My girl and I have been together for about 10 years. For most of that time I've been pretty beta. Insecure, whiny, jealous, butthurt, all that good stuff. That all changed 2 or 3 years ago when I found the red pill. Things have been great and are currently better than ever. This shit really works as long as you aren't a complete social retard and are at least midly self-aware.
For almost our entire relationship my gf has worked at jobs that primarily cater to women, so her co-workers and customers have been exclusively women or gay men. I haven't had to worry too much about other dudes she spends time with, not that I should anyway, but blue pill me would have imploded.
However she recently changed jobs and now works with basically the perfect human male specimen. She was talking about her new job over dinner and begins talking about this guy like "oh yea, there's this guy I work with who is super hot and every girl there is obsessed with him." I laugh a little because I don't really give a fuck. There's always going to be someone better than me and if she wants to leave me for him, so be it. That's life and no point crying about it. Honestly, I figured the guy was only OK looking and she was just shit testing me about it, but I stopped by a few days later and holy shit, this dude is amazing. 6'5, handsome as hell face, jacked as a mother fucker, from eastern Europe so he's redpill as fuck and he has a sweet accent. I have nothing but respect for this guy and harbor no ill will about the whole thing. I also take it as a good sign that my girl told me, instead of saying nothing. If I was still beta she wouldn't have said shit because I would have freaked the fuck out, so at least I have that going for me I guess.
However I find myself slipping back into some old beta habits. Just feeling down, worrying about if they're hitting it off or whatever. I know she is AWALT, and I have a pretty good abundance mentality, but I would prefer not to completely lose frame and turn into an insecure bitch every time she mentions the guy or whatever. I'd like to keep her around as long as I can and don't want to fuck it up by mate guarding or getting insecure about it.
So I'm just wondering if there's any other guys on here whose women work, or spend a good amount of time with guys that are just way "better" than them. Obviously looks aren't everything, and having tight game and a good personality help, but let's be honest, most guys who are as built and attractive as this guy also have good game and personality, so that will only go so far.
Again, I really don't give a fuck either way, but I'd prefer to not push my girl away by having a weak frame or getting caught up in a negative headspace when she tells me something funny this dude said, or about how every girl there wants to suck his dick off.
Any advice? Is not giving a fuck the only thing I can do? I'm lifting and getting in better shape every day, but I started a few years ago, whereas this dude looks like he has been shoveling Romanian coal since he was in diapers.
Any thoughts on boundries? If they all go out for drinks or whatever after work, what's appropriate and what's not? Should I ask to come along or does that seem clingy and weird? I'm just getting caught up in my own head over this tall handsome ubermensch and need a slap back to reality.