[FR] Caveman attempt / finding the wifeslut

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Title [FR] Caveman attempt / finding the wifeslut
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Date 05 January 2016 08:11 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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[–]FearDearg2015Mod / Red Beret8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dude, I love this field report. It reads like a "first world problem". I turned my wife on too much! HELP! Haha. Fucking brilliant.

My advice regarding her sexual desires is to just explore them for yourself. As she gets used to the "new you", maybe she'll open up more, maybe she won't. Stop worrying about her becoming the wife slut and stay focused on you becoming the husband stud.

If she's getting wet like you say she is, then you are definitely tapping into some primal desires for her. She's "into" you, and she wants you to be you. You gotta let this idea of trying to be what she wants out of your system. Focus on being who you want, and if she likes that (she seems to so far) then you will keep having better and better sexual encounters.

To address a specific problem you mentioned : after she came like that, you could have just pulled out and jerked off onto her stomach, or tried a bit of anal, or got a BJ, or whatever the fuck. Also, maybe you've been wanking with a death grip or something?

[–]its-iceman7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

You succeeded in turning her way on, but failed yourself.

First of all, you had a huge success. She was dying for it, and it sounds like you played this game skillfully all the way through. You do what you did here with somewhat regular frequency and it will solve your "tame" issue and her lack of communications when you're making her eyes roll into the back of her head.

Second of all, your lack of enjoyment because she's too excited is probably because you're overthinking the fuck out of everything and by your own admittance still beta. Unless you have other ED/performance anxiety issues, this is you in your head, and probably also not using the right sexual positions to maximize your own enjoyment.

This wasn't "too effective", it was perfectly effective—you need to do it again and get the fuck out of your own head.

[–]jacktenofheartsRed Beret5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

If you want to go "authentically caveman," stop fapping for awhile.

You won't "decide to try caveman," you'll be so backed up you'll just have to take her right then and now.

You'll also probably blow your load a lot more readily.

So, win-win. Give that a try.

I could go into more detail but it just seems like she's keeping her turn ons very secret.

Chances are she was raised in a conservative environment where sexuality was synonymous with "purity," and women having their own conscious agency in their sex lives was anathema.

She clearly liked this dominant caveman move, but her brain would completely shutdown any conscious deconstruction of this. Yeah, it'd be nice if she would say, "you know, you just acted so strong and masculine, and the kids were gone, but the idea they could walk in at any minute, it was terrifying but somehow exciting"... she's just not wired to have those thoughts.

My wife complains I'm this way with food. I grew up in a "working class" environment. When you finish a meal, you get asked, "did you get enough to eat?" In an upper middle class environment, when you finish a meal, you get asked, "did you enjoy the meal?" It is assumed, in that environment, that there is enough quantity of food, so meals are deconstructed based purely on quality.

But for me, meals are literally this binary dichotomy: "tasty / not tasty" and "enough / not enough." That's it. And typically, in a "working class" environment, you basically buy commodity bland foods and sprinkle a shit ton of pepper or condiments or whatever to make it taste decent. Which means you never really appreciate subtle flavors in food, because you're used to those subtle flavors typically tasting like ass so you're pretty much trying to NOT taste it.

So I have no ability to really deconstruct the quality of meat in a fast food hamburger versus a 12 oz fancy steak. It's all just a beef platform to deliver ketchup or steak sauce to my mouth. They're both in the "tasty / enough" quadrant and that's good enough for me. Not to say I don't like a nice meal out, but that's because my opinion of restaurants has nothing to do with food (socializing with friends, service, ambiance, etc).

*SO ANYWAY, this sort of bums my wife out, because, for example, she'll buy a bottle of nice wine, pour us a glass, and... I just can't relate. She goes on about "fruit-forward" and "tannens" and I'll just kind of shrug and say, "yeah, it's pretty good!" She wants to engage on this deconstruction of Why We Like This Wine, and she'd like to use my feedback to inform her on future wine-purchasing decisions, but she can't. I'm just not wired to give her the responses she needs to do that.

Eventually she concluded that I like "really light and airy reds" as well as "heavy and zesty reds," whatever the fuck that means. Which, when you think about it, has a sexual parallel to when I concluded my wife likes "long passionate love-making sessions involving lots of sensual touch and candles and shit," as well as "being bent over and rammed from behind on the kitchen counter in an impromptu manner." Which involved a similar approach of "trying different stuff, getting a binary good/bad response, and essentially triangulate her preferences based on that."

TL;DR: my wife can't get me to tap into my inner wine connoisseur, you can't get your wife to tap into her inner slut. So you may just have to figure out another way to do that.

[–]spexer3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

keep in mind the real possibility that she does not know what she likes - and needs you to lead.

[–]enfier4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wipe your dick off and stick it back in.

[–]The_Blue_Stare2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Can someone post a link to the "create your slut post"?

Also I have had this problem after my gets off. You can try having her put her legs together and you put your legs outside of hers doggy style or missionary.

[–]IASGame0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is also good advice, at least for missionary (I unfortunately don't know for doggy style, but should work similarly). You will get additional stimulation from rubbing your genitals on her legs.

Link, but next time just google MRP and something alluding to the title and you should be able to find it yourself. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3yv50b/creating_your_slut/

[–]chief_slap_ahoe2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sex for a woman is 75% mind, 25% body. You dominated her. She fully gave in and loved it, hence the magnificant BJ later. Keep it up. Put a pillow under her ass and drill for oil. Flip her over, grab her hips and go ball deep while pulling her hair. Their is nothing wrong with her finishing you with her mouth. I think that is more dominate than finishing in her.

Either way you did a great job. Keep it up. GL.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Use your big boy words and tell her what you want. "Babe, clench that pussy up tight for me. Ohh yeah that's it..." You'd be surprised at how you can make it add to the E and I portion of DEVI.

I once fooled around with a girl that did this. She would come and clench so hard it would damn near spit you out. Good old kegal exercises.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

the caveman itself was clearly working wonders for her, but it was going nowhere for me. I mean it was really awful. She was too lose and too wet and I need some stimulation. Any suggestions

LMFAO: My wife was too wet. I can't stop laughing. Holy fuck.

Guys, that is the problem I was talking about when I when I was recently very rude to my wife. I guess nothing makes us happy.

So there is a couple of solutions, and several ways to approach it.

  1. Whisper "Squeeze my hard cock" in her ear during sex. This may be all you need to do.

  2. Use your finger on her g-spot (make a 'come here motion with your finger inside her) until she cums. Make her squirt. Then wipe her off with a towel before going to town.

  3. Put your finger inside her and tell her you are going to play the squeeze game. Teach her how to contract and squeeze your finger. Then get her practicing 20-30 reps several time a day (every time she goes pee is a good rhythm).

  4. If she is that turned on, after getting slicked up it may be time to take the muddy highway. Don't stop cavemanning but do go a bit slower....

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

so two issues that I see:

1 ) wife is too wet / too loose : the answer here is probably not to turn down the attraction. Talk to some of the older guys, but kegel exercises etc may help. Also try different positions etc.

2) - wife doesn't talk about sex / desires --- So? unless she sulks and is a complete bitch when you do something she doesn't like and she is not able to communicate with more than "never never" it shouldn't be an issue. Just do things you like, and if she doesn't like it, try not to do it if it is a hard no for her, but do try to eventually get there / stimulate her into that action if that act is something you truly want.

[–]its-iceman-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

OP is not in a position to suggest his wife exercises her pussy. At this stage in the game, I'd go for positions.

[–]midlifedick0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

So, when red pill started working for me, the sex got a little more frequent. I had a similar issue where wife would be real wet and real loose. I was bummed, too. When it was time to end things, I started asking her to make a ring around my cock with her hand, and she would hold it up against her so I could kinda fuck her "ring" and her puss as I doggy styled it. Worked like a charm.

More frequent sex will tighten things up.

Here's the thing, as I started developing muscles and losing weight, she got her ass to the gym too. She started eating healthier and losing some ell bees. One of the things she did was start with one of those gay aerobic group classes at the gym and it includes some yoga stretching. The lead instructor is some cougar that added in poses for the cooch and encouraged kegels. Thanks anonymous sex cat! My wife was telling me about it and I made a big deal about how much that turned me on and I love her tight little pussy, really love the feel and I'm gonna personally thank that old lady,etc. She loves to squeeze and show of for me now. Win.Win.

[–]0io-0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like she got what she wanted. Follow up immediately with doing it however you want. Nothing wrong with changing gears. Tell her to do exactly what you want.

[–]IASGame0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Congrats on the success.

In my experience, coming out and re-entering a few times will help you dry out a bit.

Also, is the lateral position you are talking about woman on top? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lateral_coital_position

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Butt plug for her. Fills up that area and gives a tighter feel. SGM can help you introduce this, as well as a few good reddit posts out there.

[–]AnarchoSurfer0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Might want to try jelqing a few times a week it will give you much better erections. Its pretty mindblowing, I never had any problems with erections but it put me into a new level of hardness.



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