My wife and I have been struggling in the bedroom for a while due to kids and other issues. She's been doing well at providing services in other ways but still not as frequent as I would like and comfort tests are constant. She's expressed that she feels completely disconnected emotionally and that makes it hard to be physically attracted.
Now she's contracted more than one condition since the birth of our second child eight months ago resulting in sex being off the table completely for the past three months and after her appointment yesterday for at least another three. She also has zero sex drive because of child and discomfort.
So what would married red pill do in this situation? Back off completely and let her heal and provide comfort while you continue to work hard on yourself? That's what I'm inclined to do at this stage. It will give me months to keep applying things to myself and improve without having any conflict hopefully.
Edit: some more context for those who responded. This is definitely medical (I've seen the rash myself, it is ugly) and she's been to more than one doc, this final one finally seems to help because she's an actual gyno.
I am concerned that she's not interested in me sexually, she claims that this is because of emotional reasons. She's never had a good libido throughout her life because she had sexual trauma (rape) at a young age. I'm also exploring if this is a relationship I even want to be in because beta me wanted the other sides of things (kids, house, family, stability) but now that I'm exploring who I am those desires have changed.