My life and relationship with wife continues to improve under MRP praxeology, in particular her following my lead. Just this weekend, the same idea (going out with couple X) that I had suggested three months ago and had shit down with a howitzer was readily accepted as “wonderful”. Great sexy times this weekend four days in a row (Friday,S,S,M) with couple blowjobs. As is still the case per my first post https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/40j5i1/weak_frame_is_my_biggest_problem/; these were all had in the morning.
I took yesterday off with no sex-initiation on my part. I initiate this morning ~3am and get soft no. Rollover and go back to sleep immediately. Initiate again at 5:30 am after alarm goes off. Get a hard no; albeit delivered very pleasantly with none of the old “how dare you” attitude. IDGAF (truly feeling it, and besides I got muscles hurting I did not know existed after first training in BJJ gym last night) so I get up and start getting ready for work.
Old beta-me would have begged, bitched, whined; and initiated another half dozen times followed by seeking hugs/validation later-morning once out of bed (barf….).
Work-mornings in the bathroom/closet are part of “our” time as we rarely talk at work. Most days now I am gaming the wife “when my feet hit the floor”, with KINO, banter, teasing, etc. in the morning. When I get a hard no I am withdrawing this attention; but not ignoring her if she ask me a question. Basically, I am trying to get the fuck out of the house ASAP. When I get back home from work, I am back in the game and all fun again. First few months after swallowing pill, she just ignored me right back in the morning. In the last month (all three times); her response has flipped. Now she is pushing the KINO and initiating conversation to which I am providing minimal response; but not ignoring. Then later in the kitchen as I am heading out, she rushes into my arms with the most doe-eyed look “aren’t you going to hug/kiss me” look…..to which I do followed by a slap to the ass and out the door I go…. After a decade+ of living with my wife’s concrete bunker frame; seeing her willfully enter mine is exhilarating.
Given my long history of epic-fails on comfort test, one part of me say I am handling this correctly. On the other hand, feel like I am rewarding bad behavior. I have considered re-initiating in bathroom; but am pretty sure this is wrong approach to comfort test. Plus, once she is in “go to work” mode initiating has never worked in the past. Any suggestions on how best to handle this change are appreciated.
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