Happy wife, happy life

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September 8, 2016

This phrase gets shit on a lot around here, and with good reason. Like most axioms, though, it’s a bit more nuanced and actually contains a lot of truth that has been distorted by how it’s used in culture today. “If mamma aint happy, aint nobody happy!” is most often the context in which we see the trope utilized, implying that the wife is in control of the tone of the relationship. The real truth to of the words is buried beneath the follow on question that rarely gets answered correctly;


How do you make a woman happy? Spoiler alert: the answer is not 42.


At its root, MRP is male self-improvement for its own sake, in order to be a better man. Invariably, when a poster has too much “her” in a post he gets called out for being in her frame and/or making covert contracts and generally being a faggot, and rightfully so! The only person we can directly control is our self, so worrying about her is counterproductive. She is generally welcome to come along for the ride, but only if/when she learns to submit, follow our leadership, and toe the line; she has to add value to the crew, and in return she will benefit from life aboard our ship.


Our goodwill and willingness to have her along is linked directly to her behavior, which can be a difficult thing for those of us still struggling with blue pill conditioning to reconcile. We are trained to put women and children first, ahead of our own welfare; this is true in the context of western, feminized culture in general where young men are spoon fed the “knight in shining armor” Nice Guy ideology, but especially in conservative Christianity and influenced communities.


I’ve seen a lot of posts since I’ve been following the subs that contain something to the effect of: “I want to improve my marriage and I want my wife to want to fuck me, but I won't use dread because divorce/cheating/flirting is wrong because [reasons].” While this is counterproductive from a purely practical standpoint with respect to implementation of MRP theory and techniques, it also reveals a critical flaw in their mindset. Being unwilling to implement higher stages of dread seems to stem most often from residual misconceptions about TRP/MRP methods being immoral, or from feelings of guilt over how she and/or your kids will be affected if higher dread levels, up to cheating and divorce, are on the table even if they are never necessary. She senses this lack of congruence, and the whole mess backfires, leaving him with an even bigger hole to dig out of.


The irony is that these conscience-ruled recovering white knights needn’t worry about hurting her feelz in the short term, because by following MRP praxeology, by focusing on self-improvement without concern for how she will react to it, and by becoming the best, most masculine man and leader that you can be, you are in fact answering correctly that ultimate question of life, the universe and everything.


Once you’ve learned the basic principal of how women communicate covertly by looking at what she does, not what she says, you come to realize that the axiom is not really incorrect, so much as incomplete; a happy wife and a happy life do, in fact, go together. The problem lies in our lack of understanding of the methodology for achieving those things; it makes a lot more sense, and is more true to life, once inverted just so: A happy life leads to a happy wife. Or, more succinctly:


Happy life, happy wife.


Edit: formatting

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Title Happy wife, happy life
Author Gallbladder_Summoner
Upvotes 12
Comments 15
Date 08 September 2016 04:36 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/207118
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/51s71t/happy_wife_happy_life/
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[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Happy life, happy wife.

Slow clap...

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Why not post this on MRP?

[–]Gallbladder_Summoner[S] 3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

I know I'm a decent writer when I put my mind to it, so the necessary quality with respect to the words is there, but I was iffy on the content of the post.

I did clean it up when I posted it here, but this is literally a journal entry I wrote a few days ago in order to carry my thoughts to completion.

Since I'm new here - this is my first stand-alone post, and my second if you count my OYS entry for this week - I figured it would most appropriate to post it in the beginner sub where the questionably valuable posts belong.

The concept of going all-in and committing fully to a course of action - in this case, the established MRP process - seems pretty elementary and like something newbies would be most likely to benefit from.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Solid reasoning

[–]PersaeusRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Agree with TFA that this is MRP material. You should consider reposting this to MRP at a later date, maybe with examples from your own journey. A solid message such as this bears repeating.

[–]Gallbladder_Summoner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for the vote of confidence; I'll consider revisiting this in a few weeks once I'm a bit further along and have had some time to ruminate on it some more.

[–]The_Litz2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Jolly good show old chap.

Some very valid points made, especially concerning the willingness to end the relationship. Women control the (access to) sex, men control the relationship.

By default then, if you control the relationship, you are the one deciding to end it or let it carry on.

Brothers, take note of this concept.

[–]Gallbladder_Summoner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I touched on it briefly here, but there have been quite a few posts on the main sub recently that go into congruence - the concept that our external behavior and manner should be the same, or at least closely in sync with, our internal self - in some capacity, and I think that lack of congruity is what trips up the guys who can't bring themselves to "dread" their wives.

Incongruence – disharmony between our external and internal selves – is frame-cancer, and women are experts at spotting it. Regardless how well you do in the beginning, if you are bluffing when it comes to the point where she has to wonder “am I in danger of losing him?”, she will know the answer because she sees the real you. At that point she will either start toeing the line if you have your shit together, or she will escalate and become the biggest cunt on the face of the earth (right now; with you).

If you refuse to buy in for ostensibly moral reasons, you aren’t being kind or compassionate to her, you are being the cruelest, most hateful man possible, because you are setting her, and your marriage, up for failure. The power struggles and shit tests will escalate until you get your act together, or someone officially nukes the marriage.

She will not fight to keep you around no matter how much money you make, how hot you are, or even if your alpha level is above 9000 unless she knows beyond the shadow of a doubt (because her hamster told her) that you are willing and able to cast her aside if she doesn’t.

[–]sh0ckley1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well said! I saw someone say this the other day and thought to myself - isn't it the other way around?

[–]the_red_monk1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Now if only my babelfish could translate women-speak...

Good post.

However, the answer is indeed 42. I'm sure you'll see that this means everything you've said is true and the harmony and laws of the universe require the actions you espouse to realize it's universal truness. Indeed, there is no other way since the universal law in summation equal 42 in their entirety. Failure to do so will be met with shit-tests, deadbedrooms, and the worst that the fairer sex has to offer the unfortunate man who believes the answer could be none other than 42. Thus, let it be writ, and let it be done.

And don't forget to bring your trusty towel...

[–]Gallbladder_Summoner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

On reflection, you may be correct.

Years ago, before finding the Locker Room, and likely around the time the newer movie came out, I had a habit of responding to questions with "42" just to be a dick.

in hindsight I may have been on to something, without realizing it.

[–]sexyshoulderdevil75% Liquid Sarcasm0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Man, I love me some good word play.

To other new guys lurking, his contribution benefits him more than you. He's selfish...with benefits.

By putting this post together, he was forced to think through all that he has learned and then summarize it with a new spin. Internalize through teaching. This is how one can truly learn new concepts without resorting to rote memorization. You may get your ass handed to you along the way...but so what...you'll be right next time.

[–]Gallbladder_Summoner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I am absolutely being selfish, no doubt about it; I journaled about this topic last weekend after I was at the store shopping for groceries and encountered an unkempt hipstery dude with tons of holes in his face and kid in tow rocking a "happy wife happy life" tee shirt and immediately thought to myself "faggot!"


I thought about it further, and other than outward appearances and the phrase on his shirt, how do I really know that he's not on point and owning his shit? What if he's wearing it sarcastically, or ever better, gets it on a deeper level?


I have my suspicions as to which is accurate, but if I run into him again I plan to thank him for making me think.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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