Just found the red pill

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January 12, 2016

I discovered MRP last night after Googling "my wife is hateful to me." Reading Ironwood's article and the first chapter of NMMNG has left me floored. They both describe me to a "t." Almost every word. I've been in shock all day. I had no idea what I was and still am. All I know is, I don't want to be that anymore. I don't really have a point to make or a question to ask; I just felt the need to say that I'm here and that I'm questioning the illusion that was my life.

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Title Just found the red pill
Author Spellgage
Upvotes 18
Comments 24
Date 12 January 2016 08:15 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/207744
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/40o6g9/just_found_the_red_pill/
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[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (9 children) | Copy

Just know, at first you will be angry, it happens to a lot of men who join. It's natural, but use that to fuel your workouts. Life is about you, a woman (Plate, LTR, Wife) is just an aspect of your life.

The old phrase, happy wife happy life is completely wrong. Women are much more happy when their man has balls and leads the ship. Good luck on your journey and welcome

[–]Leviticus591 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Heh....that's quite a username there.

Anyway, I kinda disagree with the happy wife thing too. That expression is mercilessly bashed here at The Red Pill, but it's kinda true, just in reverse.

O.P., we've all been where you are; utterly gobsmacked at what you've just discovered. Do not try to go from 0 to 100 overnight. Read all the sidebar material on all the related subs, observe yourself, observe the world around you as the scales begin to fall from your eyes, lift, and repeat. You'll go through periodic anger phases, which is normal. Keep after it and you can rebuild.

[–]SexistFlyingPig-1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy

I disagree about the "happy wife happy life" being wrong.

But I 100% agree with the next sentence.

The Blue Pill way of thinking says "make her happy by doing anything and everything she tells you to do" and this makes about as much sense as giving your kid ice cream for breakfast.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Girls have no idea what makes them happy, hell most guys donț eithet

[–]Griever1140 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Griever1141 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I disagree about the "happy wife happy life" being wrong.

Why? Do you live to make your wife happy? Is that your sole purpose in life?

[–]SexistFlyingPig2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't live solely to please my daughter, but if I'm running my ship right, then she's happy.

If she cries because she wanted me to buy her a toy at the store and I didn't, then I probably need to get her down for a nap, not buy her the toy.

[–]ParadoxThatDrivesUs11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm just a few weeks ahead of you. You've just realized that you've been getting your ass kicked in a battle you didn't even know was being fought. Even worse, it's dawning on you that everyone else could see all along what you see now in yourself - like suddenly discovering that you've smelled like shit your whole life but no one told you. It's gonna be a whole new world of self-contempt for a while. My suggestion - start living at the gym.

[–]IASGame5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

My favorite Red Pill content is Rational Male. Have a look at the best of. I think it really helps getting out of the anger phase.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed. A lot of the time anger stems from not understanding. Rollo explains why women are the way they are so clearly. Once you understand them I think a lot of that anger subsides.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

sit back, relax, read through the side bar, and get your butt to the gym.

We have ALL been there and are still dealing with the fall out.

Good morning sunshine. Go to the marriedredpill and theredpill reddit and read those sidebars.

good luck

[–]Trekneck4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good. You're here. Here's a cookie, now GTF to the gym. Sidebar it up, you'll be glad you found this place man.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Welcome to the real world.

[–]Quarter_Century_Club2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lift, read and STFU for the first few months while you digest the material and slowly begin to unplug. The sidebar is your Bible and you should take notes while you plow through it all.


There's going to be A LOT of anger and rage and a temptation at times to go full retard and completely nuke your relationship. That may end up happening but don't be the jackass that does it immediately before even grasping the full scope of your situation. Take your time and use Ask MRP for all your noobs questions. Good luck.

[–]Griever1142 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Few tips:

  • Read the sidebar. When you are done, read it again.

  • Lift, lift, lift, lift some more. When you are working through the angry phase, STFU and lift. You are not prepared for the hamster. Get your shit together.

  • Finished reading? Good, read it AGAIN till you can actualize it.

Rinse and repeat endlessly.

[–]Redpilllife791 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Try to take it slow in your transition. I went to hard to fast and almost messed it all up. Don't make any decisions until you have really thought it out. Find a safe person to talk to about it all. Like everyone else says get to the gym and lift heavy. Pay attention to your wife. Study her. Learn what shit tests are. Watch how she reacts to your responses when you answer the shit test. Try to not take your anger out on her it really isn't her fault. A common rule around here is for progress you can figure a month for every year you have been in beta land. Its not an easy path but we are all on it. Good luck.

[–]ThrowTheEgg0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

What are you going to do next?

[–]The_LitzRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Welcome to your new reality.

My first time I read NMMNG I was also totally floored. I know the feeling.

Take it slowely and lift.

[–]sunfistkid0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The vale has fallen, buddy boy. Keep choppin wood.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just remember as you start this is your battle to change. And you're doing it for you. Don't go running and telling your friends. Do go tell your parents. Definately don't go and tell your wife. The path to walk is for you and you alone.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I've had two major paradigm shifts in my 43 years on this planet.

One was when I lost my religion and became an athiest. The other was finding the red pill.

I forget the exact quote, but something like, "you've always known that something wasn't quite right. And now your eyes have been opened."

Indeed they are!

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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