I was told that I might get better insight here.
I want to start off by stating that I have read Rule Zero, been a reader of TRP, RPW, and AskTRP for a little over a year. I consider myself red-pilled, and have great respect for what you gentlemen do. I'm coming here for advice because in my personal life I have no other RP men to ask.
My husband's personal health is at a cross-road. I understand that he is the master of his own body, and I have done so much to keep from nagging him about anything. This mindset, perhaps, is why I'm having such a hard time now. We aren't as financially secure as we would like to be, but we are making ends meet however we can. My husband has a serious health issue, and the treatment for fixing and preventing more from happening in the future is very expensive. However, we have been blessed with the opportunity for a sponsor to pay for all of his medical procedures. He was happy, and wants to proceed. At least, that's what he told me a year ago. I left it up to him to schedule an appointment, and to work out the details however he saw fit.
He has procrastinated. I have brought up making an appointment only a few times this past year (“I'm so thankful our sponsor is offering to pay for your procedure” and much later “I know you have a busy schedule at work, so if you would rather tell me the days you have free I can make the appointment for you”). Now, I was informed on the phone yesterday that the offer was not given unlimited time, and if we still wanted it done, it needed to be now. I asked him this morning if he was still interested in going through with it. He said yes. I told him that I was informed it was now a time-sensitive matter, and the offer would be redacted if he didn't take it. He was angry (frustrated might be a better word, though) and told me he would handle it. I left the conversation at that and finished getting the kids ready for the day.
Everyone (him, myself, the doctors) know that if he doesn't get the help he needs, his quality of life will severely diminish. He has almost died once from this back in 2009. The severity of this is pretty high.
My question is this: What, if anything, can I do now? What can I do, as a supportive wife, to help him?
I'm not asking how to “make” him do anything, or looking for pity, or even complain. I value my husband and want to have him in my life as long as possible. I feel now that our “till death do us part” is a little closer than it should be. Is this something I just need to deal with, or am I overlooking something?
Thank you in advance for your insight.