I'm new at this but have been making progress. Running MAP. Gym almost every day alternating between lifting and cardio. Have life apart from wife. Mission. NMMNG exercises writing. Reading WISNIFG. Already tore through Bang, MMSLP, Rollo/Rational Male and there is still much more in my queue.

Holding Frame in other areas has been a bigger problem than sex. I fuck her right about twice a week or more without much deviation. I landed here, after lurking for a while, mostly to better myself and perhaps my marriage, but not only to get more sex - I was tired of having pointless discussions that went no where and became arguments.

So... the wife was unable to get tickets to a show she really wanted to see. I wanted to see the show too but not quite as much as her. I would have been ok missing it. I was able to get tickets myself for both of us a week ago at an affordable price for our budget.

Today she texts me to say a co-worker got better seats today from another outlet and that she tried to buy his, (she cannot afford it) but yet she is totally satisfied with what we have.

[Watch what she did not what she said] This is hypergamy in action.

I understand that her biological impulse is to achieve the best provider of her desires that she can get and she obviously thinks she might do better than me, which I actually doubt despite her efforts. (She's older.) And I don't really care anymore anyway. I can always move forward to spinning plates if that's what happens. I've got money saved and a mission to pursue.

What is the MRP evolved response to this? What are the correct consequences?

My old self would:

  • get butt hurt and overtly communicate that if what I gave is not enough then she's free to move on. This would probably yield a mercy blowjob where I can tell her what to do but she's not doing it for the right reason. I'm no longer interested in this outcome.

My new self believes that:

  • I will no longer pay for her ticket
  • I will go radio silent while I go out tonight alone, until I see her after work the next day.

The slight confusion I still have is how much (if any) of this should I communicate to her? She's not a plate.

She's not even aware of her own hypergamy so how is it rational and productive to try and "blame" it on her? My newer self is pretty sure that I should just take action and be stoic. Let her figure it out, if she does, and again who really cares? Biological impulses are God's work and I am not Him.

The general question is how to handle hypergamous behavior in a MRP way? Meaning not be a total chump but also not be an asshole (which could also be a beta move depending on how it's done.) Earlier in the marriage there were things that required me putting my foot down. Hard. And she complied. But I don't see that as necessary here.

Thank you in advance for any comments.