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FR - UPDATE !! Wife brought up vacationing with her friend, shot down within 2 minutes.

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February 28, 2016
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So if you have seen my previous post , in summary. Saw wife's message about her asking her gf about going on a few days trip to paris without me. Basically her and her friend.

So last night me and the wife go out for a few hrs for some fun. We are on our way back and pull into the house. Somehow talks about our vegas vacation come up and how one of my buddies is gonna meet us up while he is there. She starts to ask about him and his wife and if they are down for shows, drinking etc. I tell her he is coming by himself. My wife looks in disbelief as to how he is travelling alone and why his wife doesn't want to go. I completely agree with her because i too feel the same way. Again this isn't a bachelor party , this isn't someone died and I have to leave , it's going on vacation without your significant other..and this I don't agree with.

So my wife sorta catches herself and says maybe she doesn't gamble. She then says " hypothetically if I wanted to go with my friend. .lets call her Anne for a vacation you would be ok with it right". Bachelorette party? Or did someone die in her family/our family. She says no just to get away. I say no i don't approve. I say we go on vacation together. We save for vacation for us

She says what about paris , just her and Anne. Again i say no and i then proceed to tell her, im not paying for it and for safety issues I don't approve. I say who is paying for it? She tells me she will save up for it ....So I tell her ok save for it and have a good time.

She looks at me and says so you are ok with it. I tell her no , as I stated to you before. But know once you get back Im gonna save my money and head out with one of my boys on vacation. She says where to , I tell her who knows , Italy , Amsterdam , dominican republic.

She then says you proved you point, I would be very upset if you went on vacation without me. Case closed.

About an hr later she says hey babe, lets try and go somewhere just me and you a nice getaway if we have the money.

Fucking women.


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Title FR - UPDATE !! Wife brought up vacationing with her friend, shot down within 2 minutes.
Author Mikesi12345
Upvotes 12
Comments 25
Date 28 February 2016 12:34 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/207640
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/481kps/fr_update_wife_brought_up_vacationing_with_her/
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[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret6 points7 points  (7 children) | Copy

It was a Shit Test. She wanted you to tell her no and set boundaries.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

Could have been. The speech just missed it's potential on so many levels.

Hedging language, not owning his shit, covert language. Safety issues? What a Pussy lie. He didn't do anything, she threw him a softball and he walked into it for a single...

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What's the concensus here? Seems to me that any kind of restriction on her going somewhere alone (barring a sepatate reason like money, respobsibilities at home) feels like mate guarding. My current feelings are if I'm not a quality enough man for her to go and cheat then I've failed...but then again if I AM a quality man and (hamster reasons) she cheats anyway, I'm OI, her failure.

Just the other day I told her I'm going on a weekend trip with the guys in the summer. She said she was jealous...said "maybe I'll go there the next weekend by myself" as some sort of threat? Jealousy? I said "knock yourself out". Just making sure I'm not missing something.

Ignore. Still wondering about concensus but seems it may not apply to this post. Brain cells dying. Going to log off for a bit.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (6 children) | Copy

:/

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

seriously. i'm going on a ski trip with my friend in two weekends. a couple of days ago I was in NYC - met GLO as a happenstance (buy his shirts - they're good stuff)

end of march, we're going to be driving up north to do a family trip.

what a buzz kill it'd be if my wife had to tag along everywhere.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I wasnt even going that far.

If he didn't want it, own it instead of playing games and patting yourself on the back

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Didn't know you had a presence in trp btw.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

i don't. it was just an event we both were at. still, always cool to meet a famous shitposter.

[–]Mikesi12345[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I agree with you wholeheartedly. My wife does her thing and i do mine. She has gone on Bachelorette parties , long distance baby showers, birthdays. Again I have no problem with those at all. Go have a great time , call me when you land. It's the leaving the country part on an expensive vacation that I don't agree with. You want to spend a few hundred for a Bachelorette party or your friends bday in some partnof the country cool. But going overseas and spending thousands of unecessary money is what I don't agree with. Thank you for the advice though i really appreciate it

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

yeah, the money spending would be a bigger issue than the going off and having fun for me as well. seems like you've got a good head on you and settled the situation to your satisfaction.

[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good job calmly enforcing a boundry. This part had me laughing though:

"...and for safety issues, I don't approve."

The only safety you're worried about is her staying safe from all the random french cocks that will be coming her way. Don't try to lie or justify yourself with some bullshit excuse when she knows just as well as you why you're not cool with this trip. You can hamster it in your head all you want but you're not posting on here because you're worried about her being taken by Armenian human traffickers. Cut the shit and next time just say you're not cool with it.

[–]NevrEndr0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Your values are your own and that's fine but bro...you've never wanted to travel international without your SO?

I want to go to Machu Piccu before I die. My wife would never go. She is not outdoorsy. She does not hike. She does not go camping. I made a pact with my cousin to go and so we're going to Peru next year for 2 weeks. This is something I have wanted to do for a long long time. She knows this. She refuses to go. That's not going to stop me. The thought has never crossed my mind.

Why are you so hell bent on keeping her from traveling without you? Is going to Paris something she's always wanted to experience? Afraid she'll cheat? Afraid she won't come back? Afraid she'll get "Taken" by Eastern European sex slave traffickers? As if you could stop that from happening. LOL. You're denying her this because of insecurity. Because of the cost (which she said she would save for and cover?) That's some weak ass frame IMO.

Why don't you take her to Paris as her husband and unarmed security detail.

[–]Mikesi12345[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Honestly I never wanted to travel overseas with anyone except my wife. I honestly have a great time with her traveling. We have no kids, both want no kids because all we want to do is travel in life. We go away minimum 4 times a year. I am not hellbent at all about her traveling without me. She has gone across the country , down south , left for days for business or bachelorette parties.

I am not worried she will cheat, i don't care if she did. I would leave her in a heartbeat. If someone wants to cheat on you they will find a way to do it. It doesn't have to be in paris, it can be next door or in your own house. I know this and have known this way before MRP. Women are worse than men when it comes to sex. So that doesn't bother me.

I am denying it for the cash aspect. You are right. We have money allocated for trips. You want to go on a big fancy trip with your girl. Go ahead get a full time job, pay some bills and pay off of your vacation. Problem solved.

And paris we did last year for 10 days

[–]NevrEndr0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That gives some much needed context to your post.

[–]hughfrump0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

I would be very upset if you went on vacation without me.

Because she knows why she wants to be away from you and couldn't stomach you doing the same thing. Why is this not blatantly obvious to you OP?

[–]Mikesi12345[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Maybe, but again I DON'T CARE.

[–]hughfrump0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

So why did you tell her no then? It's obvious she was going away to fuck..

[–]Mikesi12345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Money reasons. If she wants to work full time and pay for it then she can. Im not paying for it. And again IDGAF if as you believe that she wants to fuck. Anyone can cheat on you at anytime, anyplace. Go have fun , the papers will be signed andI will move on easily



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