What's the best response when wife turns down sex? For context, assume sex is happening about once every two weeks, and this is the third or fourth refusal in a row.
The worst response, I guess, is to make a scene or throw a fit. I've been down that road before. But should I just take it completely in stride, show no reaction at all, and proceed with my life? Or should I withdraw my attention from her, and if so, for how long? I'm concerned that the first option merely perpetuates the illusion that there's nothing wrong with her continuing to withhold sex. But then if I try to impose some sort of consequence by withdrawing attention, wont that just look like a different way of making a scene? To be honest, neither option seems very strong, but I'm at a loss for any other ideas.
To clarify, I'm not asking about the best long-term response. I realize the whole website is designed to answer that question. I'm asking for the best response in the moment.