resent me for it. Could use some opinions here. Thanks.
Edit: Thanks for the input everyone, I'm just going to continue with the way we are going, I kind of new it was the best path all along but I've always found it's best to look at all angles before making a big decision and knew everyone here shoots pretty straight. Thanks again.