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My wife just left me with our baby...

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July 19, 2016
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Update: So my wife has been coming to our apartment while I have been at work. She took her keys with her aparently. Getting some clothes for her and some stuff for the baby. Good sign I guess... So last night she came outside of our apartment in a car. She sent her sisters doughter who is a teenager up to me with our doughter so I could see her. I was really glad to see my doughter after maybe a week, I have been thinking about her alot and realised how much I love her. But my doughter was crying and I went back out after some minutes and left her in the car. I never said a word to my wife. Went to my car and drove back to work becuse I had break.

Later that night I reached out to my wife, becuse after a while the meeting with my doughter made me emotional and I send her a mesage that if she thinks that her letting me see the doughter for 2 mins in a week makes her a good person then she is mistaken. I also said I dont cheat on your, nor hit you nor do I lie to you and you still do all this to me? Told her she is controlling and manipulative. And told her I really hope life gets it back to her and what so deserve for this. And if she wanna really divorce then I am really ready. Finally I told her that I am very disapointed at her.

I really dont give a fuck. Would I miss her? Maybe for a while. If she wanna come back and try make things work, fine. If not, then good bye. I will get a new wife who is much younger.

Anyway she send me some text saying she felt bad for withholding our doughter from me and said she told my mother she could take her and come here with her so I could see her. And to be honest my mam has called me almost every day but I have not taken her calls. And said that I would never understand her and how she felt. And I could come visit the doughter later after work the same night at her parent house.

My thought on all hers text? Did not give a single fuck about them all. Did not respond. Deeper in to the night she sends me a "?". I did not reply. Just thinking to my self that I wont go to her parents house.

Short version at the end:

I dont know where to start really but here we go. I do read in here and have made some posts asking for tips...I would call my self a noob red piller.

Me and my wife have been married for 2 years we are both around 30. We have a baby of 4 months. Now with the RP lins I can see that I was a big beta for the most of my life exept the last years when I started to wake the fuck up. I sure do have a lot of Beta traits that I do know and dont know about. But Im learning...getting better. Lifting, cardio, seeing shit test and comfort test. Holding frame and so on...all this that I never understod before. Read NMMNG and Athol Kays book.

She was the traditional CC rider until she hit the wall. Alpha Widow. She got religious. And so did I. We meet through friends and got married very fast. It was when I met her that I was swallowing the pill. Now I do know all about her former life. Her past does not bother me that much. I have come to accept it. Sex has never been an issue. I can do what I want with her in bed. The problems we have had from the start was her, again with the RP lins, shit tests. They would never stop. Drove me mad. Then comfort tests. Nagging. But most of all she would suspect me cheating on her from day one every fucking time when she did not know where I was or did something out of "order". Now I do know this is a major red flag for a slut that she will accuse you of cheating all the time.

Example: Like I could take my time to get home from work instead of lets say the usual 15 mins I could take 40 mins to get home and she would act like a did drove a co worker home and and fucked her there. This is just one example. And she would not let it go until she found out where the fuck I was. Now after 2 years it gets fuckin annoying. Shes not the FBI where I tell her exactly where Im going when I do head out or with whom I was. I have told her many times to stop with it but she never did. If I am going out in the day she wants to know where and with who... and so on.

We had many fights over it. I do know that her behavior is becuse she was with a really Alpha dude before me for 2 years who owned her soul hard. I know the guy. Ripped. Change girls every 2 weeks. He is the Chad. But anyway she would never stop. She said that it made her fell bad when she did not know where the fuck I was and I dont care about her feelings when I dont tell her where I am.

Now I refused to submitt to her frame and told her she was annoying many times and she should stop and grow up. Now here is the thing. I dont go out alot. Most of the time I spend at work. Gym, Cardio, meetings friends. But she never stopped acting like Gestapo. Same thing happend today when I got home. Where have you been? You are 30 mins late from work and this bullshit. I told her this was the last time I told her where I was when she asked med and next time I would only tell her if I feel the should know. I go to bed and wanna sleep. She starts cry and wanna talk. I told her to stfu and close the door and let me sleep. We can talk when I wake the fuck up becuse I was at work for whole day and was so tired and wanted just to sleep.

Now its importent to know that this is kinda the only thing that she wont let go. Every other things I have told her to do, she does it. Its very clear she has trust issuse. I have not not been able to cope with it or handle it. What is the right thing to do? I always thought that I would look like a pussy every time I told her where I was going or what to do.

Besides this she brings alot of value to my life and I dont want my doughter to grow up without a father. I did grow up with my mam, 2 systers and my mothers mam but without a father . I hade no fucking chance. Went total beta.

And we have been argue the last month about silly things and she was threathing with divorce and I told her that If you really wanna go there is the door I wont stop you.

And when its her periode shes changing to a fkin human cancer and her accusations peak then. She has medice for this but she does not take it...

I wake up and shes left the house with our doughter and went to her parents house. She texted me a message and said she cant do this anymore and whished me well and said goodbye.

I know the right thing to do is stay OI and dont give a fuck. And I will try to do that. But deep down I dont want another man to raise my doughter becuse the doughter would be with her if wife goes thrue this.

I could probly replace her with a much younger chick in the future thats not the problem.

Her parents are on vaccation for 10 more days and I plan not to reach out with her during this time. She can stay in their house. When her father comes back Im gonna talk to him and tell hem all about us. He needs to know. I wanted to do this so many times before but never did. With the intention that he could talk some sense in her when I cant. Her father is old school and a good guy.

Any tips on how to proceed?

Short story: Wife has trust issuse and wont stop trying to controll me where I go and with whom. Left me with our baby when I told her its enough. I have not done anything In my behavior that would suggest I was gonna cheat on her. She has absolute nothing on me and honestly I would not.


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Title My wife just left me with our baby...
Author zubinho
Upvotes 6
Comments 43
Date 19 July 2016 10:09 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/207313
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/4tnszm/my_wife_just_left_me_with_our_baby/
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[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (7 children) | Copy

You have a child, so I am going to ignore the "next" as a solution for now.

You say SHE is a real handful of nuts. You also say that other than her lack of trust, you really like her.

Since you can't change her by controlling her behavior, your only option is to change your behavior. This assumes that you have control over yourself at least part of the time. If you don't have good control over yourself, this is where you must start now.

She is so jealous that she is nuking the marriage to stop her pain. This is HER pain, not yours. I also think she is USING the trust issues like an emotional terrorist to manipulate you. Women just do that is they think they can. If she can control you, she will hate you for being weak, but fight you if you try to be strong. Chose strong.

Make no mistake, you have taken the "trust me" bait, hook line and sinker. You are clearly operating in her frame. Suggest you start reading WISNIFG from the side bar. It is an easy read, the first time through.

Take charge of you first, then you have a chance of dealing with her. Best

[–]zubinho[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

You are raising some good points.

Yea, I do like her and if she could drop this shit where she wants to know where I am going all the time,with who and why then I would have nothing to complain about regarding her. I would be happy and satisifed with her. But she wont dropt it no matter what I do. So you are saying I should start to tell her where I go, why and with who?

How have I taken the trust bait? I have been battling this shit since start. One of the reasons we argue so much is becuse I dont wanna fall into this frame of hers. Or what am I missing her? How am I in her frame? Take charge of me first how? Be concrete please.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Read my other comment first….

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Have you read WISNIFG?

[–]zubinho[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Im gonna do that. I alrdy have a copy of it in my phone.

[–]Griever1140 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Stop fucking around and read WISNIFG.

[–]komataniku0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

She is so jealous that she is nuking the marriage to stop her pain. This is HER pain, not yours.

This

[–]zubinho[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So what do I do about it?

[–]Chump_No_More2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

From what I can tell of your description, you've handled it fairly well with no unrecoverable errors.

I'm more concerned about about you're not telling us, because my gut is telling me there's more than what you've disclosed... guys come here and trickle-truth, much like cheaters do. If there's more, regardless of how bad a light it puts you in, we need to know in order to give the best advise.

Regardless, you can not capitulate on your boundaries with regards to her unreasonable need to know your every movement, up to and including divorce. If you did, she would literally 'own' you.

I agree that a 'cooling down' period is in order but conditionally disagree about not talking to her father. If her dad is a reasonable guy, explaining the situation (which they may already have a peripheral understanding of) and what's at stake could turn this around.

If you present yourself as the responsible, reasonable, but principled guy who's first concern is for your new family, but not at the expense of your integrity/dignity, then pulling him to your side could be huge.

I recommend this because she's emotionally painted herself into a corner and the only thing that will get her to walk across the wet floor is family and peer pressure.

Make it clear that your priority is to keep the family intact and healthy, but boundaries are non-negotiable and whatever negative consequences befall from her continued bad behavior will be entirely her doing.

I also agree with others on maintaining and documenting close relations with your baby girl. Not for financial reasons (although it's a factor) but because the burden is on you for your daughter not to turn into a carbon copy of her CC riding, low esteem, insecure, and obsessive mother.

[–]zubinho[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Im not hiding anything from you guys here. What do you want to know? Yea I do look at other women when Im out with her, but stopped that becuse of the shit storm from wife after that. And once looked up old ex on faceback where my wife saw that. Shit storm again. Im not cheating on her and I live a really simple life with work, hobbies and friends. Male friends. I dont have female friends and she dont have male friends.

Yea it feels like shes owning me every time I tell her where Im going and with who and to do what.

Im gonna leave her alone until her fathers come back and do my best at explaining this to him. Maybe 1 year ago we had big argue, she was being a bitch and I was ignoring her for a week. She then threw all my clothes out of the closet to the floor when I was at work. Coming home I saw that and told her I wanna divorce, she has crossed the line. She called her father. He came and listen to what happend. Said she was getting pissed of at tiny things and said long as I dont beat her or cheat on her then everything is all right. He even said that he did not think I was cheating as she was accusing me back then when I went out and told her shiit. He said I was not that type of guy. I mean come the fuck on. Her own father....

Her mother was also here and cried all the time. So he is half way on my side. He knows his doughter better then I do. But I do now belive that my wife is damaged gods with trust issuse. I strongly belive that.

I plan on marry away my doughter when shes 17-22. As long as I live she well never be a CC rider.

But thx for the post, your come with good advice.

[–]anythingincRed Beret1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

I had a gf like this when I was BP. I literally couldn't satisfy her. I'm pretty verbal, but it took so much time every day convincing her we were in a good relationship...satisfying her anxiety..it was exhausting..I remember telling her "someday I'm not going to do this anymore, and you'll be gone." And sure as shit, when I finally stopped spending hours calming her anxiety, she was gone. And thank god.

Now you have a child, and I'm not gonna go redknight commando on you because certainly after 9 months here you've got a hang of this, gave up WOW, gave up LOL, been lifting, have been attractive, not unattractive etc...what I'm going to suggest instead is looking into a postpartum illness.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Postpartum_depression https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maternity_blues https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Postpartum_psychosis

It is also a redpill maxim that you don't dread a pregnant woman, it is natural to be beta and comforting at this stage. You man up by not letting your wife rule everything baby related, and by extension everything relationship related at the moment.

[–]ThunderHeavyIndustry1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

This. If her nutrition and general health maintenance aren't any good there's a solid chance she's got some sort of postpartum depression. It's kind of amazing how much pregnancy/birth fucks a woman's system. She's less in control now than she normally is.

[–]zubinho[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Her nutrition och general health are good. She eats normal and is healthy. Doing cardio some times.

[–]zubinho[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It is exhausting I will give you that. She drains so much energy from me every day. I mean after a hard day at work I wanna come home and relax. Take it easy and just chill but I truly belive that she is high maintance.

I dont know man regarding the postpartum illness. I dont think thats its. I have been reading little about borderline and she is showing some signs for it, but I am not sure she has it.

And I never dreaded her when she was pregnant intentionally. She once found my PUA stuff on the computer and thats it. As a recovering nice guy I had no idea what dread was. I had so much love to give when we got married and truly did my best to make her happy and treat her like pure gold but the more better I was with her the bigger bitch she was vs me. Specially when she was having her period. After that things would calm down just to get repeated every month. Drives you man. I have truly come to belive in that only your mother can love you the way you want to be loved.

[–]zubinho[S] 1 point2 points  (13 children) | Copy

I have been up all night and thinking about this. Its morning now here. Im thinking of reaching out to her and tell her if she does not knock it off with this shit and comes back then indeed this is as far as the 2 of us go. And I find it very odd that she prefers to get divorced then just stop this one thing that is ruining our marrige. If not for hers sake then for our doughter? But I guess she has had her baby now from the BB and can go with her live. Im feeling kinda of used. And it makes me so fkin bad that she just wont stop with 1 thing that bothers me most...

Risk of victim puke but whatta hell...

And I really wanna know from you guys if I am doing the wrong thing not telling her where I go or with who...

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (12 children) | Copy

Help me understand. You are at home with baby. She is at Dad's house, alone, since Dad is out of town for a few days. She is an Alpha window. She is accusing you of cheating without reason.

Man, do you see that she might be the one that is not trustworthy? Cheating wives (almost) always accuse the husband. Act weird to keep things off-center. Suggest you get a girlfriend. Talk about divorce from out of the blue. Make sex less than enthusiastic or worse.

Now she has a few days alone……?

[–]zubinho[S] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

She is at her parents house with the baby. Her sister lives across the fathers house so she cant fuck anyone there. Her sister is probly there now and talking to her. And I dont rly belive she is cheating. No indikator for that at all infact its the opposite. When we are out in public and have to talk to other men she does not evern look them in their eyes in front of me. She has no male friends. She has cut contact with them all. Becuse of religion she does not even stay alone with other men. So Im alone home and been up whole night now thinking how to save this shiit.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Thanks for clearing that up. Have you read WISNIFG?

[–]zubinho[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

To be honest no I have not. I have read NMMNG and MMSL. Besides visiting this forum often...

[–]Griever1140 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Stop fucking around and read WISNIFG.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You have been around here almost a year. You have problems cause you are not doing the work on YOU.

That's all you get.

[–]lionmenden0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Becuse of religion she does not even stay alone with other men.

She was the traditional CC rider until she hit the wall. Alpha Widow. She got religious.

No idea what's going on, but I'd look closer at this before making assumptions.

[–]lionmenden0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

Yeah, the details matter here, and I was confused as well.

Baby is 4 months, you need to consider you might be dealing with mental illness (post-partum depression) or the baby is not yours and she's trying to leave with child support as quick as possible.

You need to look at getting her help (involving family is probably your best bet), getting a paternity test, and getting a lawyer. Probably in that order as your rule out possibilities.

[–]zubinho[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

What details do you want to know?

The kid is mine no doubt about it, involving her familiy I think is the right thing to do.

[–]lionmenden0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I know it's a tough time but I would go back and edit your post. Grammar, punctuation, make it easier to read and skim back and forth.

There's something missing. She left because she thinks you're cheating? Women with very young kids don't just leave on a hunch of infidelity. Did something happen before? Does she have a medical issue?

I'd talk to the sister.

[–]zubinho[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

She left becuse I told her I will never tell her again where I am going and with who when she ask. Had enough. The only time I would tell her was when I feel like doing it.

Happend before? What do you mean? Shes does have medicne for her periode but beside of that shes healthy.

Maybe I should talk to her sister.

[–]lionmenden0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I was assuming you were omitting something, or lying to yourself or us, but I think I misjudged this.

Take a deep breath and chill out. You didn't do anything wrong. I maybe would have gone with softer kid gloves because she's still on pregnancy hormones, but what you said is right and good enough. Very unlikely she will be gone for long.

I'd call the sister. Say you're worried and ask her to check in. If she asks why you're worried, say she was erratic, stormed out, you want to make sure everyone's safe and she's not suffering from post-partum or anything. All reasonable.

Don't ask about your wife, just ask the sister to check on her. If she's going to tell you how she's doing, she'll tell you whether you ask or not.

Give it a few days to cool off. Probably she comes back tomorrow, but if not, consider it a time to get some sleep which is tough with a 4 month old in the house. You don't need to panic or go new-wife-shopping just yet.

If you don't see her in a few days, go over and tell her you stand by what you said, because it's the only way you two can trust each other. Give her a hug, turn up the comfort, reassure her you're not cheating, but your position is the only reasonable one to take. Tell her you're at home when she's ready to come back. She isn't going to want to take care of your kid by herself for long.

[–]anotherswingingdick0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The kid is mine no doubt about it

we have doubts about that. But hey - you're the big expert on women!

PS: only a drunk Captain allows a Chief Mate to abandon ship with the ship's prime assets. You must get the police involved NOW to re-gain possession of the child. Anything less than her getting arrested and spending the night in jail, will lead her to believe that its cost-free to do it again.

Do your own parents have less right to see their grandchild than hers do? Well, now you're own mom can't call her own son to visit her grandchild. Your mom thinks you're a very very very weak man. And your mom is right.

[–]Griever1141 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

I said it in 2 other comments but it needs to be said since you are seriously lacking the skills to deal with a your psycho wife:

Stop fucking around and read WISNIFG as well as MAP.

Outside of that, as others mentioned she is an alpha widow and frankly off her rocker. Outside of her control issues, many times it has been stated here that the only reason someone resorts to constant accusations of cheating is that they are guilty as fuck for doing the same. She wants to know where you are at all times to prevent getting found out at the very least.

While you are improving yourself, i HIGHLY suggest you start seeing a lawyer. Do you honestly think that some that possessive who has already taken your child from under you wont do it again or something worse? UNless you unfuck this ship (which will take time you dont have at the moment) you need to start Plan B to protect yourself and your child. She being is a literal emotional terrorist. Bin Laden could have taken notes from her. This is emotional abuse to the highest regard. Soon she will start (if she hasnt already) forbidding you from going to see friends and family.

I say seek counsel to protect yourself and your child. Document everything. Save all texts about her being nuts and have something in writing regarding her not taking her medication. Is it for womanly issues or for her head? If she isnt taking perscribed pills, that is another checkmark in your favor.

Let me elaborate. You need to learn to captain this sinking ship, FAST. She has been nagging and controling you for FAR too long and its not going to get better. Fix your shit. Lift, read and seek counsel.

[–]zubinho[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Yea sometimes I really think she is a psycho. Other times she can be a very good wife. I will read the books Im on it. I dont think she is cheating at all.

I agree she is abusing me emotionaly with all this accusation. And as you say she has already started to get pissed of and angry when I do something with my syster. Now I dont to it many times, maybe once every 3-4 months. We go out and shopping or go to the cinema and this is just pissing her of hard. Her behavior here is not fucking normal. But she is blaming it on that we dont do so many things as couple outside the house. She has a point. We can do better on that.

She got medicine for her shark week but she wont take it. Yeah I told her she should start taking them becuse we argue all the time when shes having her period but she said no to that.

[–]Griever1140 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Ok so start making a MAP and follow it. Read, lift, lead and repeat

[–]zubinho[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yea got it.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

Sounds like me a month ago. You know what you need to do. DNGAF and live your awesome life. Don't talk with her dad. It will make you look like a pussy, crying that a girl took her ball and went home. Try to see as much of your daughter as possible. Document the time you spend and what you do with her if you want to be in her life. Consult a lawyer because your wife will likely be unpredictable. Keep a small recorder on you at all times when you're with your wife, so if she accuses you of abuse you can refute it. Don't let your wife know. Even if your wife refuses to let you see her, keeps texts saying that you tried to see your daughter.

[–]zubinho[S] 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

Not speak with her father at all? I get it if I go over there and talk to him but what if he comes to me and ask whats going on? Its important to mention that hes got 5 doughters him self and has very good contact with them all exept that he does not get involved in their marrige at all...but thx for the tip, I will keep that in mind.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

If her dad asks you what's going on, be vague and noncommittal. What is going on in your marriage to his daughter is none of his business.

[–]zubinho[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He dont gets involded in the marriage and you are right its none of his business but he can talk some sence to her. Like he have before with his other doughter when they had trouble in their relationships.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Talk with him. Keep it friendly. But don't complain about your wife. You don't want him to think his daughter married a pussy

[–]zubinho[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Yea but how do I talk about her mistakes and bad behavior withour complaining?

[–]Chump_No_More0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Contrary to others, I think a conversation with her dad is reasonable and inevitable.

He's going to come home to an irrational, ranting daughter (his 1st clue that something is amiss) in his house and want to know "wtf!". He'll talk to her, but based on his past behavior, he'll come to you for the other have of the story.

You don't complain, you don't whine, you state facts. It's crucial that you're the adult in the room and his daughter is the temper-tantrum throwing child.

I'm suggesting this because you need to deescalate the situation and build some breathing space so you can start doing the actual work that you should have been doing when you first found /MRP.

Too many guys come here with the "I'll sprinkle a little Alpha on it" mentality, half-ass it, and get exactly what they put into it... jack shit.

I'll be blunt, a big reason why you're here now is because you fucked up the last altercation where you threatened divorce. You don't respond to bitchy behavior with passive-aggressive stonewalling for a week. You nip the bitchy behavior in the bud by calmly using your /MRP toolbox and being the immovable, mighty oak. You never answer strong emotion in kind, that's what fucking women do. You allowed her to knock you out of your frame and then you emoted, like a woman, issuing an weak ultimatum.

High value men don't talk and threaten about divorce. They rationally weigh the value the marriage adds (or doesn't) against all the options and make an informed decision based on their best interests... they don't talk about it, they do it.

Is your wife a handful? Yup, sounds like it but understand that you're getting what you're projecting. If you're a shitty/drunk captain, not leading your family, then you'll get an irrational, obsessive and incessantly shit-testing wife.

Deescalate the situation, get her ass home, start from scratch on the sidebar, comment and get your ass handed to you in the weekly OYS posts, and be the husband/father/leader they need.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You aren't ready to talk to her about her mistakes. You need to get control of yourself first. She will put up walls and get defensive because in her mind, everything is your fault. You have to learn to not let her opinion and moods influence how you feel about yourself

[–]The_LitzRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Sounds like a couple of days break is what both of you need right now. Tell her this. Let her talk to her sister and vent her shit there, she needs a release. From what I understand she needs a release, she is semi isolated and needs someone to vent to.

Her medication. Is it for depresion/anxiety or her lady parts? Remember you cannot fix crazy, it is on her to fix it. If she suffers from some form of mental illness you are not going to convince her too change or take meds, a profesional will need to step in on that aspect.

Talking to her father, that is 10 days away. Decide to talk to him or not when he comes back.

[–]zubinho[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I agree that we need some time apart. Yea she is very social. And after every shit that happens she wants to talk right away but I cant do that becuse I am so angry that I need to cool down first. This couses many more argues and shits get out of controll.

Her medicin is for her lady parts but she is not taking them. I now belive she really needs to take them becuse shes a fucking monster when its her periode.

I truly belive I need to talk her father.

[–]Chump_No_More0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Her medicine is for her lady parts but she is not taking them. I now believe she really needs to take them because shes a fucking monster when its her period.

Look at your posts... most of them are about her and how you're a victim in all this.

Seriously and sincerely, knock that shit off.

You can't make her take her meds, you can't control her, but you can control you.

You can control your Frame. You can control how you respond. You can work on your issues to improve you.

Start talking about what you're going to do to 'fix' you.

I can guarantee if you work and succeed on becoming a better and high value man, she will either follow or you will rightfully merit someone who will.



You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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