How do I bring the red pill up to my husband without seeming like I'm criticizing our marriage? I've been reading about it for a while but I doubt he's ever heard of it.
He is very no-nonsense, alpha type at work. I'm sure he's got it in him to be an alpha, but I think I have trained him not to over the course of our decade of marriage. I think he'd be shocked that his independent, I-can-do-it-myself wife actually wants to be given direction, bossed around a bit, love it when he walks by and slaps my ass, and want so much more dominance from him in bed but mostly in everyday life. I have a high stress job, plenty of anxiety, and feel overwhelmed as a wife, mother, employee. I have to project a strong persona at work, and at home I'd rather not be in charge.
I'm finally getting my diet figured out, losing weight, making an effort with my hair and clothing, and getting my self esteem back since having our second child. We have what I consider a great marriage that is in a rut that most couples with young children, jobs, and life stresses go through. It's not bad but I feel (I know he does too) it could be better. The feminist in me cringes to admit it, but I have always been happier to be a follower than a leader. So how do I bring this up? Will he think "yay, I've been wishing she would ask me to do this" Or "oh god, my wife is a freak."