If you're a man, you take it.

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June 4, 2016

Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it. ~Malcolm X

This quote in tandem with things I've started to learn here has inspired me sexually.

FR: I got a soft "No" on Thursday, she was visibly tired and in mild physical pain so I made nothing of it and went to sleep. Then on Friday night, I cooked a great dinner as planned because I have taken up cooking high grade food from scratch as a way to increase my value. (Planning to post about this at some point.) I cook for my own reasons and she benefits from it.

Anyway, during the meal process, she looks away from her phone long enough to say "for what you paid to get this food, we could have gone out for dinner." This is an irrational lie. [SHIT TEST]

I handled it a little better than I used to - redirecting my energy away from her (which I felt was wasted) [COVERT CONTRACT] after dinner to work on household maintenance. Sadly, she was still able to determine that I was a little butt hurt.

What I didn't do was overtly communicate my annoyance and attempt to negotiate desire. [PROGRESS]

This morning I leave to go about my normal schedule. She seemed to be confused that I didn't give her much attention before I left. I just said "I'll see you later." Then she texts me wishing that my "peace" comes to me.

Generally at times like this, after about 5+ days of no sex, I immediately remember what it feels like to be a super chump and start pondering a piece on the side. I understand this to be rooted in evolutionary biology and no longer feel ashamed of it. [PROGRESS]

Here is where that quote comes in to play.

We have a scheduled date tonight. I don't want to go anymore. [COVERT CONTRACT / negotiating desire] And what I am about to do instead of being a total chump, is something that I have done before, successfully, many times: I am going to text that I'll be fucking my wife before I take her out tonight. This will warrant a happy emoticon reply, and it will happen because I'm "taking" it.

That said, I cannot be totally convinced that this desire is truly genuine. Yes I'm gonna get sex, but does it get any better than this? Or am I being a whining little bitch? I've gotten an unsolicited BJ since I started here but will it ever return to the days when she would send me selfies in her underwear like before we were married and living together? Rollo's Iron Rule (I think it's number 4) says absolutely not.

Is that the only RP theory that I am not acknowledging to help me internalize this part of MRP? And what could I do to get back to that phase when she was at me like a dog in heat? Is plate spinning really the only way to even get close to that? Maybe I'm just not dwelling in the reality of Rollo's Iron Rule.

Any thoughts or new asshole ripping are welcome.

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Title If you're a man, you take it.
Author sh0ckley
Upvotes 6
Comments 20
Date 04 June 2016 02:38 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/207393
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/4mik94/if_youre_a_man_you_take_it/
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[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

what could I do to get back to that phase when she was at me like a dog in heat?

Break up with her, fuck 10 hot girls, then put her in the plate rotation. The passion will mysteriously return....

You CAN get some of it back, but it will never be like it was when she was in acquisition mode. Remember that new car smell as you drove it off the lot. It responded to your every move and hummed like a thousand horses. Then you bought the car....and on the way home you noticed the new smell had already faded. By the time you drove it a few times after you buy it......

[–]sh0ckley[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

lol this is great - and something I've thought about actually. The flip from wife to plate is viable in this case, given unique circumstances that I might post about at another time involving me being a badly beta mangina during courtship with a post-post wall female. I didn't know my own value or any RP theory at that time and didn't dodge the bullet completely, but it's only grazed me thanks to being pre-nuptially aware.

EDIT: and the new car analogy is spot on - really helpful to increase my understanding.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Time for some review.

[–]sh0ckley[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wow. This is Gold. Thank you.

[–]nastynickdrRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Your post is all about your wife. You cant change your wife. You cant control what she does or her desire for you. You can only change you and your choices. You can become more attractive, and that MAY make her more attracted to you.

What you should be doing is focusing on yourself. Are you lifting? Are you eating healthy? Do you have a dadbod? Are you owning your shit? Are you doing stuff outside of the house without her? Manly hobbies? Being awesome? Your wife currently doesnt see you as a high quality man and disrespects you. If she saw you as a high quality man she wouldnt be not fucking you for a week, because she would think that "hes so hot and attractive, if I dont fuck him hes gonna get it somewhere else". Your wife currently isnt worried about this.

So, keep improving yourself, reading and applying the sidebar. If, after you´ve improved yourself (and you clearly got a long way to go, this takes TIME and DEDICATION) your wife still isnt enthusiastic about fucking you, then it might be time to find someone who is.

[–]sh0ckley[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes. Lifting. Eating healthy. Down 25 lbs and halfway to target weight. No kids but killing the dadbod I had. Logging with My Fitness Pal. I have a hobby and professional pursuit completely separate from wife that involves some travel.

I know I still have a long way to go but until today had been shocked at how quickly the results started coming in.

Thanks for reminding me of two things: 1.) stop being attached to outcomes (her frame) 2.) the path is the destination. Keep going.

[–]blarggggggggggg1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why do you want to stay married to this woman? What do you want out of life?

[–]PurpleVeteranRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

It sounds like you are well on your way to building your frame. She recognizes that you're making changes, so she's poking at it to see how serious you are. Keep on going, man!

[–]sh0ckley[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yep that sounds logical. I sent the text. It worked. And we actually just had a great night out.

[–]IASGame1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

"If you are a man, you take it."

"And yet here we are" http://imgur.com/gallery/dVG60RW

[–]sh0ckley[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


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