LTR 3.5 years. I admit I acted distant and wasn't there for my girl when she needed me but also I am a guy and enjoy hanging out with my guy friends and doing dumb stuff. A year ago my gf caught me texting other girls, I brushed it off as no big deal and she begged me back. Couple of weeks ago she said she loves me as a person but can't be like that with me anymore, it's not healthy for her as a person, she wants to do stuff for herself again, blah blah.
I admit I was blindsided and acted a little BP in front of her but tried to maintain frame. Have been working on myself, consistently lifting, reading, djing, stuff that makes me happy. She has called me once a day every day since Sunday I have started ignoring her calls (instilling dread) as I don't think she wants to get back but rather have me there for emotional support during this time.
Yesterday afternoon she texted me "im sorry about the calls. I'll never stop wanting to talk to you." Part of me wants to be like then why did you break up, or to take the cold approach "we both made a decision. there is nothing left for us to talk about." but I really don't know what to say or how to handle this.