UPDATE 2: Vamp's back. As u/jacktenofhearts suggested, I'm going to get some therapy for myself. I also agreed to couple's counseling, but I'm going to be the one to choose the counsellor. I know that's frowned on here, but any suggestions on how to find a good counsellor would be appreciated. Vamp has agreed to get off Reddit (stop fighting the internet) and start working with me IRL.
UPDATE: We're going out for dinner with the kids in a little while and then Vamp and I are going to have another "talk" We'll see what comes of it.
You may remember me as Whatthel1. I'll just make a long story short. Vamp is leaving. She told me tonight she's realized that she can't make me happy and is letting me go. She packed a bag and went to her brother's.
I fucked up. I did this shit all wrong, and for the wrong reasons. I stupidly expected her to react too quickly to my improvements and then pushed the dread too far. I lost her trust, and It looks like there may be no coming back from that.
Not sure why I'm even posting this, except to admit I fucked up and be an example to others.