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Thanks Moderators, we'll miss you MargeryM!

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May 28, 2014
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Good morning, and happy belated Memorial Day to you all.

Just wanted to step in really quick and leave a note and hope you all will join me in thanking our moderators for doing such a good job here on /r/redpillwomen.

It's not an easy job, and I know that most of reddit sees this place in less than a favorable way, launching perhaps more trolls this way than we get on our other subs!

/u/margerym has decided for personal reasons that she won't be continuing moderating duty here, and I wanted to make sure to give her a giant thanks and wish her well. I do hope she continues to participate here. I know I'm not very active here but I do spend a lot of time lurking, and /u/margerym this place won't be the same without you.

Standing up to the trolls and fending off insults and threats is an exhausting experience, and can emotionally drain even the toughest of the tough, so I have nothing but admiration for our team here.

/u/MargeryM you are always welcome to join our team again, you have an open invitation with no expiration.

/u/TempestTcup, /u/PhantomDream09, /u/danabanana9 your work here is not unnoticed, you've all done so much for the community, helping grow it from just a few users to over 5,000 in less than a year. The attitude and tone of this sub is incredibly welcoming and friendly, and stays this way despite the hundreds (if not thousands) of trolls that keep trying to pull us off topic or get you ladies down for having your own opinions and making the decision to follow them.

If ever there was an example of just how harmful feminism is, look no further than the attack that self-proclaimed 'feminists' launch towards women like those here, who want nothing more than the right and freedom to pursue happiness in the ways they see fit.

Shame on reddit for putting our mods through this emotional rollercoaster. And props to you three (and margerym) for really giving them a good fight and keeping this place just as friendly and welcoming as the day it opened (or moreso, since there are more people here!).

I hope we can all take a minute to say thanks to these great mods, they put in quite a bit of work and when they do their jobs right- you can't even see it.

Thanks, Ladies.

-RPS


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Title Thanks Moderators, we'll miss you MargeryM!
Author redpillschool
Upvotes 46
Comments 18
Date 28 May 2014 01:44 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit RedPillWomen
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/2075
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/26p0f9/thanks_moderators_well_miss_you_margerym/
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[–]Wissenschaft85 26 points27 points  (1 child) | Copy

Intelligence (whether too much or too little) is less important to men than whether a woman is domineering or supportive. Be supportive to men and it doesn't really matter if your smarter than them. Being condescending is a big turn off.

However, most women with advanced degrees won't even consider dating a man without a degree. So its less that men don't find intelligence attractive but rather the "smart" women don't date men they consider bellow themselves.

So if your ever wondering why some men end up with women "bellow their standing", its probably because the women they are with are more willing to be supportive and provide what the man is looking for. A man who wants a family and kids now its going to settle down with a woman who also wants kids right now.

[–]sunflowercupcakes[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Very insightful, thank you

[–]teaandtalk5 Stars 22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

Someone mentioned Spock in here the other day. Spock is highly intelligent, but still follows the lead of his captain, Kirk. That's because it takes more than intelligence to be a leader.

[–]batting4fireflies 18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think part of the answer is how you define intelligence. Other commenters have talked about degrees and income being ways to define intelligence, which is part of it.

However, in my relationship dynamic, those things have had little impact on the "protector/protected" or "captain/first mate" dynamic.

I have my law degree and make significantly more than my SO (for now). He is an electrician apprentice and will have a consistent and steady increase in income over time. I may be intelligent in an academic sense, but I am practically hopeless when it comes to more day-to-day common sense stuff. My SO is the epitome of logic and reason. He protects me by pointing out my foolishness when I'm being over emotional about my client being sent to prison. Honestly, I'm a better lawyer because of his advice and wisdom.

I would echo what others have said that the key to being an intelligent woman (or just person in general) is to not be so egotistical that you put yourself on a pedestal and refuse to accept constructive criticism. I won't lie, the first time my SO told me I was being dumb in how I handled a situation at work, my initial thought was "Well, wtf do you know?! You didn't go to law school!" But I set my ego aside and realized the situation I was facing had nothing to do with my education. He was right that the issue didn't deserve all the emotional energy I was putting into it.

Every morning, my SO texts me "Don't let anyone walk all over you." So, yeah, I have a higher degree and more income, but he takes care of me.

[–]Cardiscappa 16 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy

I understand that men do have higher IQ readings compared to women

Just nit picking, but this men be more smrt isn't actually true. Only half the men are smarter than women. Women's IQ clusters around the average of all the IQ's and on either side of that median is men, meaning that about half the men are less intelligent than women.

would intelligence in a woman throw off the "protector and protected" dynamic?

Not necessarily. A woman may be as smart as a whip, but not able to do things like put up a bookshelf. In comes the man, with his handiness to help. It's all about ying and yang.

[–]AphroditesPride 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The Reverse would be me dealing with our crazy Landlord who declared himself king and tried to mess up my husbands life.

[–]Banincoming 11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

I've known some women who were super intelligent, but their career paths put their stress levels far into the red line. They ended up with sweet teddy bear men who keep them from having a mental breakdown.

[–]i_have_a_semicolon 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ha! Sounds a bit like me.

[–]JackGetsItEndorsed Contributor 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

More men have higher IQ's but also more men are on the mental retardation end of intelligence as well. The genders have different bell curves.

would intelligence in a woman throw off the "protector and protected" dynamic?

Absolutely not. A guy that starts dating a girl is just as protective of a smart girl as he is a women of average intelligence. What comes into play is that a lot of intelligent women that go to college get indoctrinated by feminists making them less then desirable people to date. Then they blame their intelligence on why men aren't attracted to them or don't want to protect them which just isn't the case.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

No. Intelligence would enhance the dynamic.

[–]AphroditesPride 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

A man that is unable to accept that I am very intelligent is not the right one for me. I am not od the domineering sort - so this spiel will not work.

[–]carefreevermillion2 Star 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

In my experience, it should be more of a push-pull dynamic where you complement one another. Your man should be able to do things that you are not good at and vice versa. RPW/TRP is more about acknowledging the mating strategies of the sexes and taking advantage of them to maximize you and your partner's happiness than saying that the woman always has to be beneath the man in all things, and the logic stands regarding intelligence as well.

[–]pinkdrawings 6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy

You play it out like you would anyone else. It really isn't that special (no offense).

We do generally have one piece of advice - date. another. man. with. a. degree.

A lot of women say they won't care, and then end up caring when a man doesn't have an equal or higher degree.

It depends on how it would come up? Men don't care much about your degree as women care about mens degrees, but he obviously would like to have a conversation with you.

Just don't come home acting like the boss ass bitch who is smarter than anyone, telling him what to do, acting like you're smarter than him, always know best, etc and you'll be fine. It isn't that different.

[–]sunflowercupcakes[S] 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

I agree with you that it isn't that special. I was just curious if it would affect the dynamic. Thank you for your input.

[–]pinkdrawings 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

It could, but hopefully you'll be fine. I think an issue with a lot of women with huge IQs is that they come with..well...huge egos. A lot of them feel the need to be sorta ~~ bitchy to make up for "being taken less seriously as a woman". So I think that any women who have that type of view of it and being the "high powered woman" type could be a problem.

I definitely think income could be an issue, though, if that comes up. Men can get VERY prideful and uncomfortable if their woman makes more than them/is taking care of more bills.

I think as long as he has an equal or higher degree/income you should be fine. Cause then he (hopefully) won't feel uncomfortable with it. Obviously not saying it couldn't work, but it could come with more pridefulness and discomfort.

[–]sunflowercupcakes[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Those are good points. I have noticed that trend among intelligent women. The bitchy attitude doesn't help anything except for her own ego. And it does make sense that the income would play an issue in regards to "the protector and the protected".

[–]throwawayindisbelief 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

In my experience, the bitchy ones have an average IQ, but are well-educated. IQ and education are not the same thing! They're bitchy because they feel like they always have to be "on" and prove their intellectual worth.

I actually have a high IQ. I was born with it. I seek out and synthesize new knowledge easily and I'm pretty good at Figuring Out Stuff. My brain walks into a room first before the rest of me gets there. People assume that I'm "smart" even when I have no clue what is going on! (I also fit the Smart Asian Woman stereotype.) My "problem" since I was a child is that I am taken too seriously by people. It's great for winning the trust of authority figures, but awful in romantic contexts. I spent most of my 20's watching guys' eyes turn towards girls who were bubbly and "fun".

So I learned to soften things up, to laugh more, to compliment more, to banter more. I don't see my intelligence as a hindrance to anything. Alpha men, especially from old-world cultures, are not deterred at all. They see it as an advantage because it means that I have the potential to be a competent team player. A very (born-again) Christian man who almost asked me to marry him told me that I was a rare woman because I was able to discuss a wide variety of topics with him...compared to the many, many women he'd met in his past life.

Ultimately, I think it's less about the size of your brain and more about how you use it.