MRP has turned my marriage completely around. I lift and am in the best shape of my life, so far. I've read all of the prerequisites, all of Red Pill 101, and several of the other suggested books. I'm around dread level 5 or 6. I'm leading at home and my wife follows. She serves up minimal shit tests, and is pretty pleasant to be around. Sex is a few times a week, and it's not starfish sex. All of these things are vastly better than what they were a year ago.
The problem is it's generally nice and polite sex. I'm trying to get it to hot, naughty, porn-star sex and it's like pulling teeth.
Before MRP, I was a lifelong massive blue pill beta. I was way overweight, with limited social skills, and no game. So, a SMV in the gutter, and as you'd imagine, I wasn't very sexually experienced when we got married. She was a post-Wall woman who I'm sure married me for my beta bux, but I believe she did not ride the CC. Instead, she was also sexually inexperienced, and seems to have been mostly ashamed by her sexuality.
I don't think she's ever masturbated, and doesn't seem to want to. Has never owned a sex toy before, and doesn't use what I bought for her. No sexting, no naked pictures. Doesn't like me fingering her. Likes me going down on her but doesn't orgasm from it. Does BJTC and I can cum in her mouth, but then spits instead of swallowing. Basically disinterest and/or massive LMR whenever I want to try something new or different.
On the other hand, she loves my cock in her pussy, loves getting fucked, and orgasms from it. She'll dress sexy for me, and she will initiate on occasion. She's gotten more accepting of sexuality recently. I've been able to get her to fuck outside the bedroom around the house a few times, albeit with the lights off and tons of LMR. She's started randomly rubbing my cock outside my clothes during the day, and will tell me that she's had tingles thinking about me while I'm at work. She says me stroking outside her ass feels good, but doesn't want any anal penetration.
My question is whether anyone else here has gone through this before, and how did it go for you? I don't know of this is just a reflection of my current SMV & dread, and I can expect these issues to resolve themselves as that improves (I'm at about 18 - 20% BF currently, so there's definitely room for improvement)? Or, am I just expecting too much too fast, and I have to be more patient and keep doing what I've been doing? Or, is she starting from such a sexually repressed place that I just shouldn't expect her to ever get there? Or, am I just expecting too much, and should just be happy that my wife likes to fuck me?
I know that it's her choice whether to step through the door after I've led her to it. I know she just may not step through it. The advice here is about turning around a sexless marriage, though, and my question to the collective wisdom here is, "and then what?" Has anyone else here gone through this, and can give some advice?