Do I have stop loving my wife for red pill to work?
Married 13 years, red pill about two months - check my OYS if you want more context. Just got turned down for sex after what I thought was a great day of gaming her, mutual flirting, etc. Left the house for a long walk. I have a long way to go, but after lifting four months, I'm in the best shape of my life, by far. Wife is a good looking woman, but she's also 48 years old. She hit the wall years ago, and she's not going to find another man like me. She's just not.
It's obvious to me in this moment that everything I've done with red pill has been for her, not myself. I'm lifting for her, so that she will want me. Covert contract, and it's not working because she still doesn't want me.
I've got oneitis bad for her - she's my wife, the mother of my children, and I love her. And judging by both words and actions, I love her more than she does me.
I've noticed that nothing in the sidebar talks about love, at least nothing positive. It's oneitis, a weakness to weed out of your soul, because the person who cares least controls the relationship. So do I have to extinguish my love for my wife for this to work? I could do that, I think. But the only reason I'm with my wife is because I love her. What's the point of winning the battle and preserving the relationship if the price is that I have to stop caring about the relationship? I can win my wife back, but only if I force myself to stop caring for her? Is that the price?