Hey guys,

Backstory: I'm early 30s, gf is mid 20s, been together 10 years. Been on this red pill train for over a year

So here's my situation, my gf likes to pinch and poke at my skin sometimes, claiming she's popping pimples or poking out bumps on my skin. She usually engages in this behavior when she is anxious about something and we're about to go to bed. She's been getting therapy for her anxiety and things have gotten better but her emotions still get the best of her sometimes. She also does the same thing to her own skin when she is having anxiety. The problem is that with her nails and shit, it can really fucking hurt sometimes. Like little pinchers just going to town on my skin. I don't know if she does it as hard to herself as she does me, but that doesn't really matter.

Back in my blue pill days, I would basically lay there complaining about it until she stopped then act all pouty and butthurt for the rest of the day like a pathetic little bitch, it was disgusting. Now I just growl at her and push her away or throw her across the bed or whatever when I want her to stop, it's all in good fun and no more butthurt and we'll wrestle and makeout and every thing is good.

My question isn't how do I get her to stop, that part is easy. I'm bigger and stronger than her, it's not hard and if it was really an issue I would just lay down the law. My question is what is driving this behavior and is my response to it appropriate?

My theory is that she is feeling anxious about whatever in her life and is testing me to see how much pain I can take so she'll know I'm strong and tough and all that, so I typically lay there and take it and act like I can't feel anything even though it hurts like shit, then just grab her whenever I'm over it and we mess around. I guess like some kind of fitness test. On the other hand though, maybe by sitting there and letting her poke away at me, I'm being a beta bitch by letting her do it and should just start throwing her around right away before she even starts. There's no negative or mean feelings behind it as far as I can tell, she just gets anxious and starts poking at me after she's run out of her own skin to poke at. I know it's kind of a silly question and I'm probably over thinking it, but I just need to know if anyone else experiences similar behaviors from their women, or if I'm the only one, and if you do, how do you handle it?

Thanks.