I have been poorly implementing MRP for about 6 months, launching RP missiles into my relationship. In the past couple of months I have started getting my shit together. I am physically more attractive than my wife, but she is somewhat more social and charismatic than me. I would say our SMVs are equal overall.

We are a good team running the house, but she is still prone to angry outbursts, crying and bullshit. She is real stubborn and I often fall into her frame. Sex is good but frequency is the problem (once a week).

When I initiate using the classic MRP approaches (10 second kiss, surprise dates, kino, etc) I get shut down. We can have a great time laughing and flirting over dinner, but she will still give me a no when I initiate. The best method I have found is to let her see me working harder than her and ignoring her when I'm "on a mission." Problem is, she is a workaholic...

My wife is a student in a professional field and works 10-12 hours a day and usually half days on the weekends. When she gets home she cooks or works more. On the weekend she cleans the whole house. We don't have kids and I am a student in a professional field as well, though I have a much better sense of when to call it a day and I have an outside social life, I workout, etc. I manage the house in her absence and will cook if I get home before her ( because I enjoy it). I keep shit together at the house when she is scattered but she is still doing the bulk of the housework. I don't play video games or watch TV, I generally am doing something productive, but not work related.

So my question is, my wife seems to respond best to a captain that works harder than her, but I have a hard time doing that, because the amount she works is unhealthy. What is the work around here? If I continue to increase my SMV will that be enough? Maybe I should wake up before her everyday to workout, so she sees that I am on a mission. Although, if I do that it may push her into working even more. Input is appreciated.