Previously, i had tried hard to maintain an "alpha" persona all the time. I genuinely believed that one beta moment could potentially ruin a LTR. Now I'm beginning to understand this isn't the case. Maintaining a strong frame is important but there is always a margin for error and messing up isn't the end of the world.

Being aware of and applying these concepts even 50% of the time does a lot of good. It puts you ahead of the pack but so many of us are so used to reading these concepts we take them for granted. Generally men are left guessing during interactions and only start to get it after much painful failure.

I think we can be extremely hard on ourselves and live like "preppers" constantly waiting for the apocalypse. When really we have fortified and armed ourselves to the teeth and forget to enjoy what we're fighting for.

also, I've noticed that the asktrp sub is a lot more dramatic than here. Perhaps it's the age group or lack of LTR subs.