Recently on MRP were some confusions about shit tests - is the particular situation a shit-test or not?
Below I will present some examples + rationales for shittest or not.
Give me your thoughts and analysis - especially if you disagree.
If you have some good materials about shit/comfort tests - drop a link.
From your point of view I am new here. Some info about me :
- 8 month being aware of TRP
- about 2 month of MRP aware
- anger phase finished
- reality is accepted, now I am trying to mold me and marriage into better forms (previous were good, but I want MORE)
- still lot to learn/do
- MMSLP, Rational Male, NMMNG - finished, WISNIFG - in progress,
- did not have dead bedroom or starfish, - sex 1-3 times per week, but high rejection rate (~50% of hard no) (this was my initial motivator for embracing of TRP/MRP)
even in small doses, this shit(TRP/MRP) works - thx guys
Situation 1A :
Wife is half-sitting/half-lying on bed and holding child in arms after breast-feeding. She tries to sleep child in her arms. She asks with nice tone "could you turn off that bright light".
I need to get up from chair and turn the switch off.
Not a shit-test : She has to get up with baby, which is quite difficult from this position. She cannot just put baby away, cause it is after feeding. Turning light of for me, is 5 seconds, for her, it would be 30 seconds + baby can spit up the milk.
Situation 1B :
Wife is half-sitting/half-lying on bed and watching TV. She asks with nice tone "could you turn off that bright light, please".
I need to get up from chair and turn the switch off. Or she gets up.
shit-test : It is 5 seconds for her, or for me. I am not a fucking servant.
Situation 2A :
Wife is watching TV - and is telling "honey, you need to clean up the bathroom and toilet today"
Ok, this shit needs to be done, like laundry or do dishwasher, - but in this situation it is a clear shit-test - and you should not do this on request. So I am ignoring the request and do something else what I have planned (playing with kid, cleaning sth else, do some handyman working). Even if this is on my duty list (I do not have anything like this, I am doing those duties which I want, and when I want - just getting shit done), and I have missed it, and bathroom is dirty - I acknowledge silently to me that I have fucked up, but even then I will clean it next day.
Situation 2B :
Wife is watching TV - and is telling "honey, you need to clean up the bathroom and toilet today". Wife is after child labour, and is not yet fully operations. She simply cannot do this.
Still shit test. It is a clear command. Reaction like in 2A.
Situation 2C :
Wife is watching TV - and is telling "honey, please, can you clean up the bathroom and toilet today, I cannot do this". Wife is after child labour, and is not yet fully operations. She simply cannot do this.
Not a shit-test. She cannot do this and she asks nicely. I am saying "ok", and I am putting cleaning bathroom and toilet on my daily to-do list. (and of course doing this)
Situation 3A :
I lie in bed. Wife comes naked, "let's have sex". "Ok, come to daddy", "not so fast, you need to scratch my back for 5 minutes".
Gray area for me, not full shit-test, rather something small and irrelevant. Usually I play this "ok, but your hands are going to warm my balls and their colleague" or "ok, but payment will be delivered after transaction" (first sex, second scratching).
Situation 3B :
I lie in bed. Wife comes naked, "let's have sex". "Ok, come to daddy", "not so fast, you need to promise that you will buy me this jewelry/buy new TV".
Shit test alert. She is trying to weaponize sex. Very bad. Here depending on my mood, I am going hardcore "nah, It will be cheaper to hire a hooker for me" or softcore "nah, no jewelry or TV, but you can bring me a beer later if you perform well".
And the last one :
You are in the work. You get a shopping list to do on your way back from work. You know that everyday she does laundry, put dishwasher, take care of child, and lot of other shits. She performs her duty well. Let's assume she is healthy, not-pregnant and not-working.
Not a shit-test - This shit needs to be done - and this is your part of work to have a fully operational family.
EDIT: some formatting