This phrase gets shit on a lot around here, and with good reason. Like most axioms, though, it’s a bit more nuanced and actually contains a lot of truth that has been distorted by how it’s used in culture today. “If mamma aint happy, aint nobody happy!” is most often the context in which we see the trope utilized, implying that the wife is in control of the tone of the relationship. The real truth to of the words is buried beneath the follow on question that rarely gets answered correctly;
How do you make a woman happy? Spoiler alert: the answer is not 42.
At its root, MRP is male self-improvement for its own sake, in order to be a better man. Invariably, when a poster has too much “her” in a post he gets called out for being in her frame and/or making covert contracts and generally being a faggot, and rightfully so! The only person we can directly control is our self, so worrying about her is counterproductive. She is generally welcome to come along for the ride, but only if/when she learns to submit, follow our leadership, and toe the line; she has to add value to the crew, and in return she will benefit from life aboard our ship.
Our goodwill and willingness to have her along is linked directly to her behavior, which can be a difficult thing for those of us still struggling with blue pill conditioning to reconcile. We are trained to put women and children first, ahead of our own welfare; this is true in the context of western, feminized culture in general where young men are spoon fed the “knight in shining armor” Nice Guy ideology, but especially in conservative Christianity and influenced communities.
I’ve seen a lot of posts since I’ve been following the subs that contain something to the effect of: “I want to improve my marriage and I want my wife to want to fuck me, but I won't use dread because divorce/cheating/flirting is wrong because [reasons].” While this is counterproductive from a purely practical standpoint with respect to implementation of MRP theory and techniques, it also reveals a critical flaw in their mindset. Being unwilling to implement higher stages of dread seems to stem most often from residual misconceptions about TRP/MRP methods being immoral, or from feelings of guilt over how she and/or your kids will be affected if higher dread levels, up to cheating and divorce, are on the table even if they are never necessary. She senses this lack of congruence, and the whole mess backfires, leaving him with an even bigger hole to dig out of.
The irony is that these conscience-ruled recovering white knights needn’t worry about hurting her feelz in the short term, because by following MRP praxeology, by focusing on self-improvement without concern for how she will react to it, and by becoming the best, most masculine man and leader that you can be, you are in fact answering correctly that ultimate question of life, the universe and everything.
Once you’ve learned the basic principal of how women communicate covertly by looking at what she does, not what she says, you come to realize that the axiom is not really incorrect, so much as incomplete; a happy wife and a happy life do, in fact, go together. The problem lies in our lack of understanding of the methodology for achieving those things; it makes a lot more sense, and is more true to life, once inverted just so: A happy life leads to a happy wife. Or, more succinctly:
Happy life, happy wife.