Gaming the wife

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January 21, 2016

I've never really "gamed" my wife. Could someone point me to good material? I've read MMSLP, but I found it more how to act not so much of what to do.

Caveats that make MMSLP we commute together to and from work, have a sub 1 year old child, and a completely dead bedroom since a month before the baby was due.

I'm about 3 weeks into my MAP so pretty early, been lifting 3-4 times a week, working on understanding/passing shit tests, getting money in order, and dressing better for work (slowly working toward dress slacks and shirt - $$ is tight).

Now that I'm starting to pass shit tests I need to be gaming her so she doesn't go all, "your an asshole" on me - but frankly its been quite a while since I've laid moves down... Starfish is all I've ever gotten so I need to start somewhere.

Thanks for all your help!

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Title Gaming the wife
Author UnlimitedEgo
Upvotes 6
Comments 7
Date 21 January 2016 02:24 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I took some stuff from real social dynamics (RSD) on YouTube and it worked really well. The focus is mainly on going out and talking to strangers but if you just tweak it a little it can definitely be applied to relationships. I've been with my gf for 10 years and the pick up shit still worked on her, just in a different context.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

we commute together to and from work, have a sub 1 year old child, and a completely dead bedroom since a month before the baby was due.

None of this matters. There will always be shit in the way. As a Masculine man, you just need to work through them, or spin them to your advantage.

Sex & Marriage

Creating Your Slut

Getting Over your Relationship PTSD

10 ways to Keep Your Wife on Her Toes

All of these will help you understand a few key points. You need to stop looking at how things were and make them what you want them to currently be. There are a few ideas you can implement today, and there is some reasoning as to why you're getting starfish (Spoiler: It's YOU)

[–]0io-1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I like some of the PUA books like Bang by Roosh V and Day Bang, and you must read Sex God Method. Ian Ironwood has a good list of "alpha moves" that you can read too.

Make sure you're grabbing her and kissing her when your breath is fresh and you're just out of the shower etc. When she walks over to you, you should be patting her on the ass or making out with her for a few seconds. If she runs away you can let her run away. You can give her a big bear hug and kiss the back of her neck and pick her up for a few seconds and set her back down (playfully). It's fine if she's saying stuff like "what's gotten into you, you're so horny lately".

This sort of thing takes a while to build up, but it eventually resets the baseline that you're physically touching and kissing every single day, and you keep initiating and escalating a lot.

[–]stargazer351 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is a weak area for me too. Getting better at it slowly. What I find makes it much harder is not having strong OI and DGAF. You can mask being butt hurt but if you are, then the last thing you want to do is game your wife. I think this is why the books deal with the basics first and game and dread is later on.

[–]midlifedick1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Passing shit tests is gaming your wife. I have found effects are not always immediate. Sometimes a passed shit test pays off the next day or so.

Start with just being more physical. Touch her non sexually, like just bump her out of the way playfully when getting dishes, passing by her in the bedroom, bathroom, etc. Let her know your bigger and stronger.

Grab her butt playfully, just a grab when passing by. Dont break stride. Start with the assumption you can touch her. In no way be timid.

Bring her in for a long hug, but make it tight, show off your strength. Kiss her and keep moving.

Slide your arm around her waist, bring her in and lift up. Sensual kiss. Move on.

Bed time... slide the arm around, bring her in and hopefully you can take it from there. Prolly gonna get another shit test. At this point you should have the attitude that this is gonna happen. Keep words to minimum, or just grunts, but the key is assuming it's on. If you get the hard no, get the fuck out of the bed and be ready for a shit test storm, and have a legit reason to be doing something else, like paying bills, returning emails, you forgot to do whatever, just make sure you are not seething. "You said something that reminded me I need to do some shopping"

[–]UnlimitedEgo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Shopping at 9pm i love it. What are you shopping for? " a wife that puts out, I hear there's a great deal on the ones from Russia this time of year"

[–]MRPguy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Now that I'm starting to pass shit tests I need to be gaming her so she doesn't go all, "your an asshole" on me

Don't shy away from that phrase. She says it because the status-quo is changing and it scares her. Also recall that her having feelings for you (love or hate) is better than no feelings at all.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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