Hello. I am a mod from /r/marriedredpill and along the lines of /u/SorcererKing 's post I wanted to offer you a glimpse into post swallowing (giggity) marriage. We often times say MRP is for the advanced user and I do agree with that. I also wanted to reach out to you guys who are teetering on the brink about when they can post to MRP. We are all new people who often times run into new situations and need actual advice. Well the best way to get it is from people who have been there. Much like an AA meeting, you come to the table with what you have and are treated accordingly.
I would wish to ask the guys who havent quite swallowed and moved on in their lives to answer a puzzling interaction for me.
I have been doing MRP and all sidework for a year now. I am known as the lifter of heavy things. I did lifting before I did anything else in the side bar. Hit the gym and never looked back. Hell, I could post a whole background on lifting and how only doing that could singlehandedly save your marriage. So if you think you can do everything else, reading, discussing, without lifting you are fooling yourself. I am not saying you need to be jacked/ripped but you need to be lifting heavy three days a week. Ok, thats enough. Actual post time.
My schedule has been pretty packed with traveling for business. When I am home, I make a super double effort on family time. The downside is I interrupt their routine, the upside is I bring fun to the table. The wife and I have been having a roller coaster sex life and the last time I left neither of us initiated. Which brings us to the next part.
Me and my wife were supposed to be planning the weekend and putting the kids with a babysitter, just so we can spend a whole day doing nothing but getting things accomplished before our family three week vacation in May. I wake up at 630am on a Saturday and get ready and have breakfast going by 730am. Then I get on my computer and start reading reddit. Well instead of getting ready herself, she decided to watch to TV. I guess at some point she has tried to talk to me but I had my headphones on listening to PUA on youtube. This basically puts her in the mood, I think, of I am being a lazy fuck and not wanting to work with her.
Eventually around 930 am, I get up and go grab some yogurt and protein powder for breakfast. She asks me very shittily (yea I make up words, deal with it) if I am going to make lists with her about the day so we can plan it. I told her to go shower and get ready and then we will prepare everything. She goes off in a huff.
Around 1030 she comes down and I have the pen and paper out to make the list. I am at the dinner table and putting boot butter on my boots. You already know she is pissed that I am not waiting for her to tell me what to do. She gives me a very shitty look and I just laugh and pretend I am having a heart attack ala sanford and son (look it up young-uns) and going on that looks can kill. She is non-plussed.
We start making the list, and I forget exactly what she said to start the conversation but I am being very playfully and giddy. The dog had surgery and is wearing a cone to keep from chewing the stitches.
Me: Ill put a lamp shade on you like the dog if you keep chewing at me (chuckling)
Her: But then I wouldnt be able to go down on you
Me: It's ok, it'll be worth it to see you trying to get it off your head.
Her: Stop acting like that.
Me: Don't be like that poochy, daddy still loves ya
Her: Stop acting like you don't care if you have sex with me or not (bingo gents, this is when she really knows you have OI)
Me: (very dramatically, grabs her by the hips and falls to knees and dramatically says) Oh baby, please let me have sex, Ill do the dishes (but I do the dishes always)
Her: (start laughing and then says) Stop playing
Me: Baby, please don't pussy whip me
Her: (laughing harder and pulling away)
Me: (stands up and steps back) Ok, I guess we will be a geriatic married couple without viagra then
Her: (laughing and coming towards me)
Me: Can I at least get pity sex?
Her: (wraps arms around my neck) Stop being like that (leans in to kiss)
Me: (pulls away) Stop date raping me
We kiss passionately and I grab her by the hair and really pull her in for a deep kiss and say "Ok, let's go upstairs". She agrees and we go upstairs for sexy times. Totally into it and only go caveman style. She is super turned on, asks me to cuddle afterwards and I refuse and get up and clean. She is happy the rest of the day, we get everything done, and she thanks me for an awesome day at the end of the night.
All MRP concepts are internalized, but I still find myself wondering how I turned a shrill harpy into a submissive wife in about 5 minutes. On the surface I don't know how I saved the day. Why did my wife go from setting me on fire with gasoline, to wanting to have sex with me?