What a way to end a birthday dinner for my wife. Friday night, put kid to bed, started doing a little history searching on the "family" PC. Find a guys name, go to bed, ask who it is. She says she has no idea even though she looked him up numerous times over the past few days. Get back on PC and find out she has a dating profile, also find out so does he. I look at phone records that morning and call out her Bullshit. They had been texting for the past week. Even that morning before I got up.
I pack my shit and leave (we are living at her moms house while we build a house). I demand she tell me its over so I can just hear and move on. She refuses to tell me but tells me instead, "I don't think this will ever work". Blah blah bullshit. I leave to take our son to get a haircut. I contact this beta and tell him to stop contacting my wife. He said no (I mean I knew he would) and said that he would only if it came from her. Typical answer.
Monday rolls around, Tuesday another day, we discuss some things. I am trying to be reasonable. I go over there Tuesday and try to talk in person to her. I find a gift bag with a sweet card from him in it along with chocolate and a gift card to Target. My son speaks up and says, "daddy, mommy has a teddy bear as well." Oh really, does she now. I also see a brand new lego that he also gifted. My son and I leave. She claims this guy gives her attention, listens to her, understands her, blah blah bullshit. Thursday rolls around and I finally contact his wife to see if what he is telling my wife is the truth (that he had moved out and they were separated). Well I find out from his wife they are not, but they will be by the end of the day. I also find out Thursday that my wife and this guy met up Wednesday night. Only because he texted me saying he wanted to meet me in person to tell me that my marriage with my wife was over and it was time for him to step up. He admitted to seeing her and that he could get her kisses and hugs anytime he wanted. My response, "Go for it".
His wife changes the locks and kicks him out officially. She sends me a text of his shit out in the rain. Meanwhile, I'm still trying to grasp that my wife is so fucking stupid to believe this dudes shit after meeting him on a dating site of two weeks. I try to get to her see she is making a big mistake. I know in the back of my mind, there is no saving this marriage at this point. She beats around the bush that she doesn't want to be with me. Never bluntly says it, just more of the.."this will never work between us."
This motherfcker is still texting me telling me how shitty of a father I am. I don't even respond. I don't have time for that BS. So here I am, I wake up and try to figure out what to do next. I am strong during the daytime as I type this but I am weak at night. Let me backup first, Friday morning she made up some excuse to have me over while no one was home. I smashed it twice, back to back.
There is more to this, just wanted to get the opening statements out for a bashfest on my behalf for not stepping up sooner. Let me have it guys.
Like I said, I know its over but I still hang onto hope. Why am I hanging on?
Why can't I just let her go be miserable with this beta?