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I want to feel wanted; shit or comfort?

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September 9, 2016

What does it mean when your wife who you have a very passionate sex life with says she wants to feel more wanted? Is that a shit or comfort test? If there are guys at work she wants to talk to but not really hang out with and you are curious and ask why and she says they just make her feel wanted and comfortable, are these betas in her mind or alphas in hiding?

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Title I want to feel wanted; shit or comfort?
Author BPAnonamouse
Upvotes 6
Comments 19
Date 09 September 2016 01:14 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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[–]The_LitzRed Beret8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

As a general rule of thumb you can distinguish shit and comfort test in the following way:

I I am feel lonely. I want to feel wanted. I I I . Comfort.

You. You are an asshole. You do what you want to do. You you you. These are shit tests.

The work dudes are propably beta orbiters. And no, you are not off the hook because they are lame ass bitches, even lame ass bitches get laid at the office party.

[–]bornredd2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is gold man. Super easy way to differentiate that appears to have about 90%+ accuracy.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

It means nothing.

For wasting everyone's time- you owe us 12 squats at whatever your 1rm-10% is.

She wants to feel special. You are not special to her and your attention doesn't feel special. Got it?

[–]Griever1141 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

nailed it

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

Make up one of those old western style WANTED posters with her image on it.

Staple is around the neighborhood.

Wait for laughs.


I agree with Litz, the I makes it a comfort test. But pairing this with her mentioning of other guys, it may be a small bit of trickle truth too. She trickles that she wants these guys' attention, then that she went to lunch, then that they hung out at night "but it was nothing". Keep an eye out for how this proceeds, but don't fall into a mate guarding trap.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

In on the posters. Maybe put an old-time mustache and cowboy hat on.

Reward: $16.32 + half a case of beer

[–]JackGetsIt3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

It's a comfort test but it's a 'hard' comfort test. There are comfort tests that women run when they are coming into a relationship and want more of you, and there are comfort tests when women are slowly walking away from a relationship. This women is slowly turning away from you and you need to see it as a big red flag. There's lots of room for error on your part at this juncture.


-ignore it

-argue with her

-spy on coworkers, check phone, mate guard

-accuse her of trying to blow up the relationship


-Acknowledge to yourself that her emotional state is temporary and fixable

-Apply very very light dread; lifting, hanging out away from the house a touch more.

-Acknowledge that she needs a boost of excitement but it needs to be seen as coming form you. A trip, a task, a mission for her.

-See it as an opportunity because if she wasn't giving you these comfort test clues she'd already be sleeping with a co-worker. She's only walking away from you right now. Not running.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

She means no fap, probably

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I will break this down for you, as I see it…..

(1)..have a very passionate sex life with says she wants to feel more wanted?…….

This tells you she likes sex. But she wants to feelz something more. Pretty straightforward. She wants you to be less beta.

(2) guys at work she wants to talk to but not really hang out with……..

This is probably a half truth.

She likes to talk to these guys=attraction,

But not really hang out with them=not really true if she if attracted, plus she is married, what would you expect her to say.

(3) she says they just make her feel wanted and comfortable

They make her feel wanted=attraction.

Make her comfortable = they are not worshipping her pussy, like maybe you are doing.

The fact that you are showing your worry about these guys to us, she certainly knows it too. Her version of dread.

She s'plained to you in no uncertain woman-speak terms; to man up, quit worshipping my pussy, take me off the pedestal and fuck me harder because I have other options.

So get busy on your MAP, and give her what she needs. Best

[–]redearththeory1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

What does it mean when your wife ... says she wants to feel more wanted?

Your wife is insecure. She thinks that more attention from higher value men will fix this. Some insecure men are the same way. They think more attraction from hotter women will make them feel better. Read, lift, keep working on you. Make yourself more valuable and fill that need for high value attention as much as you can.

[–]anythingincRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

she wants to feel more wanted...right now.

When was the last time you approached her with passion, with intensity...pounced on her and kissed her furiously like a man possessed, let her feel your raging erection.

Bonus points if you then hold yourself back...chill...say "I needed that"...and walk away like it never happened.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Kiss her on the forehead, then go back and redo the sidebar, this question sucks

[–]jeezydasnowman1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Shit test.

Think about the CORRECT way to handle it and these other, similar shit tests you are also getting:

  • You're not serious enough.

  • You make me feel like I don't matter to you.

  • Why are you always with your friends

  • You use me for sex

  • You're a bad listener

  • I can't beleive you liked her post on instagram

What does it mean? It means you have an opportunity to build attraction and strengthen your relationship by displaying oak qualities and not letting her insecurity/silliness/bitchiness/craziness rattle your frame.

If there are guys at work she wants to talk to but not really hang out with and you are curious and ask why and she says they just make her feel wanted and comfortable, are these betas in her mind or alphas in hiding?

You know what I would do if my girlfriend asked me why I talked to my coworkers platonically? I would laugh in her face. Your wife must have to deal with a lot of shit from you ...

[–]freshona0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

She wants to be on a pedestal.

Do you think you should put her there?

[–]Griever1140 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Trick question... the answer is always a resounding FUCK NO.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It means she's a validation whore and she's threatening to let the pussies at work do it because you wont. Proceed as if a comfort test, but beware of beta perils.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes. I need, want = comfort. You, your = shit.

Sit down close your eyes and think about about rejections, fights and your mood from statemts from her. What words divthey start with ?

Crack open WISNIFG. That book has a great bit of advice. Superior Man is a great book These two books can truly help you recognize what and how the shit tests and comfort tests effect you and an understanding as to what and how to deal

I would say that the guys at work are giving an ear and no advice. They just nod, place hands on their faves and scream OMG and give no advice or input as how to fix the whatever she is relating. (I have to catch myself sometimes and just sit there and engage and let her unload on me. I ask questions, and tell how neat, cute, terrible.... etc something is). Later that night if I do it properly and give her some time she generally initiates Who'd a thought

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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