This might belong in the weekly thread, but since it involves a specific issue that everyone faces, I'll posted as a separate post. Mods, feel free to move the post.
A recurring source of frustration and confusion for me in my blue pill days was the way my wife reacted when I got sick. She ignored me completely. I could be puking my guts out in the bedroom all day and she would not check up on me, would not bring medicine. I even had to get my own barf bowl.
At the time, I naturally chalked it up to her being a complete bitch. I guess that's still a possibility. But thinking about it now, I think something else was in play.
Illness is weakness. And weakness in a man is repulsive. Especially a man who's fishing for a little pity. She avoided me in the same way that I would avoid her if she gained 30 pounds and quit showering.
I'm sick again now. This time I hid it and powered through until I had to lie down. This time I'm prepared to be ignored- I understand it, and it's no sweat. So naturally she comes into the bedroom this time, for literally the first time in our marriage, and hands me some medicine and asks if I'm OK.
I've learned my lesson. I thank her kindly and accept it but tell her that really I'm fine and don't worry about it. Men can't get sick.