Update: I consulted with two lawyers and went ahead and started the ball rolling. The female attorney that I went with is drafting up the filing and should have it to me tomorrow. She noted that it would take criminal charges to remove me from the house but that a temporary order could be used to remove me temporarily. Those are heard by the courts quickly. Also listed the house with a real estate agent.
Tl;dr at the bottom...
More victim puke...And I'm totally embarrassed.
I had been busy all morning doing my thing. I worked out at my usual 6:30am then came home and had a high protein breakfast. I piddled around for a few hours and washed my car. After coming in from doing that jump in the shower. She's still asleep at 11:30am, which is very common for her.
When I finish my shower and put my underwear on, I step out to get the rest of my clothes. She's finally awake and my kid is bringing her morning coffee to her. (beta me use to do that but since our marriage has been on the rocks I stopped
I ate lunch and then grabbed my phone to take a break on the living room sofa. My kid and my wife started off discussing that school was about to start on Wednesday and my son's last day on his summer job would be Monday.
My kid evidently had an agreement with my wife, unbeknownst to me, that Monday would be the last day on the job. Evidently when he turned his notice in he messed up and told them Tuesday. She totally flips out with her usual victimhood crap. "You people never listen to me" , "You're gonna regret when it's just you and your daddy living here without me." My son speaks up and pleads with her not to be mad at him. Of course I'm trying to get my son's attention and to tell him to stfu. Not because of what she said but because he was making it worse by groveling to her.
At this point I'm beyond irritated. She keeps saying how we've made her the way she is and that her doctor and psychiatrist can vouch for her "it's all documented" I'd heard and had enough and I firmly tell her that she needs to drop the victimhood crap that she wields like a sword. I told her that she was responsible for many things too with our failed marriage but she would never admit any wrongs. I also told he she is responsible for her emotions.
At this point she starts bringing up all of my past deeds and one that she's been holding onto for two years. I told her that I'm not perfect and never will be but she has to let that shit die. I also told her that she has lost all of her friends because she takes everything personal. At this point she asks me to leave. I told her no. She said she would call the police and have me put out if I didn't leave. She says her doctors told her she could do that. I told her for physical abuse not for spousal problems.
So two police officers roll up and she runs out the door pleading with them to make me leave and that I was emotionally abusing her. I step outside and one of the officers politely asks me to step back inside. I comply.
After they are finished with hearing what she has to say I step outside, apologize for her calling them out, and explain my side of the story. They pretty much tell me that "she needs help" and they can't make me leave but maybe I could leave for a few hours and come back later. I agree to that but tell them that I have no place to leave permanently to. They leave my wife with some information on domestic abuse and hotlines numbers of she needs help. The officer warns me that it better not get physical. I kinda giggle and tell them I have no desire to go to jail and would never and have never would physically harmed her. I again apologise and tell them I was sorry they were called out to mediate a discussion.
They leave and she's even more pissed. She asks if I can go stay at friends apartment. I call him and tell him the situation. He says loudly over the phone which she heard. "I'm not going give her an out to throw you on the street. Don't leave." Of course she starts bringing up other relatives that I could stay with but I refuse to impose on them.
During all this, even while the officers were at my house, she's telling my son that I'm causing all this and that if I didn't leave she would. My son begins to cry at which point I tell her to leave him alone and keep him out of it. She keeps asking him if he was going with her or staying. I told her to stop and that she was welcome to leave but not to force this shit in my son.
So she packs her suit cases and about hour later she's out the door to stay with a parent. My son begrudgingly goes too. I told him to call if he wanted me to get him.
My plan tomorrow is to contact an attorney and a real estate agent. I'm done with the craziness.
During all this I remained very stoic and also used a lot from WISNIFG. I told her several times that no one was forcing her to stay. Me reacting with idgf seemed to make her furious. Beta me would have probably left. Beta me would have cried and plead with her to calm down and admit I was the reason for her melt down. I did tear up while I was talking to the police because of the turmoil it was causing for my son. She can kick me all she wants, leave him the fuck alone.
Right now I am at complete peace with myself. She on the other hand seems out of control and bat shit crazy. My child is my main concern.
Luckily the parent she is staying at knows the situation. If she wasn't going there I would have demanded my kid stay.
Now isn't this some shit????
tl;dr Wife flips out during a discussion at which I point out her flaws and tell her she needs to get her shit together. She calls the police. Police came and basically tells me she needs help. She was acting on instructions of her psychiatrist. Police are sympathetic to her and my problem. Wife pleads for me to leave. I stay, she goes with my kid in tow.