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LTR has made a point to tell me i never compliment her.

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May 17, 2016
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I compliment her cooking and other efforts she makes for me. I've avoided complimenting her appearance though. "You look nice" is probably as far as i go.

she said I never call her beautiful or pretty. I read here to ignore appearances and compliment actions. Not sure how to proceed because it keeps coming up. Is it a comfort test?


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Title LTR has made a point to tell me i never compliment her.
Author rathalos1
Upvotes 10
Comments 20
Date 17 May 2016 10:06 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/207422
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/4jtf1e/ltr_has_made_a_point_to_tell_me_i_never/
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[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

You're a fucking idiot.

EDIT

To be a better moderator I will expand on my immediate emotional response which was pure disgust and disappointment.

You have a wife/GF/whatever - it is your job to lead her. Not just towards personal and professional growth, ensuring she is striving to be better each day - but also that her inner 'self' is developed as well.

It is your job to ensure she knows that you find her beauty captivating.

It is your job to ensure that she is 'rewarded' for the efforts she puts in.

It is your job to ensure that she is developing a strong mental foundation from which she can build her inner empire.

You want this woman to produce kids someday? How can she confidently raise strong kids if her man hasn't made her a strong individual.

She is telling you that she needs that from you and you aren't delivering because reddit?!?!? what in the actual fuck.

Give attention, compliments, and your time when it is deserved. It seems this woman deserves the time and attention and you're just being a dick.

This shit isn't just about sex, physical appearance, or making her 'submit'.

It's about inspiring all of that to happen inside her and for her to want to do those things with you.

You know why my wife is the way she is? Because I've fucking led her to that point.

Lead your woman and fucking listen when she's telling you that you're lacking in an area. From there you can decide whether it is comfort or shit test. whether she is fishing for compliments or is actually becoming disheartened at the lack of attention.

Do what works in your relationship and don't follow TRP to a T as it needs to be catered to the relationship, not the other way around.

EDITx2

Because I wasn't done.

Do all of these things out of genuine desire. Don't fucking fake it, she will recognize that immediately.

Tell her you like the way her neck looks when her hair is up. Kiss her neck and show her specifically where you are looking and why.

Her necklace, shoes, dress, shirt, whatthefuckever* if it does it for you, fucking tell her. She is a woman, she is the light of this world with her feminine beauty. Keep that light shining by making her feel beautiful and that she is pleasing her man.

Keep being an unresponsive dick and she'll find someone else who makes her feel.

[–]rathalos1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks for expanding man. I'm just inexperienced and trying not to ruin anything like I did the last one. I am naturally a caring and nice person but am still working on balancing it all out.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

Damn her with faint praise huh? Seems pretty fucking stupid to me. You should praise her for doing things that you want her to do.

Physical beauty is part of the genetic lottery but does she make the most of herself? Does she look good and does she make a particular effort to look good for you?

Think about all the guys on here griping about how their wives are fat slobs who don't care about their appearance or grooming.

Don't be so fucking stingy man. If she looks good, hot, sexy as fuck or however you like, then speak up occasionally for fucks sake. Otherwise she may think you don't care if she takes to wearing some old house coat rag and stops getting her hair done.

Personally, I never stinted on telling my wife (and now my girlfriend) that she looked sexy or fine as hell because I wanted her to know it mattered to me and that I noticed and I want to live in a house coat free zone. Lol

[–]rathalos1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fair points.

[–]sexyshoulderdevil75% Liquid Sarcasm8 points9 points  (6 children) | Copy

If you think she looks nice, say it.

Also, try being more intricate with any compliments.

Mention her earrings were a great choice. Put your hand up and gently touch her earrings. Give her a kiss...

Compliment how the dress she picked really looks nice on her. Slide your hand along the small of her back. Give her a kiss...

Notice how she did her hair one time and tell her how hot she looks with it that way. Put your hand under her chin. Give her a kiss...

Admire her if you admire her. Tell her she's admired. She wants to be desired. Desire her...IF you desire her. If you don't desire her...well...hmmm....

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

You're....so...nice.... Lol

[–]sexyshoulderdevil75% Liquid Sarcasm2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

In all seriousness, notice I only suggest complimenting the choices and the actions she took to look attractive. Not her innate physical attributes.

[–]rathalos1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Makes sense.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Correct, as did I, although I am apparently down voted by all the vengeful housecoat manufacturers reading this lol.

I'm not suggesting that OP recite She Walks In Beauty Like the Night every time he lays eyes on her but sharing the occasional enthusiastic praise about her appearance will not go amiss.

[–]sexyshoulderdevil75% Liquid Sarcasm1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, not sure who's doing the downvotes. Wasn't even being offensive...yet.

[–]sexyshoulderdevil75% Liquid Sarcasm1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't worry...it would work on you too, big boy... ;-)

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I read here to ignore appearances and compliment actions.

I think you may have misconstrued, ignore what she says, pay attention to what she does.

I absolutely love my wife's tits, and I make sure she catches me looking.

In case you don't want to actually say anything, you can still compliment her.

But I agree with others, let her know you appreciate the efforts she makes to look good for you.

[–]plein_old4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

I think a woman feels beautiful, on every level, when she feels loved and desired (i.e. fucked good) by a man she loves and respects.

Self-consciously trying to compliment a woman's looks, in order to please her, if it doesn't feel natural & right to you in the moment... I dunno bout that.

Maybe the answer is "agree and amplify". Make a joke about it next time it comes up. The key is to make her feel loved by your actions, not by verbal proclamations or speeches or whatever, which I think mean relatively little to most women, in spite of what they may say.

On the other hand, if you like an outfit she puts on, I don't see a problem in saying so.

[–]rathalos1[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

i definitely try to fuck her good.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

So that's what you got from his response? Just fuck her good?

[–]rathalos1[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

No i'm getting the rest too.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hope so

[–]cj_aubreyRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She's complaining about a lack of emotional availability from you. Shower her with compliments after she does things (sex, sweet wifey shit) that yo



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