Well after a confrontation a couple of weeks ago about everything going on in our marriage, things have not gotten better except for my attitude about it. I've resolved that if things end then I'm okay with it and have even begun taking steps to move on if necessary. She's also aware of that. Dread Level is at about 9 or 10 depending on the day. She actually asked me to stay in a hotel for a few days and I outright refused.
However, I'm not cheating and she thinks due to the improvement I have been doing that I am. In fact, she outright accused me of it today. In her words, the improvement to myself and doing things like lifting more, manscaping, reading books like Models and 48 Laws of Power is directly correlated to teaching me how to go out and have an affair. While I blew it off and used amused mastery one thing that I was wondering about is how to directly approach it. For example, she seems to be concerned about it yet is doing absolutely nothing to prevent it.
I'm astounded at the fact that while she seems to be really upset about what is going on she has done absolutely nothing to change herself or the situation. I've confronted her on several issues but her only response is that she deals with our kids all day, wants to go to counselling and isn't emotionally attracted to me at all.
Are there any MRPers who have gotten to this stage and come out of the other end still married? Or is it time to really prepare for Dread Level 12? I'm starting to wrap my head around it.