I'll keep this as brief as possible. I'm 39, she's 34. Together 12 years, married 5, some kids. Used to have a deadbedroom but now we get it on regularly.
Her: She's always been attractive but over the past while she's really maxed-out her body. I encouraged her to go to the gym with me a couple of years ago. At first she hated it but she got addicted surprisingly quickly. She's tight and toned, with visible abs and a great ass. Everyone in the gym is in awe of her, as she's a smoking hot working mother who smashes every session. On top of that, she's an awesome cook, great mother, hard worker, cool to hang out with and lots more. In the past six months, she's received a comment almost every day about how good she looks, how fit she is, how impressive she is in the gym (from other gym-goers) or how great she is at doing stuff - cooking, work, whatever. So, her SMV is pretty high. She's at least a genuine, objective 8 and everyone else in the world reminds her of it all the time. In tandem with her becoming really hot, she started opening up a bit more in the bedroom. She always had (pretty much unfounded) body image issues but now she 'feels like she looks sexy'. She's been giving me lapdances and strip-shows at my request and it's awesome. She moves sexier, is louder during sex and eye-fucks me etc. We do it between 3 and 7 times a week.
So why am I posting here?
Me: I'm tall, good job and moderately successful in competitive sports. I've always been in good shape... until about one year ago. Got a new job with a long-ass commute and long hours. As a result, I didn't make time to get to the gym anywhere near as much as I used to (big mistake). I'd say I'm a 6. I also drink too much - not binge drinking... 'consistent drinking' (a few beers/some wine 4+ nights a week). I got past some early-years uber-betaness myself, which turned around the deadbedroom situation. I've always been good at not taking her shit, and she has told me that she respects me because of it. I've a long way to go but I kinda thought everything was pretty rosy, considering the sex on tap with a hot wife.
Last Week: The gym threw a party and she went. I didn't (had something else on). Chad McRipped-but-actually-a-cool-guy did. He's like the best at gymming in the gym, while she's the top girl. The next day, she was filling me in. She was talking to lots of people and mentioned him a lot. No biggie and it was all part of the various stories. After a break in talking of about 15 mins, she says: "At one point I was talking to someone and Chad walked over, put his hand on my back and said 'Oh, Mandy'". And that was the entire story - there was no point to it and it wasn't remotely interesting. But something was off. The way she said it. I got the sense that she liked it. More: the fact that she said it made me think she simply wanted to mention him. She was thinking about him. She got tingles in that moment and liked replaying it in her head, so she wanted to replay it verbally. (Or was it a shit test?) There's been a couple of other moments like this, with other Chads. It's small, body language stuff that I could definitely be accused of over-analysing but my gut says something's up.
Questions: I thought I was kicking ass, despite allowing my SMV to drop, because my wife got her shit together in pretty much every area. She's a High Value Woman.
I was wrong, wasn't I? Has anyone else been in a similar situation? If so, what can I expect?
Following the above, if she's already planning to swing to another branch, how long do I realistically have here? I've already sorted out some work stuff so I can get to the gym and lift again. I'd say I'm 3-6 months away from matching her SMV.