Update: So my wife has been coming to our apartment while I have been at work. She took her keys with her aparently. Getting some clothes for her and some stuff for the baby. Good sign I guess... So last night she came outside of our apartment in a car. She sent her sisters doughter who is a teenager up to me with our doughter so I could see her. I was really glad to see my doughter after maybe a week, I have been thinking about her alot and realised how much I love her. But my doughter was crying and I went back out after some minutes and left her in the car. I never said a word to my wife. Went to my car and drove back to work becuse I had break.
Later that night I reached out to my wife, becuse after a while the meeting with my doughter made me emotional and I send her a mesage that if she thinks that her letting me see the doughter for 2 mins in a week makes her a good person then she is mistaken. I also said I dont cheat on your, nor hit you nor do I lie to you and you still do all this to me? Told her she is controlling and manipulative. And told her I really hope life gets it back to her and what so deserve for this. And if she wanna really divorce then I am really ready. Finally I told her that I am very disapointed at her.
I really dont give a fuck. Would I miss her? Maybe for a while. If she wanna come back and try make things work, fine. If not, then good bye. I will get a new wife who is much younger.
Anyway she send me some text saying she felt bad for withholding our doughter from me and said she told my mother she could take her and come here with her so I could see her. And to be honest my mam has called me almost every day but I have not taken her calls. And said that I would never understand her and how she felt. And I could come visit the doughter later after work the same night at her parent house.
My thought on all hers text? Did not give a single fuck about them all. Did not respond. Deeper in to the night she sends me a "?". I did not reply. Just thinking to my self that I wont go to her parents house.
Short version at the end:
I dont know where to start really but here we go. I do read in here and have made some posts asking for tips...I would call my self a noob red piller.
Me and my wife have been married for 2 years we are both around 30. We have a baby of 4 months. Now with the RP lins I can see that I was a big beta for the most of my life exept the last years when I started to wake the fuck up. I sure do have a lot of Beta traits that I do know and dont know about. But Im learning...getting better. Lifting, cardio, seeing shit test and comfort test. Holding frame and so on...all this that I never understod before. Read NMMNG and Athol Kays book.
She was the traditional CC rider until she hit the wall. Alpha Widow. She got religious. And so did I. We meet through friends and got married very fast. It was when I met her that I was swallowing the pill. Now I do know all about her former life. Her past does not bother me that much. I have come to accept it. Sex has never been an issue. I can do what I want with her in bed. The problems we have had from the start was her, again with the RP lins, shit tests. They would never stop. Drove me mad. Then comfort tests. Nagging. But most of all she would suspect me cheating on her from day one every fucking time when she did not know where I was or did something out of "order". Now I do know this is a major red flag for a slut that she will accuse you of cheating all the time.
Example: Like I could take my time to get home from work instead of lets say the usual 15 mins I could take 40 mins to get home and she would act like a did drove a co worker home and and fucked her there. This is just one example. And she would not let it go until she found out where the fuck I was. Now after 2 years it gets fuckin annoying. Shes not the FBI where I tell her exactly where Im going when I do head out or with whom I was. I have told her many times to stop with it but she never did. If I am going out in the day she wants to know where and with who... and so on.
We had many fights over it. I do know that her behavior is becuse she was with a really Alpha dude before me for 2 years who owned her soul hard. I know the guy. Ripped. Change girls every 2 weeks. He is the Chad. But anyway she would never stop. She said that it made her fell bad when she did not know where the fuck I was and I dont care about her feelings when I dont tell her where I am.
Now I refused to submitt to her frame and told her she was annoying many times and she should stop and grow up. Now here is the thing. I dont go out alot. Most of the time I spend at work. Gym, Cardio, meetings friends. But she never stopped acting like Gestapo. Same thing happend today when I got home. Where have you been? You are 30 mins late from work and this bullshit. I told her this was the last time I told her where I was when she asked med and next time I would only tell her if I feel the should know. I go to bed and wanna sleep. She starts cry and wanna talk. I told her to stfu and close the door and let me sleep. We can talk when I wake the fuck up becuse I was at work for whole day and was so tired and wanted just to sleep.
Now its importent to know that this is kinda the only thing that she wont let go. Every other things I have told her to do, she does it. Its very clear she has trust issuse. I have not not been able to cope with it or handle it. What is the right thing to do? I always thought that I would look like a pussy every time I told her where I was going or what to do.
Besides this she brings alot of value to my life and I dont want my doughter to grow up without a father. I did grow up with my mam, 2 systers and my mothers mam but without a father . I hade no fucking chance. Went total beta.
And we have been argue the last month about silly things and she was threathing with divorce and I told her that If you really wanna go there is the door I wont stop you.
And when its her periode shes changing to a fkin human cancer and her accusations peak then. She has medice for this but she does not take it...
I wake up and shes left the house with our doughter and went to her parents house. She texted me a message and said she cant do this anymore and whished me well and said goodbye.
I know the right thing to do is stay OI and dont give a fuck. And I will try to do that. But deep down I dont want another man to raise my doughter becuse the doughter would be with her if wife goes thrue this.
I could probly replace her with a much younger chick in the future thats not the problem.
Her parents are on vaccation for 10 more days and I plan not to reach out with her during this time. She can stay in their house. When her father comes back Im gonna talk to him and tell hem all about us. He needs to know. I wanted to do this so many times before but never did. With the intention that he could talk some sense in her when I cant. Her father is old school and a good guy.
Any tips on how to proceed?
Short story: Wife has trust issuse and wont stop trying to controll me where I go and with whom. Left me with our baby when I told her its enough. I have not done anything In my behavior that would suggest I was gonna cheat on her. She has absolute nothing on me and honestly I would not.