Okay folks.

Reading WISNIFG now. Early on. One of the early examples (page 8-9 in the paperback) is a separated woman who doesn't want to deal with her husband but they work in the same building. She avoids him, walks the other way, etc. The author calls this passive-avoidance (flight in fight or flight).

This seems to conflict with STFU and walk away from shit tests.

I /think/ when I am given a shit test or insulted, STFU and focusing on something else is not passive avoidance - if my mental mindset really is that I am the prize. That is, I'm not "scared" of conflict, I just have better things to do. If she wants me to be around, she can treat me better is the message I want to give with options.

Also - what do you think of fogging? I've been acknowledging aggro comments that seem reasonable but are angrily delivered with non-emotional agreement. Over the past could of days, using that, the responses seemed to have moved to requests, such as "Could you please take your shoes off before entering the house?" / "okay." (not a literal example. Literal one was on touching a curtain when I passed by it, which seems sort of rediculous. Does saying "ok" indicate submission?).

Feels beta and I worry if I continue it will send the wrong message. Thoughts?