So, i'm about to leave for a few days, went to bed but she was still working. Wanted some good-bye sex, went to her "come, let's 'cuddle' a bit". She glazed over the screen made a face and said she really cant. I simply said it was ok, turned around and left.
She came to me all upset that I was making drama, that she really feels sick (which i didn't know to that point, but she sounded like she had sore throat), and that i'm makindg drama.
i simply said i didn't, to which she just continued blah blah blah yes you did, tipurn around and leave, blah blah boah. I stoped her and said I had no clue what she was talking about.
At which point she left, saying in process how bad she feels and what I did. I said nothing.
I felt bad because she'll be alone with kid for some time and being sick really sucks in that situation. I took some home remedies went to bedrom and told her what to do to fight it. She thanked and all, but frankly, suddenly she didn't seem all that sick (i could be wrong here). She went to bed and here i am.
Edit: I used 'cuddle' as a bad translation of what i used in our language, but rest assured, she knew exactly what i came for. It really was more along the lines 'come, let's do it'
today she really exploded. But in a fucked up way. I'll try to make it short. I'm flying out tonight. I had to pack etc, then I had to go to a pharmacy to get some painkillers before I leave. Now, where I live, most pharmacies are closed Saturday afternoon, so I had to locate one which was opened. You need to know my wife had plans in the afternoon, which I knew of, but here timeframe was "when kid wakes up". So I went, but I forgot my phone at home. Big mistake. I'm new to the city, I don't know where things are, so I was heading to a wrong one. Fuck. Closed. No phone, no way to check where to go. Had to go home. Came home, I hear kid is not woken up, grab phone, drive to the next pharmacy. Google says it's 11 minutes. It took me bloody long time, every traffic light was red god damn. Finally find it, get a message from her: Her:"Fly safely" Me: "I'd like to say goodbye to the kid" Her:"When do you come back" Me:"When I get to the counter and drive back" Her:"1 hour, 2 hours? We are waiting outside" Me:"I'm at (place she knows), I'm next, then i drive home" Ok, got the damn drugs, speed home. Now all hell broke lose. It's clear what the problem is from the messages, right? Well I guess it is to women. It's not to me. So I come home "you only think about yourself, I wanted to go (someplace), blah blah blah, you could have said goodbye earlier, blah blah blah, crying, screaming". I was confused, shocked, and realised it's really bad. I just said "insted of screaming, go there, fast". Her:"Her:"why, to just catch half an hour (my guess is it only lasted 1 hour alltogether anyway), blah blah blah, can you at least take us to a train station" Me:"I really can't, I'm running late myself" (true, I would have been late, I managed to barely make it to my train on my own). Her:"You bastard, crying, whining, screaming, you fucked me over" Me: "Enough! Stop it!" Her:"Who are you to tell me to shut up, blah blah blah". I didn't argue or try to do anything more about it, really. Nothing could have been saved at that point. Yes, I did screw up. It's pointless to ask her, but fuck, she could have told me by sms "I need to be there and then, what can we do". She didn't even try, she just setup an ambush for me to fall into and then blamed me. So here I am at the airport, without a proper goodbye from my wife, some feelings of guilt. I don't know if it makes sense to reply anything to her. You can't win by logic anyway. What sucks is that she's between me and the kid. Kid is too small to be able to use phone/skype on its own.