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Red Pill and the Flu

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February 4, 2016

This might belong in the weekly thread, but since it involves a specific issue that everyone faces, I'll posted as a separate post. Mods, feel free to move the post.

A recurring source of frustration and confusion for me in my blue pill days was the way my wife reacted when I got sick. She ignored me completely. I could be puking my guts out in the bedroom all day and she would not check up on me, would not bring medicine. I even had to get my own barf bowl.

At the time, I naturally chalked it up to her being a complete bitch. I guess that's still a possibility. But thinking about it now, I think something else was in play.

Illness is weakness. And weakness in a man is repulsive. Especially a man who's fishing for a little pity. She avoided me in the same way that I would avoid her if she gained 30 pounds and quit showering.

I'm sick again now. This time I hid it and powered through until I had to lie down. This time I'm prepared to be ignored- I understand it, and it's no sweat. So naturally she comes into the bedroom this time, for literally the first time in our marriage, and hands me some medicine and asks if I'm OK.

I've learned my lesson. I thank her kindly and accept it but tell her that really I'm fine and don't worry about it. Men can't get sick.

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Title Red Pill and the Flu
Author ParadoxThatDrivesUs
Upvotes 8
Comments 12
Date 04 February 2016 03:15 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/207689
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/443hi3/red_pill_and_the_flu/
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[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

She will be a bitch when you're sick, less so when you're further along.

Don't expect her to mother you. when the shit tests fly, telling her to fuck off of a few days is a better approach imo

Personally, I found the 'mothering' when I was sick to be more annoying than anything.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

My wife is the exact same way. She would tell me she would rather I get a hotel room until I am better.

Thing is. I am sick like once a year. Just luck...nothing I can account for. Even then if my temp spikes to 102 I am still out shoveling snow. Even in BP days I can't lie down that long and always felt that I have to move around. I am usually better after 2-3 days.]

Her? Same cold will wipe her out for a week while she lays on the couch surrounded by used tissues, coffee cups of half drank thera-flu.

I took the RP just before this year's illness and didn't say a word to her. My boys did though. I took them to the indoor baseball cages for their hitting lessons and had to go out to the bed of the truck to heave my guts out for 20 minutes (that was pleasant).

Got home...I went about what I had to do...though I was moving fairly slow. The boys told her what went down I got a hug and her telling me how bad she felt that I was ill. It was something.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

And weakness in a man is repulsive

Men can't get sick.

These are both partially true. If you're the top dog and owning your shit then the infrequent sickness won't be a big deal and she'll tend to you. She knows you're Mr. Macho so when you're down for the count she gets to play Nurse Wife and tend to her warrior.

If you're the beta bitch who is weak, always fucking whining, and sniveling like a bitch hoping mommy will tuck you in, then yes she is repulsed.

My wife says she likes when I'm sick or injured (which is fucked up) because she says it's the only time I admit I need her and I let her take care of me.

Again, I do the same as what you said, I only show my sickness when it's bad. Little cold, fuck it. 106 temp with cough and shits, yeah I'm laying down.

She comes in with fluids, medicine, bowls, whatever. I still fuck with her asking if she would have a problem using puke as lube. You never take a day off from being a masculine man, you can allow your woman to tend to you (and she will) if you're still the Family alpha who just needs to rest and recover.

[–]Realworld522 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

NMMNG will solve this problem for you my friend.

[–]tim_rp1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yep, am just coming out the other side of flu. Found it funny watching how she doted over the kids (who gave it to me) but ignored my struggle completely. I could hear her hamster, though.

Your coughing is annoying and why did you spend an extra 10 minutes in bed this morning you lazy bastard.

Meh - AWALT, I guess.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

One caveat : when you are the Man of the house, strong leader, she will start to take care of you when you are sick to the extent you allow it. Subconsciously it is a way to save her "provider" and serve her captain. Simply put, she does not value you enough yet.

[–]enfier1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm seriously considering just checking into a hotel with reasonably priced room service the next time I'm sick. It's just pointless to be around the house.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Some women can indeed be kind and sweet if you get sick. Some women will 'Lovingly' nurse a desperately sick husband all the way to the afterlife. Except while she is washing the old man's dick and changing his bedpan be assured that she is NOT sucking that dick, or thinking of sucking that dick.

Alpha Fucks/Beta Bucks

IF she sees you as HER Alpha she WILL be repulsed by you if you get sick. If she forces herself to "take care of you" she will very soon downgrade you to Beta Boy.

IF she sees you as HER Beta, it is entirely possible she will take care of you like mommy.

Which brings up Bluepillprofessor's 5th Titanium Law of the Manosphere:

She can be your lover or your mommy. Pick one.

TLDR: In many cases it is a GOOD thing your wife refuses to see you as a hapless Beta. It's not that they don't "love" a sick man, it's that they don't get the tingles from weak, sick men and if she is being a bitch when you are sick it is because you give her the tingles and she doesn't want to lose them for HER Alpha man.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's easy - don't expect her to give a fuck but don't mother her either if she's sick. Whatever you do, DON'T MENTION A WORD if you are sick. Just be sick.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's all about frame. You reverted to a whiney bitch when you were sick so what did you expect.

I even had to get my own barf bowl. wah!

followed by some epic covert contracts.

I could be puking my guts out in the bedroom all day and she would not check up on me, would not bring medicine.

Nobody wants to be around vomit friend.

Next time man up, use your big boy words.

"Babe, I'm feeling rough. Can you grab me a bowl so I don't have to get out of bed."

"Babe, can you get me some medicine?"

Fuck it all, just ask for what you need man. I don't get sick (Very rare for me) but I've been injured plenty, as I'm rough on myself. I'll still run game on my wife even on my deathbed. You don't get a sick day from Frame.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Men can't get sick.

If you lean on her unnecessarily, whine, and bitch about being sick, then she'll be disgusted by you. If you take it like a man, then she'll continue to see you as a man rather than a dependent weakling. You handled it well.

hands me some medicine and asks if I'm OK

The answer is always yes. If she really wants to know then she'll ask again. It's like when someone says, "Hi. How are you?" The answer is, "Fine, thanks," even if someone just chopped off your arm. If they want to know, then they will ask about the arm.

[–]Trekneck-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Post retracted. Missed a key sentence.

In the end, take care of yourself. It's your responsibility, no one elses. That said, glad you've moved past butt hurt when she doesn't take on the role of your mother.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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